Are you afraid of death?

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Not afraid of death, but I am afraid of what will happen with my kids. Sounding morbid, I often think as I walk my 3 kids (3,6,9) to school every morning, what if I just drop dead now? what the hell will my kids do? They should know their way home or to school or fingers crossed, alert someone to help them. I should really tell my kids how to use my bloody phone.

So, no, death can do one, just look after my kids.
 
It was funny, sad and strange reading through this thread after 14 years. @Blackvault I'm truly sorry about your dad. Your post today moved me, and has been in my head ever since. My exchange with him earlier in the thread all those years ago has made me smile, and he seemed like a nice chap.

After fourteen years (since the OP), my overall stance hasn't changed. I'm back with the Catholic/apostolic church now though. I'm older, more conservative, more open to ideas and less rebellious, more personally accountable etc etc. Death is still an unwelcome but non-threatening visitor to me, though the amount of funerals my wife and I attend is increasing with every year we age.
 
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It was funny, sad and strange reading through this thread after 14 years. @Blackvault I'm truly sorry about your dad. Your post today moved me, and has been in my head ever since. My exchange with him earlier in the thread all those years ago has made me smile, and he seemed like a nice chap.

After fourteen years (since the OP), my overall stance hasn't changed. I'm back with the Catholic/apostolic church now though. I'm older, more conservative, more open to ideas and less rebellious, more personally accountable etc etc. Death is still an unwelcome but non-threatening visitor to me, though the amount of funerals my wife and I attend is increasing with every year we age.
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Thanks for the kind words @Rainmaker. Seeing his post has moved me today, and I can't shift it from my thoughts.
 
I'm scared of a painful death - losing your mind, body withering away, gasping for breath, must be terrifying.

I don't believe for one second there is anything 'after' - we live, we die. Wifey and many others talk about life after etc, if that's their coping mechanism or their actual belief, then that's up to them. For me, live life now, because there is no NG+.
 
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A few years ago I was taken into hospital and to cut a long story short was told they were needing to stop and restart my heart. As they proceeded to wire me up to the defib machine etc I remember just thinking, wow, this could be it, game over and then, ok lets do this. Wasn't scared, just in awe of the fact the end could be here. Fortunately for me it was not my time!
 
I'm not afraid of death, but as others have said the manner in which it happens is what concerns me. Dementia runs rife in both my mother and father's sides of the family, and I've seen first hand the pain and suffering it causes, not just for the afflicted. All I can hope is that euthanasia becomes a legal option in the 20-30 years I hopefully have before it encroaches on me. I can't bear, even now, thinking about being that much of a burden to any one who's unlucky enough to be responsible for my care.
 
I'm more afraid of the bit before death. Often pain and suffering with assisted dying illegal.

Scared of losing my mind/independence.

As I'm sure many of us would, I'd love to be instant killed and not see it coming.

I'm also afraid of worsening mental health. My mum is bad and the same traits are very very much in me.

I'd be lying to say I'm not afraid of death. But I'm far more afraid of ending up in many others position on deaths door.
 
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Scared of losing my mind/independence.
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You wouldn't know though because you lost your mind. It is the pain of those still alive that is the issue. In a way it is a good way to go because one minute you remember and the next you don't.

It sucks for your immediate family however big time.
 
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A few years ago I was taken into hospital and to cut a long story short was told they were needing to stop and restart my heart. As they proceeded to wire me up to the defib machine etc I remember just thinking, wow, this could be it, game over and then, ok lets do this. Wasn't scared, just in awe of the fact the end could be here. Fortunately for me it was not my time!
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That's an interesting story. I've been under anaesthetic a few times but I can't say I've had similar thoughts as I went under. Fair play to you with that attitude as they got your ready. To quote the Ramones, "Hey Ho Let's Go!"
 
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You wouldn't know though because you lost your mind. It is the pain of those still alive that is the issue. In a way it is a good way to go because one minute you remember and the next you don't.

It sucks for your immediate family however big time.
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It really does. My grandad had a bit of dementia. But the drugs did wonders.

But to know you're slipping away.

I just hope that in future assisted dying will be legal.
 
If you are afraid of death then you must be scared of sleep.

It's essentially the same thing, time skips but you don't wake up.

The only scary part will be the life ebbing away from your body and shutting down,.

I'm guessing literally 0 people have died peacefully in their sleep, unless they were sedated or in a coma.


Probably better to be scared of it not being "natural" and your time being taken from you by another's actions.


A better question would be "if you could know when you are going to die, would you want to know, and what would you do differently with the time between now and then?" presumably it would be atleast a few decades away



IF everyone lived life assuning the retirement age was the age of death, then people would live more with less time.
 
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I don't think I'm afraid of death, only afraid of pain associated with it.

Of course, there is the part of me that is "what if God is real" and I had ignored it etc. If there isn't a God.. then... it doesn't mean anything, and I'm just meat/space dust to be recycled.
 
I always thought the answer was no, it still is to a degree.
But as said, it's the way that you die that would be more scary.

I had covid which led to double pneumonia, not nice with asthma either.
It was the inability to breathe normally that duffed me up the most, it felt like being suffocated while awake.

The hospital food was nice though
 
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I believe full loss of bodily functions and a bad smell is one of the associations and no one goes with dignity.

If gods real you never needed to worship him, or visit a church anyway.
Just be a good person
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Depends if the 'real' god, is the god of war though ;) lol

I'm going to die at some point, I just hope it's when I'm old.
 
No - You might delay it living a healthy but everyone has date with destiny - why live your life in fear .

Is relgion a mass delusion of the afterlife? For me it certainly is as i'm about a big an atheists as can be . When you die you die there is nothing, my spirit and memories live on with my kids.

Anyhow in the meantime where's the Gin.
 
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Not afraid of death, it's just like before you were born - nothing. However I do fear a long drawn out death from an illness/cancer where I deteriorate and my family have to witness it or some freak accident where I end up as a vegetable or lose my mind but still alive.
 
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Not afraid of death, it's just like before you were born - nothing. However I do fear a long drawn out death from an illness/cancer where I deteriorate and my family have to witness it or some freak accident where I end up as a vegetable or lose my mind but still alive.
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Seeing it happen to my partners mum makes the campaign for assisted dying an essential for me.
Never seen anything so grim. Worse than my grandparents just dying of pretty much old age. (they faded out)
 
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Is relgion a mass delusion of the afterlife? For me it certainly is as i'm about a big an atheists as can be . When you die you die there is nothing, my spirit and memories live on with my kids.
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The promise of an eternal paradise in afterlife must be one of the first forms of social control, the odds are 50/50 there is or isn't something, no proof either way.
 
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