Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Haggisman said:
If you've known someone with BPD long enough then you'll realise that's a pretty fair assumption to make!
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Despite the reasoning behind the why, the amount of glaslighting and lies I had to deal with in my situation was staggering. I assure anyone reading this my earlier post was very watered down, I could have hammered the keys for hours over the things I had to deal with.

The manipulation isn't something they're unaware of, they fully understand what they're doing they're just in an unfortunate space in which their problems make them think they can justify it. It's almost like dealing with an addict looking to control their drug intake, they know their actions are wrong but they'll jump through mental hoops to excuse things.

I've never been more mentally drained or exhausted than the time I spent around my thankfully long ago ex, I'm fully aware that people can overcome it and work towards bettering themselves as some other posters have said. But if I could visit my younger self and impart a little wisdom I'd have told him to run ten miles and buy a plane ticket to the other side of the globe, she never actually tried to improve her situation and everything was an excuse or flat out denial. There are red flags which people shouldn't ignore, and it's rare I agree with @hurfdurf but he's absolutely correct in that giving someone a chance is grand, but with something like BPD I'd very much recommend walking if the person can't work on themselves appreciably. There's nothing noble about sacrificing your own mental and physical wellbeing to someone that can't be fixed, and even if they can sometimes the job isn't worth the cost.
 
Gray2233 said:
There's nothing noble about sacrificing your own mental and physical wellbeing to someone that can't be fixed, and even if they can sometimes the job isn't worth the cost.
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This was the life lesson I didn't learn for my first few big relationships. It's sort of mad that my partner is probably the most mentally ill person I've been with out of several, but she and we have somehow made it work. If I didn't have the bad experiences on the past I'd not have the skills to deal now, and all that.
 
Omg this thread is timely. In our HMO we had someone with BPD who must be the single worst person I have ever met in my life. He was completely narcissistic, malicious, had no empathy for others, had no self awareness and was petty as hell, he was effectively trying to use the HMO as a brothel, used loads of cocaine which is why he was prostituting himself, and constantly stole others property, he even sexually assaulted me and the police bailed the **** back to the same address after arresting him for rape, they are about as useful as a split condom in dealing with these individuals.

Eventually the other tenants turned on him and we managed to drive him out of the property just the other day by taking matters into our own hands...

My blood pressure must have dropped by 20% since he fled the house, shocking how much one individual can damage one's physical and mental health.
 
Why is it called Borderline Personality Disorder? That sounds like the disorder is being on a border between having a personality and not having a personality. The words just don't make sense to a regular person. If I was suggest something to promote awareness it would be a rename.
 
throwaway4372 said:
Why is it called Borderline Personality Disorder? That sounds like the disorder is being on a border between having a personality and not having a personality. The words just don't make sense to a regular person. If I was suggest something to promote awareness it would be a rename.
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Had a quick google as I've wondered the same before:

"The first formal definition of borderline disorder is widely acknowledged to have been written by Adolph Stern in 1938. He described a group of patients who he felt to be on the borderline between neurosis and psychosis"
 
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