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Yes but it's still disruptive. Anyway he said he'd sort it before Christmas, don't see the issue really. Better to redo the fence than let it break by construction.
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Yes but it's still disruptive. Anyway he said he'd sort it before Christmas, don't see the issue really. Better to redo the fence than let it break by construction.
Yes but I’m not in control of other people on the job in terms of dragging them here to get it done quicker, also waiting for materials have been a nightmare.
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Anyway construction is disruptive and we only have 1 side of the story. So I'll concede it's hard to know really the full picture. However if the OP is as polite and amenable as he suggests then I think it's just grumpy neighbour syndrome. It would suck to be stuck with building works for a couple of years I do accept that. But he's not in control of the situation, with labour and material shortages and issues. A lot of extensions often take longer than people anticipate.
What would you suggest the OP to have differently?
What would you suggest the OP to have differently?
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She also shares half the fence why should I take all the costs when she basically owns half also ? Out of good will that’s why I’m doing it said it would be done after Christmas
"There's more to life than your own world other people have their worlds to look after. Generally if you have a good relationship you just take it on the chin."
More to life than the OPs world. And he certainly ain't taking it on the chin.
These works have also been going on for far longer than a few months.
He's been doing it for nine months though...
Yes but I didn’t have 130k in my bank account to throw at it. I’ve got to work to fund it.
I mean you could have saved the money before you started. Or scaled down the works...
Sorry, but I think your neighbour is running rings around you and you don't even know it. She's getting goodies from you, she patronises you when she speaks to you and she's also probably jealous of the work you're getting done.
I'd bet that she's telling her daughters what's going on and they are the ones acting on behalf of their mum, if not at least advising her. I suppose I might do the same for my mum if I thought she was suffering prolonged building works.
I'd bet that she's telling her daughters what's going on and they are the ones acting on behalf of their mum, if not at least advising her. I suppose I might do the same for my mum if I thought she was suffering prolonged building works.
Why when I can make money! But stupid that.
I'm honestly confused how you can make money with your lingual skills and complete lack of forward thinking on display but I'll explain...
Because it would have meant the build was completed in a shorter space of time minimising disruption to yourself and your neighbours.
Maybe starting a £130k redevelopment project wasn't the best idea in the world then?
Seen this sort of nonsense time and again. Drags on and on and on because the finances to complete weren't in place.
Wouldn't be surprised if this poor old woman is still putting up with building nuisance next Christmas, all the while you feel like you're doing her a favour not making her pay half to replace a fence you decided to take down.
I’m not really sure the point in your thread then, you seem to understand that she is annoyed by the work going on and that it is unavoidable as work drags out that relationships will become strained! Just do the best you can to manage it and ignore the complaints as best you can. I landed up pressure washing my neighbours back yard daily when we had builders in just to end the daily complaint about tiny amounts of mud. Remember you are getting a nice house out of this your neighbours are getting nothing and probably don’t like the idea of looking at your finished extension let alone the mess while you are building it.
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Sort building work out £10K. Dig deep hole in front of old ladies back door and fill with water £200. Need I say more?
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Put yourself in her shoes, you're living next to a building site for almost a year with an unsecure back garden and now rain is coming down your wall. I think at that point I would be at my limit of neighbourly kindness and start scrutinizing anything that is having an impact on my quality of life.
Get a grip of your building site.
Get a grip of your building site.
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Probably because you needed it removed for your renovations. Unless the fence was in a state of disrepair why would you expect her to foot half the bill to replace something that wasn't broken, when you where the one who took it down?
Um, what? Didnt you say you had to take it down to do the work though?
This and sort out her grievances.
Round here no work starts before 08:00 so she is right to complain, we all would. Do you have a third party wall agreement with her?
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If I've understood correctly the OP has spoken to the neighbours and has tried to appease them when things went awry which often happens in construction projects.
I do conceded and appreciate how annoying and disruptive construction can be but from the sounds of it, it's not been 24/7 banging and crashing from what I understand bar one day when it's been at 7am which I accept isn't right.
Ripping the OPs finances to pieces isn't really for us to do as we don't know the situation. Should have and would have doesn't really help the situation.
Is the OP right to whinge about his neighbour? Probably not considering the protracted length of the project. Is the neighbour entitled to whinge? Of course we all like to whinge when our lives are disrupted.
Ultimately there's no way for us to help the OP that hasn't already been said and it seems he's doing all the right things to try and minimise the tension. It doesn't sound to me that the OP is being particularly unfair, the situation sucks for both parties (i.e. construction taking longer, neighbours being disrupted) but ultimately there's not much that can be done about speeding up the project or reducing the disruption other than friendly relationship management.
I do conceded and appreciate how annoying and disruptive construction can be but from the sounds of it, it's not been 24/7 banging and crashing from what I understand bar one day when it's been at 7am which I accept isn't right.
Ripping the OPs finances to pieces isn't really for us to do as we don't know the situation. Should have and would have doesn't really help the situation.
Is the OP right to whinge about his neighbour? Probably not considering the protracted length of the project. Is the neighbour entitled to whinge? Of course we all like to whinge when our lives are disrupted.
Ultimately there's no way for us to help the OP that hasn't already been said and it seems he's doing all the right things to try and minimise the tension. It doesn't sound to me that the OP is being particularly unfair, the situation sucks for both parties (i.e. construction taking longer, neighbours being disrupted) but ultimately there's not much that can be done about speeding up the project or reducing the disruption other than friendly relationship management.