Soldato
Take it a day at a time, work to a plan and stick with it.
Have you been offered any alternative housing?
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Take it a day at a time, work to a plan and stick with it.
Have you been offered any alternative housing?
Yeah. Good plan. I'm meant to be hearing from the council at some point but I don't know when.
Soldato
Really down the last couple of weeks. Came back from a week's holiday and was immediately back to normal stress levels and depression.
It's not even really a sad feeling, I've just given up. Don't like my current situation and don't see it changing, so it's hard to aim for happiness day to day and I don't feel I can look forward to much either. Things may well get better with time but it's more time than I'm prepared to grin and bear it for.
Just want to switch off to be honest. At least at work I'm busy for 8 hours so it passes quick. Evenings I'm either exhausted or glued to the sofa until bedtime. Weekends are much worse.
Whoever waited for Mondays eh?
It's not even really a sad feeling, I've just given up. Don't like my current situation and don't see it changing, so it's hard to aim for happiness day to day and I don't feel I can look forward to much either. Things may well get better with time but it's more time than I'm prepared to grin and bear it for.
Just want to switch off to be honest. At least at work I'm busy for 8 hours so it passes quick. Evenings I'm either exhausted or glued to the sofa until bedtime. Weekends are much worse.
Whoever waited for Mondays eh?
What is stopping you making a change?
Soldato
I'd say house sharing is the biggest challenge - can't quite afford to buy, living alone would eat every penny I earn and my girlfriend isn't as flexible as me about location.
Plus living with a partner (amongst others), it's a lot harder to change domestic habits because when I'm motivated towards change, others might not be.
Then there's commuting which is part and parcel of working in central London but point 1 above would interact with that.
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hm if your partner will not change for the better? then talk about it ..
London wow so much stress ever thought about leaving .. maybe it does not suit you ..
London wow so much stress ever thought about leaving .. maybe it does not suit you ..
Soldato
Indeed, I was born here and after 32 years I think I've had enough. Personally I feel like turning everything upside down and starting again. Which is difficult with another person involved in every decision, their own needs etc.
Do you feel trapped?
Soldato
Yep, trapped with no options and fed up of almost every aspect of day to day life.
I literally go to work because I feel safest and most free there.
Are you happy in the relationship?
Soldato
Yeah I do think I am. But I think I'm tired of house sharing (3 of us in total) and I wonder if I'd prefer to live alone. It's unconventional but I'm not always a conventional person. I'd probably end up regretting it but my current mindset is "fed up sharing space with people"
I moved to a shared house in Liverpool, Was great at first but things started getting on my nerves....Got a flat on my own and much preferred it....Glad I did the house share though...It was good fun but then it ran its course.
Soldato
Yeah I had a great time in my first house share. Got lucky with good housemates. But 10 years later I find no one cleans or maintains the house, whereas I'd like to be living in a nice place. It's a big aspect of daily unhappiness when your house isn't how you'd like it!
Been struggling for quite a while now and had an overwhelming urge to drive into the central reservation on the motorway. Just can't be bothered anymore.
The weirdest thing is there is absolutely nothing wrong with my life at all so really shouldn't be feeling this way.
I get angry and annoyed at the smallest things and just want to shut myself off from the world.
The weirdest thing is there is absolutely nothing wrong with my life at all so really shouldn't be feeling this way.
I get angry and annoyed at the smallest things and just want to shut myself off from the world.
im sorry to hear that. Have you been to the doctors about how you've been feeling?
know that feeling all to well get help asap
Yes the doctors know and the NHS crisis team are involved. I've been on all sorts of meds since January and nothing seems to be helping.
I'm just following the daily routine they gave me but everything is a struggle and I get no enjoyment from anything really.
Suppose I was just venting.
Soldato
TBF I found this when I sought help from the GP during final year of uni. I was on anti depressants - which were absolutely helpful and needed right then - but I just didn't care about things. Deciding that skipping a shower or not bothering with stuff, allowed me to slow down and de-stress a bit. I needed to focus on studying.
But the not caring about anything felt very odd and I didn't like it. It still lingers now.
How’s everyone doing ?
My Anxiety decided to hit me earlier for no real reason. Again out the blue took the dog for a walk and since then have been feeling horrid. Keep going really hot and sweaty and a mild tingling/burning sensation in arms and chest. My temp is fine but I might have a cold it’s hard to tell when on steroids.
Hope everyone is doing as good as can be and a very merry Christmas to all us with this horrid illness.
My Anxiety decided to hit me earlier for no real reason. Again out the blue took the dog for a walk and since then have been feeling horrid. Keep going really hot and sweaty and a mild tingling/burning sensation in arms and chest. My temp is fine but I might have a cold it’s hard to tell when on steroids.
Hope everyone is doing as good as can be and a very merry Christmas to all us with this horrid illness.