Everybody is forgetting the point of the thread.
OP isn't against marriage in any ideological sense - he's been married before, after all. He's against getting married because of the impact being married has on his finances in the event the relationship breaks down.
And that causes a problem with his partner, since she can see the only reason he won't marry is because he doesn't believe strongly enough that the relationship is a keeper.
The breakdown isn't about wanting a big day. It's not really about marriage at all - it's about his level of belief in the relationship.
OP isn't against marriage in any ideological sense - he's been married before, after all. He's against getting married because of the impact being married has on his finances in the event the relationship breaks down.
And that causes a problem with his partner, since she can see the only reason he won't marry is because he doesn't believe strongly enough that the relationship is a keeper.
The breakdown isn't about wanting a big day. It's not really about marriage at all - it's about his level of belief in the relationship.