RSR will, no doubt, have a much better understanding and knowledge than myself. But, from what I understand, getting decent QVL noted memory, a decent board, an ounce or two of understanding, and then the last part, an amount of luck on your side as to the memory controller of the CPU can all go to determine what you are able to get when going beyond what Intel set as their maximum supported.
Assuming, of course, that same understanding applies to the ArL as it did to their previous gen(s).
Not too long ago I remember having any form of stability at 8000, albeit RL, was considered exceptional.
I take it you do not have MemTest86 baked into your MB..? For me it is there under the Tool section and can be ran from within the BIOS to, at least, test memory settings from there, not needing to boot into Windows etc.
Best of luck.