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They’ll move her up to suit their staff balance, but they’ll spin it to you that she’s doing really well blah blah.
I had ours move our boy back down as he was too small and struggling with the bigger kids. He moved back when he was 3 and is doing much better.
We didn't even bother with a traditional baby monitor. I think someone on here gave me the idea and it worked well for us. During a Prime sale we bought an Alexa unit with a screen and some little internal security camera that had decent night vision. We'd just say "Alexa, show me da baby" and then we'd get to see her also worked on our phone. I don't think we spent more than £60 all in.
Granted we had a small 2 bed house so it was easy to hear if she was kicking up a fuss but she's now a healthy 3.5 year old so it clearly worked.
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MY eldest has a couple of years till secondary school which freaks me out.
Use a wipe for the initial mop up and then slightly warm water and cotton pads for on skin, for a couple of weeks and it'll clear up quickly. I've always found bepanthen to be a lot better than sudocream when it comes to helping an actual rash.
We'll see how she gets on but I've got a feeling she'll have little problem running rings around the slightly older kids
Bro you old...let's just ignore the fact my step daughter will be finishing senior school at the end of this year.
no Alexa here, soz, I prefer to keep it that way, we also had a lot of WiFi issues until changing to ubiquiti because of the brick walls.
oh good idea I'll try that thanks, we have some bepanthen already too.
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Oh god! Ours was perpetually ill during nursery. The only time she got better was during holidays, and then she'd pick something else up as soon as she went back!
Yeah, we have a babysense one we still use and its been brilliant. We've taken it on holiday with us and all sorts. Doesn't use wifi and has a really big range. Super useful when they aren't well or aren't settling so you can just have piece of mind that they are OK. I think as Junglist says, its personal choice. Sometimes I think its better if you aren't always watching your kids and let them handle things on their own up to a point. Ours are very good sleepers but its nice to know what time they actually fall asleep so you can say "ahh, thats why exhibit A is being a little **** today, they didn't fall asleep until 10:30!"
We were very lucky that neither of our boys had issues with nappy rash outside of perhaps 3-4 times between them when they had really dickie tummies but when they did it was horrible. Poor little raw bums. Honestly, the best stuff we found by a country mile was metanium. I don't know if they have just changed their formula however as there was talk it had been discontinued. It is a thick yellow cream but nothing else has come close to clearing up and soothing rashes and sore spots for us.
Yep. I can't remember how long we were doing that for but thats what you are supposed to be doing for the first X weeks for sure. If you are still cleaning up the thick newborn poo then you should be using cotton wool and warm water.
I remember when ours were so small that they would scream bloody murder when you took them out of their bags to change them because they were cold. As soon as they were back in it would stop.
I was warned by friends that they had never been as ill as when their children started nursery. They weren't kidding! Hand foot and mouth sucks as an adult
+1 for warm water and cotton pads. We didn't start using wipes for quite a while.
I think we were super lucky with sleep. It was still not great fun to go through but she has always loved sleeping. We actually put her into her own room at 3 months and that made her (and us) all sleep so much better. My partners brother still sleeps in the room with their 5 year old and I find that wild. Then again, the mother of that same child was still breast feeding him when he was 3 and I find that insane.
Even now she identifies when she's too tired and asks to go to bed early. She's dropped her day time naps recently and that can sometimes make her attitude a bit volatile
Touch wood ours has only had one 24 hour bug since early in the year and she's been at nursery constantly other than the week we had in Turkey so I'm hoping... Really hoping this autumn/winter won't be as bad as last year because it was frankly ridiculous
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I was warned by friends that they had never been as ill as when their children started nursery. They weren't kidding! Hand foot and mouth sucks as an adult
I caught this last year when he was 6 months old. I’d never even heard of it till then and I’m 42 - though the other half was talking about cows or something!
Best part - didn’t even get it from him! We’d been to Bristol aquarium a week or so beforehand and I think I touched something on the changing table, with poo being the most contagious way of catching it. Either that or I licked too many windows…
Worked from home for a week and isolated myself from them, and neither of them caught it from me.
I also lost half a stone as I couldn’t eat properly, so silver linings etc!
My partners brother still sleeps in the room with their 5 year old and I find that wild. Then again, the mother of that same child was still breast feeding him when he was 3 and I find that insane.
Even now she identifies when she's too tired and asks to go to bed early. She's dropped her day time naps recently and that can sometimes make her attitude a bit volatile
What you learn as a parent is that some parents are absolutely nuts and they put that craziness on their children. Pretending like they are doing it for their kids rather than because they have let it get out of hand and they now struggle to get a handle on it or make any changes.
One of our friends has a 4 year old that still has mummy stay in bed with him until he falls asleep. He likes to play with her hair for about an hour and a half before he falls asleep. They had the same nanny that we used for a while and when she was doing bed time she just put him down and shockingly he just went to sleep. This is the same boy that has learned that he can say "mummy, if you don't do X I am going to cry" and his mum almost always gives him what he wants. Hes a really sweet little boy but hes learned that his parents are absolute pushovers.
He tried it on the nanny and she just said "I don't see any tears yet, I thought you were going to cry". Again, because he isn't rewarded for the behaviour he doesn't do it.
Another friend has 2 young ones and the oldest (3.5) barely talks and is potentially on the spectrum has massive attachment issues with his mummy because she has always coddled him to the nth degree. He makes a murmur and she runs to cuddle him. The dad is basically not really a hands on parent because she has always done everything for him. Their daughter who is about 9 months old is only just starting to be able to be left with other people without having a paddy. By other people, I mean pretty much anyone outside of mum and sort of dad. Grand parents have just about been accepted but anyone else she still has a melt down after a minute or two. Again, learned behaviour.
My partner took her at a BBQ the other day and she had a paddy and the mum tried to take her back and my partner just said "shes fine" and kept hold of her. Lo and behold she was after a while.
It feels like so many parents hide behind the idea of their childs needs being purely to never be uncomfortable or get what they want rather than to prepare them for the world. Children will have a bad time growing up if everything that they come up against is a show stopper. If they never have independence or the ability to problem solve, compromise and get along with others.
All the parents that have children that are developmentally behind are the ones that coddle their children and let them rule the roost. Its hard to watch sometimes.
I'm 100% sure there are things we've done with K that people probably think we are a bit weird on. We let her have her dummy until she was 3 when it seemed a lot of children in her group at nursery had already given it up, she was in nursery from 10 months old (only ~12 hours a week) but we didn't have much choice, in her own bedroom by 3 months... The worst bit? She already knows her favourite happy meal order at 3.5
I think we all ultimately find what works for both parents and child but it's like you say, in the instance of breast feeding a 4 year old, that's pure because the mother wanted to feel 'needed', as absurd as that sounds, rather than her child actually needing sustenance.
Though I do kinda' wish K spoke less. She's a proper motormouth and I'm surprised when she stops to take a breath.
I think we all ultimately find what works for both parents and child but it's like you say, in the instance of breast feeding a 4 year old, that's pure because the mother wanted to feel 'needed', as absurd as that sounds, rather than her child actually needing sustenance.
Though I do kinda' wish K spoke less
. She's a proper motormouth and I'm surprised when she stops to take a breath.Honestly the most unpleasant illness I've ever had, especially considering it's in no way serious. Couldn't really eat or talk for a week, munching ulcer lozenges like my life depended on it
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Honestly the most unpleasant illness I've ever had, especially considering it's in no way serious. Couldn't really eat or talk for a week, munching ulcer lozenges like my life depended on it
Was also fun watching the inch thick layer of skin from my heels peel away after the blisters had healed to present some nice smooth new stuff underneath. That made walking interesting for a while!
I had it too and was utterly exhausted. The mother in law thought it was just stress until I started blistering on my fingers.