Extension neighbour nightmare

Old people quite often fixate on things and get grumpy. Family members often pander to their whinging and validate it and make it much worse. The things people with else in their lives end up fixating on are quite amazing. Just crack on and she will either be fine after its done or you will have made a frail enemy but one with lots of time on her hands. :)
 
Smokey Deza said:
He can't 'crack on', he doesn't have the required capital at hand :rolleyes:
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Yes I do theres only the kitchen flat roof to go on now which will be getting done in 1 - 2 weeks then the building his wind and water tight. All scaffolding down looks like any other house then
 
baz178 said:
Also gave me a **** at the end of our conversation haha
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Seriously though, I am glad that you've both sorted things out like adults. Perhaps ask if she needs any building work she would consider at mates rates, by means of a goodwill gesture for all that's been going on. Just pray she doesn't ask for a two story extension. :D
 
VincentHanna said:
To be fair to the lady, builders aren't generally supposed to start until 8 a.m.

So if your man started at 7 a.m. one day to suit himself, that would be somewhat annoying

It happened to us when our neighbour did their extension and I just let it go because it was a one off and I tend to be up early anyway.

Is the house detached? Semi? Quite a lot of noise can travel through a semi-detached wall.
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8am really??

Dis86 said:
Tbh it does sound like she genuinely has issues there caused by your works.
It's irrelevant, for example, that the plasterer has to finish early. The law is clear regarding working hours.
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Yep, Usually not before 7:30 or after 18:00. Most are in the pub by 16:30 anyhow


Dis86 said:
I mean you could have saved the money before you started. Or scaled down the works...
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Yep. Save up and spend even more than you have too. Building costs have gone through the roof. If the OP had waited it could have cost him 25% extra or more
 
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Smokey Deza said:
You said earlier today that you don't have the money...If you want to get upset about something, think of the distress and misery you've brought to that poor old lady.
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Not to finish the kitchen inside but I can do that at my leisure! No law in that
 
as someone who has had a lot of building works over the last decade I can sympathise with OP, but also the neighbour. it is a balancing act for sure and I am sure there were mutterings under the breath of my neighbours from time to time about me.
All you can do is do your best to be fair and if you cross the line the odd time apologise which OP seems to have done.
I do think the neighbour moaning to council is going to far but then we are only getting one half of the story.
the only time mine almost got out of hand..... when I put in for our rear conservatory (almost orangery) we knew it would take some light from their conservatory so had a chat about it. the only stipulation they asked was we had glass on our overlooking wall above 6 feet to let light through. this was agreed via a handshake (and nearly got our planning refused because of it).
one day whilst I was at work my builder took it upon himself to change the plan and built the wall to roof height. my neighbour greeted me at my door when I got home . he was mid 80s and I was genuinely worried he was going to give himself a heart attack such was his rage.
it all calmed down once I got the builder to knock it back down to the agreed 6 feet.
 
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bigmike20vt said:
as someone who has had a lot of building works over the last decade I can sympathise with OP, but also the neighbour. it is a balancing act for sure and I am sure there were mutterings under the breath of my neighbours from time to time about me.
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I think you are right. This sort of situation is absolutely standard with building. People get very funny indeed when it comes to building and especially boundaries. It's the norm and just be prepared to give way a little on some things to keep the peace.
 
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Yeah, building work is a lot of upheaval for neighbours with absolutely zero upside, people think that just getting them to say it's OK at face value is all you need, and we all know that is never the case..

Really some form of compensation based on impact would be useful if made part of the planning.. but it'd need to be sensible, however, people will spend £30-£150k on a side extension and quibble over say £500 compensation..
 
I’ve been nothing but nice to both my neighbours, I’ve built the other one a wall at 7ft costing me around 6k out of my own money and when the scaffolding his down on my other neighbours side the fence will be erected can’t really get fairer than that.
 
baz178 said:
and when the scaffolding his down on my other neighbours side the fence will be erected can’t really get fairer than that.
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The fence you took down to build your extension!
At least buy her some flowers or something when it's done.
 
baz178 said:
I’ve been nothing but nice to both my neighbours, I’ve built the other one a wall at 7ft costing me around 6k out of my own money and when the scaffolding his down on my other neighbours side the fence will be erected can’t really get fairer than that.
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Cant afford your own extension meaning it drags on and on, spends £6k on neighbours wall. Makes sense.
 
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