Inverter has the ability to be fed by a generator but my plan is not to buy one initially until i have a bit more time to understand requirements etc. The cars i've looked at do V2L, and i'd never considered using it as a backup for the house. Given a lot of cars are ~60-80kwh, then potentially that's a lot of juice on tap assuming it's all available.
We can affect the solar install if required, but my current plan is a single larger inverter. If it fails i may add a smaller one as a slave setup and just accept a few days without power and we'll go stay with my parents or somewhere. Could back fire as a plan, but the technology is progressing at a decent rate, and so holding off a few years and hoping to be lucky with reliability i'm hoping will pay off.
Hot water will be via a tank. I don't think aerothermal sources can heat quick enough.
As above, we'll have a hot water tank. It's a 100L unit specced and will be in the utility room. I considered the roof, but that's just likely to suck more energy during winter when it's cold, even in the best insulated unit.