are you stressed and over worked?

I was in a job last year that I'd turned down once and always regretted it, so when it came back up again I went for it. It should have been my dream job really and there was a lot to like about the job and love about the organisation. There is a lot of pioneering going on and their growth is fantastic if maybe a bit too fast for their own good.

I was the sole systems administrator for 5 businesses and educational establishments coming under 1 umbrella company. I was on 28.5k and had very little support above or sideways, my direct manager understood very little about what my job technically entailed. The upper management above me were probably best described as bullies. The department was constantly in crunch mode and there was very little consideration for staff well-being. For the first time in my working life I had to take time off due to panic attacks and anxiety caused by work. I learned a hell of a lot but always said when that learning dried up it was definitely time to move on.

I had enough of being overworked/underpaid/not respected and left for a job a recruiter got in touch about, 9K pay rise but a rough, expensive commute, I just needed to get out of that place though, it wasn't going to get better and it was a huge payrise.

The job isn't really what was in the brochure though, I'm back doing a lot of 1st/2nd line stuff with a sprinkling of 3rd / infrastructure work, they seem to be paying me that 38k almost as a retainer if they do need that knowledge/experience. Now I am often pretty bored and unmotivated by the work I am doing, add that to long days and commutes, it is really making me dread getting up in the morning. Ironically I would have loved a hybrid job like that at my last place if there were support from above with someone to learn from, maybe there is just no pleasing me.

Not sure what to do now, I feel like I'm done with IT and often feel not far away from jacking it all in, I'm already moving back in with my folks to knuckle down and get my debts sorted. The debt is probably the only thing stopping me along with a lack of other career prospects.
 
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You will reach financial independence quicker if you delay paying off your mortgage. People in the UK have this weird obsession with paying it off without having done the calculations on the alternatives.

Once your other investments grow enough you can pay off your mortgage on one go if you really want to, at an earlier point than overpaying the mortgage.

Thing is many don't have other investments. Its only mortgage (if they can get one) pension and nothing else. Which is something what comes from the Boomer generation way of thinking.
 
You will reach financial independence quicker if you delay paying off your mortgage. People in the UK have this weird obsession with paying it off without having done the calculations on the alternatives.

Once your other investments grow enough you can pay off your mortgage in one go if you really want to, at an earlier point than overpaying the mortgage.

It's an interesting one (no pun intended, honest) and I've been giving it a lot of thought lately.

Any alternative investment is not guaranteed to be enough, you could end up with less than you put in.

What is guaranteed however is the mortgage interest you won't be paying if you clear your mortgage off early.

You have on one hand the option to overpay by say £300 a month for 10 years, pay the mortgage off 7 years early and save £15,000 in mortgage interest (at current interest rates). Then on the other hand you could invest that £300 each month for 10 years, hopefully make a profit, pay capital gains tax on that profit and STILL be paying the mortgage interest while your investments were simmering. Of course that monthly investment could be worth way more than your mortgage and any interest you may have paid, or it could be just enough to pay your gas bill in 2040.

I'd love to work it out in spreadsheet and plot the best approach but the crystal ball I bought from Amazon doesn't seem to be working :D.
 
Been off work for a few weeks now and have focussed on health and wellbeing. Have committed to meditation, doing more exercise and working out what I want to do next. I want to build my resilience back up again. It's easy just to "keep carrying on" but you get worn down and risk doing damage to yourself and those around you. Fortunately I was in a reasonable financial position so as not to be destitute after a few months not earning. I feel better, anxiety coming under better control. Getting fitter and less grumpy but still edgy so work to do.

I'd think many people are in jobs where they "keep carrying on" especially those with families/big mortgages where they can't afford to go for a lower salary/less stressful job.
 
Have committed to meditation, doing more exercise

This is something everyone should be doing, especially with stressful jobs. I've been working out since I was 18, I'm 37 this year. It helps me so much mentally I cannot recommend it enough. I also meditate but not as much as I should, I have a year sub to Headspace.
 
This is something everyone should be doing, especially with stressful jobs. I've been working out since I was 18, I'm 37 this year. It helps me so much mentally I cannot recommend it enough. I also meditate but not as much as I should, I have a year sub to Headspace.
I have a personal trainer coming to my house twice a week to train me. I am 55 this year and need to be fitter.
 
These days I actually wonder what I'm working for. Things have really gone down the toilet in the past 10 years there is just nothing, its kinda hard to put it into words but everything is dead today. Thankfully I'm not struggling and I can afford to pay my bills and eat and have money to buy stuff mainly from ebay because all the shops have either gone or don't sell what I want. Life was very different little more than 12 years ago.
 
Nope love my job, never a rush on anything always given what we need, well looked after.
The whole human factors and no blame culture makes for a very stress free relaxed environment.
Feeling tired and not performing then you go home early or go for a quick walk.
 
Very similar to my situation, and dare I say it, a lot of others. I do wonder if good workers are taken advantage of, as I guess it's easier to pile on work to those able to do it, rather than address those who can't/won't.

Totally this. And this is one of the reasons I have decided enough is enough and to do something about it.

I'm currently signed off with various, work related health issues: I've got high blood pressure, headaches, anxiety, all brought on by work and management's lack of support. We're a team of six, but only three of us (Inc me) know and do the job fully. Consequently, we're the ones that every one goes to and we get more and more work piled on us, whilst the other three literally sit on their phones.

Management are aware, but are incompetent and impotent, and its easier to ignore and let us carry the department, so nothing ever gets done about it.
 
I'm not as I do less hours than I used to but, I really feel for a lot of people at my place of work, some big companies are really overworking their workforce and it makes no sense. There is some really bad practises at play in large companies, I often wonder how they get away with it.
 
Might be a very common advise, but start meditating. I'm into IT as well and after the work hours barely get any time for myself. I've stated using meditation as a superpower now. WHenever I'm anxious or have a lot of work to be processed, I meditate for a few minutes and the brain just releases all the stress and empties itself.
 
Op - I feel for you. Lifes too short, I would be reassessing my options namely if you feel comfortable raising your concerns with your superiors I would do so, or like me I left with my head held high.
 
ive been on sick nearly 6 months ,life stress was affecting my work and molehills at work were becoming mountains ,another good reason to be mortgage free as you have to be able to look after your mental heath
Couldn't remember this thread ,back at work now but 30 hours so Fridays added on to the weekend and early finish on the rest ,it wasn't my job that stressed me ,more the time it was taking out of my life to look after my mental heath
 
Generally no, even though I have stressful spells of one or more weeks at a time. I think it's because work used to consume my time and i never felt I had enough tome to myself, so I dropped to 4 days work only, and couldn't be happier. In addition, since Covid, we have implemented flexible working and whilst my work and home life is intertwined between 9 and 6, i am happy i can fit in boring stuff like laundry during work hours, or shopping/swimming at lunchtime so that my weekends and evenings are clear to do what i want to do for fun. I still do all my hours and deliver oj all my deadlines too. I ended training to become a Mental Health First Aider last year, so I now promote steps do stress at work and there to listen to staff.
 
I've moved from industry (R&D) to a position at a University. It's chalk and cheese, so not stressed / overworked here. The most stressful part is the commute.
 
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Love my job too.

I can be hard at times and I'd probably like more wage (who wouldn't?) but for the levels of stress (or lack thereof) I like the balance it gives me.
 
A bit late to the party but something to think about.

Lets say you come home from work and as you walk through the door of your home, you drop dead. What would happen in your office?
For me and I'm guessing for most people, your current projects would be distributed amongst your colleagues, the company would have an ad out for your replacement by the end of the week and your desk would be scavenged for any nice equipment.
If your lucky your family might get a card and flowers.

There are multiple conclusions you can draw from this but relating to the OPs question, is your health really worth it for that?
 
I've done time working in highly-stressed, highly-paid work....very much a mindset of "we're paying you loads of money, so you'll work as much we tell you to, that's the deal".

Maybe worth it for a short stint if you've got debts to pay off, but definitely not worth it long term.

Comfortable salary + interesting work is where it's at. No job is without stress though, but there are plenty of ways to manage it. Getting decent sleep is the #1!
 
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