I guess it can help to see others may be worse off but I'm sure you get more than that from AMC
**The Mental Health Thread**
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I guess it can help to see others may be worse off but I'm sure you get more than that from AMC
Was my first visit, didn't know what to expect tbh.
I'm sure some don't find it useful, but I find AMC very useful. I've made some decent friends and had some decent advice when things have been tough.
At the very least it's somewhere that you can at least vent. Might not change things, but for some getting it out there takes a load off.
Wife, Mum & rest of the girls flew out to Mallorca this morning to scatters sister-in-law's ashes in the Med.
I represented the family at court today, whilst CPS & Defence barristers sorted out a new trial date. Problems finding an expert witness, so trial pushed to middle of next year...
I know all too well that the justice system is slow, but trying to explain to Mum & family that the delay is essential for giving the barsteward a fair trial, is challenging.
I'd rather things were done properly and remove any possibility of him walking free from a mistrial.
...plus all the time he's on remand, he can't earn any money to pay for his canteen, meaning he gets deeper & deeper in debt with people even nastier than he is.
Kids start grief counselling next week - hoping it will allow them the opportunity to process what's happened.
I represented the family at court today, whilst CPS & Defence barristers sorted out a new trial date. Problems finding an expert witness, so trial pushed to middle of next year...
I know all too well that the justice system is slow, but trying to explain to Mum & family that the delay is essential for giving the barsteward a fair trial, is challenging.
I'd rather things were done properly and remove any possibility of him walking free from a mistrial.
...plus all the time he's on remand, he can't earn any money to pay for his canteen, meaning he gets deeper & deeper in debt with people even nastier than he is.
Kids start grief counselling next week - hoping it will allow them the opportunity to process what's happened.
The nicest people can turn evil over money.
Unbeknown to me, when my grandad died, he'd left me some money to have a get away with the family. After his passing, my aunty went on a tirade of abuse against me, blocking my number on my grans phone and then claiming id not bothered to make contact etc... Admittedly, id started a new job and was travelling a fair bit so the times i did ring i guessed she was on a call trying to keep company with those familiar voices while mourning.
things got extremely heated and the argument just didnt make sense but I risen to it and took the bait. all because she wanted to keep the money (which she did)
because of this, i haven't spoken to my gran in around 8yrs and i know she doesn't have much longer left which plays on my mind regularly.
I hope you get it sorted, its never easy!
Its good you went. It was always on my list of places to go but never did make it to one. Still may go yet one day if I need to.
Just about to get on a flight to go see some old friends where I used to live. It’s the first time I’ve been back since my best mate who lived there died a few years ago, which I’ve still not really processed properly. Not really looking forward to it, especially as I’m chronically short on sleep and stressed to **** with my work situation atm.
On the flip side going there might actually help you to process it.
That is true! May be cathartic. Need to try and switch off work nonsense and try and enjoy it.
He just got the news he now has a legal fight from his sister. Could not happen to a nicer person. I mean, how little would you **** over your own family for? You'd be surprised how much he is prepared to ultimately spend many thousands in legal fees to fight over (and of course lose all his family except his own children).
Good plan.... Good luck
Goodluck, I hope everything goes in your favour.
Had a similar situation a decade or so ago, although I wasn't too involved/close and to be honest, I'm not sure if I've ever considered the relatives in question as "nice" anyway. Therefore, it hadn't really affected me apart from not speaking to the relatives in question since that situation.
Family member passed away. A few relatives, who cut off any sort of communication with that family member for 5 or so years prior to their death, made an appearance during the funeral to pretend that they cared when in reality they did not. The family member who died had a large amount of inheritance money, so obviously these relatives, who stopped giving a care about the family member until they passed away, wanted their hands all over that money. Arguments were had with the son of the family member, who was very upset that these relatives suddenly waltzed back into the picture and were demanding the money from the dead family member. Relatives made abusive threats in response and I believe they all cut ties shortly after that.
Again, I wasn't really affected by this and thankfully I've never really been close to these relatives or spoken to them apart from the odd large family event, so simply not having them in my life since that situation has been easy. It just goes to show how some people can turn really nasty over money.
it honestly knocks me sick.
I just wouldnt have it in me to anything of the sort.
ive already decided I wont be at my grans funeral when the inevitable happens, which is a shame really, but the further away i stay the better it is. I wont even give my aunty the satisfaction of me turning up.
Well, this isn't about me but rather my mother.
My mother is 78 years old and is very active. She plays tennis and beats men in their 40s at it. She lives in Spain in the winter and the UK in the summer.
This summer I noticed my mum becoming increasingly paranoid. Making statements about the state trying to control her and that everyone is trying to con her or rip her off. I put it down to reading too much Daily Mail.
A few weeks ago her husband asked me to come and see them as mum wasn't very well. She was a mess. Confused and trying to hand her bank accounts and properties to me. Her husband thought she was depressed as she hadn't been able to play tennis for a while due to a minor injury.
A few days later I was called by the hospital who informed me that she had attempted suicide by taking about forty 500mg paracetamol tablets. She'd had her stomach pumped but had messed up her liver.
I went to the hospital to see her and she was not my mother. She was confused, talking about things that haven't happened, telling me about things that were going to happen that were so far from realistic it wasn't worth talking about. She was getting help medically to fix her after her OD. She was safe.
Then she got assessed by a psychiatrist and was immediately sectioned. She's currently in a mental hospital and is a wreck. She makes up things in her head that aren't real and keeps saying that the nurses are torturing her - she tried to show me scars where they had hurt her but there was nothing there. She tells me about a man who is in the hospital that she knows from Spain. I asked the nurses about this and they said that they had asked her to point him out to them but that she just said that he wasn't there at the moment.
I have no idea what is going on now. Mum is on a section 2 which is 28 days but the nurses seem to think she will be moved to a section 3 which is 6 months. I don't know what is wrong with her. It's as if something has snapped in her mind and she's gone mad. They have her on some anti-psychotics at the moment and they seem to be helping. It's bloody frightening TBH. I asked the nurses how this happened so suddenly and they said - their exact words - "Your mother seems to have been walking a tightrope between sanity and insanity for a couple of years".
My mum has always been a bit out-there. That was just her. She's always been paranoid about everything but nothing like this.
Her poor husband is by her side every day. I get down to her when I can.
Has anyone got any experience with sectioning?
My mother is 78 years old and is very active. She plays tennis and beats men in their 40s at it. She lives in Spain in the winter and the UK in the summer.
This summer I noticed my mum becoming increasingly paranoid. Making statements about the state trying to control her and that everyone is trying to con her or rip her off. I put it down to reading too much Daily Mail.
A few weeks ago her husband asked me to come and see them as mum wasn't very well. She was a mess. Confused and trying to hand her bank accounts and properties to me. Her husband thought she was depressed as she hadn't been able to play tennis for a while due to a minor injury.
A few days later I was called by the hospital who informed me that she had attempted suicide by taking about forty 500mg paracetamol tablets. She'd had her stomach pumped but had messed up her liver.
I went to the hospital to see her and she was not my mother. She was confused, talking about things that haven't happened, telling me about things that were going to happen that were so far from realistic it wasn't worth talking about. She was getting help medically to fix her after her OD. She was safe.
Then she got assessed by a psychiatrist and was immediately sectioned. She's currently in a mental hospital and is a wreck. She makes up things in her head that aren't real and keeps saying that the nurses are torturing her - she tried to show me scars where they had hurt her but there was nothing there. She tells me about a man who is in the hospital that she knows from Spain. I asked the nurses about this and they said that they had asked her to point him out to them but that she just said that he wasn't there at the moment.
I have no idea what is going on now. Mum is on a section 2 which is 28 days but the nurses seem to think she will be moved to a section 3 which is 6 months. I don't know what is wrong with her. It's as if something has snapped in her mind and she's gone mad. They have her on some anti-psychotics at the moment and they seem to be helping. It's bloody frightening TBH. I asked the nurses how this happened so suddenly and they said - their exact words - "Your mother seems to have been walking a tightrope between sanity and insanity for a couple of years".
My mum has always been a bit out-there. That was just her. She's always been paranoid about everything but nothing like this.
Her poor husband is by her side every day. I get down to her when I can.
Has anyone got any experience with sectioning?
My friend's daughter had a severe breakdown in her third year of uni - she was sectioned for 3 years, with varying treatment protocols.
No previous history of mental illness, just "broke".
She's home now and stable, but will likely need psychological help for the rest of her days.
All you can do is follow the experts' advice.
Wishing you the best.
No previous history of mental illness, just "broke".
She's home now and stable, but will likely need psychological help for the rest of her days.
All you can do is follow the experts' advice.
Wishing you the best.
Popped over to STBXWs flat this weekend while she had the kids, to drop off some bits they needed. She was very cordial and invited me in for a cup of tea and a chat. During the chat she broke down and told me that her therapist had uncovered she has unresolved PTSD and would need EMDR treatment to deal with it. She wasn't ready to go into details and I offered my sympathies obviously, but it doesn't change anything for me. I'm seeing a local divorce firm later this week (an all woman firm ironically, who came very highly recommended) for an initial consult and we have mediation in a couple of weeks. It feels like we are moving inevitably towards divorce and I'm getting to be ok with that, she's shown me no indication of interest in reconciliation and I wouldn't consider that anyway without very significant change on her part.
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A positive one today, but I've been written off the gym/exercise for the past 5 weeks due to a post-operative wound. Due to the location of the wound and the fact that it wasn't stitched (required regular packing & dressing changes), it was advised to stop any strenuous exercise to prevent the risk of stretching the wound/worsening it until the wound heals and closes. The most I've been able to do is go for walks.
Although it's only been 5 weeks, I've never taken a break from exercise as long as this since starting the gym. It's been difficult on the mental health particularly, as I started going to the gym 3.5 years ago to turn my life around and have been pretty much consistent up until now due to the operation. What did help me is that saying to myself, waiting to fully recover is better than going back to exercise so soon then potentially being out the gym for longer!
Fast forward to today, the wound has healed very well and quickly and has pretty much closed. The nurse at my GP surgery has given me the green light to return to the gym/exercise. May be insignifcant and the fact that it was only 5 weeks might be nothing too, but the gym and just exercising in general has done wonders for my physical and mental health, so I'm feeling very elated from this news.
Although it's only been 5 weeks, I've never taken a break from exercise as long as this since starting the gym. It's been difficult on the mental health particularly, as I started going to the gym 3.5 years ago to turn my life around and have been pretty much consistent up until now due to the operation. What did help me is that saying to myself, waiting to fully recover is better than going back to exercise so soon then potentially being out the gym for longer!
Fast forward to today, the wound has healed very well and quickly and has pretty much closed. The nurse at my GP surgery has given me the green light to return to the gym/exercise. May be insignifcant and the fact that it was only 5 weeks might be nothing too, but the gym and just exercising in general has done wonders for my physical and mental health, so I'm feeling very elated from this news.
Very very sad to read this and hope that a recovery is possible in time. While I am not in the same situation, my 79 year old mother is getting tested for what I assume may be early dementia and its absolutely terrifying to have anything happen to your mom...