Friend online I've known for 1+ year hates me because I spoke his first name

TheVoice said:
It hasn't been hijacked at all, you're just being narrow-minded. I have a friend in Canada who I've known since 2002, we only met for the first time in 2015 when I went over to visit for a couple of weeks.
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Nah, he was just somebody you talked to.
This has now become stapled into culture, people who can't talk in real life but can chat for ages on social media and call them friends.
 
SexyGreyFox said:
Nah, he was just somebody you talked to.
This has now become stapled into culture, people who can't talk in real life but can chat for ages on social media and call them friends.
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We are old people, old people who don't understand d'yooofs. We were never yooof's, we were just old people, you don't know what it's like to be young, you have no idea of the stress, the challenges, the realities. Of course that is crap, when the youth get old they will understand that and what crap it is and how life gets far more challenging as you age but right now, you know nuffin! Sure, some stuff is different but fact is sitting in front of a computer for most of you free time is bad. It was when I was a kid too so my mum used to come into my room, turn it off and send me outside to play. It is no surprise that kids are insular and focused on a screen if no one stops them spending their life staring at it. A child without a wifi connection is a lost sole, it is sad to see frankly and it's no surprise that people like our OP exist. I was out for dinner with my wife the other evening. Sitting on the next table were that family we all see now and again. Old parents and 45 year old son who was obviously shy and not really one for the ladies. I looked at his mum and dad and could see why, they would have been controlling of the poor guy I suspect. He didn't strike me as anything other than the quiet lad at school but his life is destined to be 'at mum and dads house' until they die then a lonely death. Sad to see frankly.

OP, turn your bloody computer off and get outside. I know that might be tough for you, I guess you are a lonely sole and that's tough. I get that but you need to find something that puts you in front of real people in the real world. Friends evolve over time, they are there when you need them and don't care if you haven't seen them for 5 years they are the same people they were and always will be. Forums are the same. You may befriend one or two forum members over time, but that actually involves meeting them socially a few times for me and getting to know them over many years. There are characters and personas you might have an affinity with but they are just people on the internet at the end of the day.

It is unhealthy not to socialise so tough as it might be you need to try and get out, find some people you can get on with and start building a real life as the virtual one will have you at that dinner table if you're not careful.
 
If you speak to someone every day, share things in confidence and talk about things other than the game at hand I would probably say they are a friend. But then again I'm just a know nothing youth (just about)
 
SexyGreyFox said:
Nah, he was just somebody you talked to.
This has now become stapled into culture, people who can't talk in real life but can chat for ages on social media and call them friends.
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Once upon a time people corresponded in length by letter and probably still referred to each other as "friends"? In a lot of those cases there would have been very few physical meetings, in some cases no meetings at all. Times haven't changed as much as you think they have.
 
MikeTheNative said:
If you speak to someone every day, share things in confidence and talk about things other than the game at hand I would probably say they are a friend. But then again I'm just a know nothing youth (just about)
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I'd tend to agree with this. I've known one guy online for 11 years now and we still talk on a regular basis about many things away from gaming. Although we've never met, it's not something I'd rule out if ever end up down the south of the country. I'd class him as my friend, even more so than some of my so called real friends from the past.
 
SexyGreyFox said:
Is anybody else weirded out that somebody sits in front of their PC/games machine, plays games online and then calls people on the other end 'friends'?
I must have missed something!
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If be more weirded out somone who spends 700 hours of thier lesauire time talking, doing activities drinking etc with somone and never considers them a friend
 
Pawnless Endgame said:
Have things changed since the World of Warcraft days of 2006? Granted, in raids, we would use our character names on Teamspeak as that was easier for everyone. When grouping with people from my buddy list though, we got on first-name terms within a few weeks. Plus, we endeavoured to meet up for real. Not once, more like 10+ times. And not just British people (6 or so), but also 2 people from Germany and 1 person from Norway. Me going to their countries as well as them coming here.

Now it's 2018, most of us quit WoW the best part of 10 years ago and we still meet up.

The OP's friend is likely to be one of those triggered Millennials, has a huge My Little Pony collection, and is possibly on the spectrum.
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I dunno when I used to play CoD or MMoRPGs I would use the online nick. Never was friendly enough to make good online buddies though, but it's not a bad way to make friends with common interests that you may never meet in any other situation.

But yeah probably could be on the spectrum, or just unstable. Would be a red flag to me and I'd just cut ties, but that's just me TBH.
 
Last night we were playing Oveewatch in a group of 4 (the teams are 6) and we had a couple of randoms join. They were pretty good so I invited them to our chat party. One didn't have a microphone so we don't know much about him but the other is a 23 year old youngster from Lancashire named Chris. As I've said before: if you're an open, chatty person then people feel a lot more comfortable with you and the ice is broken much quicker.

I've joined other parties where the people are just weird. Quiet, shy, no chitchat, just awkward. I've also joined parties were they're trying to do "banter" and it's just forced, awkward white noise. Cringeworthy.


Basically our gaming group is the best and everyone else's sucks.
 
Diddums said:
Last night we were playing Oveewatch in a group of 4 (the teams are 6) and we had a couple of randoms join. They were pretty good so I invited them to our chat party. One didn't have a microphone so we don't know much about him but the other is a 23 year old youngster from Lancashire named Chris. As I've said before: if you're an open, chatty person then people feel a lot more comfortable with you and the ice is broken much quicker.

I've joined other parties where the people are just weird. Quiet, shy, no chitchat, just awkward. I've also joined parties were they're trying to do "banter" and it's just forced, awkward white noise. Cringeworthy.


Basically our gaming group is the best and everyone else's sucks.
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Tefal said:
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This is PS4, and I've met you. Your mind would fit in perfectly with us lot :D

Add me if you're on PS4: D-i-d-d-u-m-S


Edit: and anyone else who plays Fortnite, Overwatch, Destiny 2, CoD, GTA V, Rocket League and more.
 
Diddums said:
This is PS4, and I've met you. Your mind would fit in perfectly with us lot :D

Add me if you're on PS4: D-i-d-d-u-m-S


Edit: and anyone else who plays Fortnite, Overwatch, Destiny 2, CoD, GTA V, Rocket League and more.
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What a stupid tag. Added.
 
Maccy said:
Wow after watching some of that video I hope you guys aren't playing Gran Turismo!!
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If there's any way to screw each other up, we'll do it. I'm always the target, the rule on Fridays is basically "Diddums can't win". I still spank those noobs though.
 
Diddums said:
If there's any way to screw each other up, we'll do it. I'm always the target, the rule on Fridays is basically "Diddums can't win". I still spank those noobs though.
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To be fair some of the best gaming fun I've had were the late night (read early morning) BF2 sessions with some old work colleagues. SMS would arrive about 1am with the simple tag line of "WAR!!!" at which point and usually in a state of significant inebriation, we would boot up the PC (when I remembered what room...or house it was in) put on the headphones and go kill stuff...read get killed lots. This would be followed by 2 - 3 hours of utter silliness until usually my wife came in and told me to come to bed I was being silly.

Difference is I knew the people as colleague well before I knew we shared a love of BF2 WAR!!!!
 
It was a fantastic game back in the day, spent a lot of time playing it online and it's the only game I have ever really played online with a team.
 
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