Sounds like decided anyway, so struggling to see what the questions is..... Would still like to see some of these out of focus pictures, assuming the camera isn't broken I not convinced it not a technique issue.... Which will be present in any new camera.....
Going full frame could mean you need bigger/longer lenses for wildlife as you will loose the increase gained with crops sensors..... Something to factor into your budget.....
I wasn't decided, but having looked around at various (perhaps too many) reviews, maybe I am now.
re the autofocus, I will try and post some photos when I get enough time on my Mac not my phone to dig them out. The problems focussing with coast line etc do suggest there maybe a problem with the auto focus system and perhaps the lemur focussing was a combination of bad light and bad technique, I'm certainly no pro.
But I am looking to upgrade, the video function looks a useful tool to have and my 40D is getting on a bit. How I've managed to keep the weather out of it, heaven only knows, so I really need something weather sealed.
It's tempting to be drawn in by things like the GPS and wifi, but with things like Eye-fi, I suspect they are gimmicky.