Acceptable age gap in a relationship?

There isn't any rule - this half your age plus seven stuff is rubbish. The acceptable gap is whatever you feel comfortable with. I know a 40 year old guy who goes out with a 25 year old. They don't look like an odd couple at all and they break this so called rule.
 
platypus said:
Age is irrelevant - above legal minimum obviously - as long as you're happy with the maturity of the other person.
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This, after my grandads wife died, he married someone a couple of years older than my mother and been married over twenty years, until he died.
 
I'm 29 and i've just started seeing a girl who's 20 (21 soon). She is very mature for her age... but then why wouldn't she? you get loons across the whole age spectrum. I don't have a problem with the age gap and nor does she.

I think if you're both happy and everything is legal then everything is green lit to go.
 
Grass on the wicket and all that. ;)

Seriously, don't think it matters as long as two people are happy and they are over 18.

Does seem a little odd, but it's up to the individuals if the age gap is a problem.
 
nydryl said:
There isn't any rule - this half your age plus seven stuff is rubbish. The acceptable gap is whatever you feel comfortable with. I know a 40 year old guy who goes out with a 25 year old. They don't look like an odd couple at all and they break this so called rule.
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Damn he's a lucky guy, can i shake his hand? :D
 
To me, the issue relating to the OP wouldnt be the age difference and, to a point, not even if they still talk OCCASIONALLY i.e. NOT every day/week but more how the contact is affecting her psychologically and emotionally.

If, after they chat, she is the same person (like she would be after chatting to anyone) then its not so much an issue. If, however, she is slightly different after it (withdrawn, distant) then there is a problem.

I think you need to sit down and have a grown-up conversation with her about it. Dont go in like a bull in a china shop. Let her get her thoughts out first and take it from there.


As for age as a general - the 1/2+7 rule seems fine but personally, at this stage, it would be only a few years younger for a serious relationship. 20+ for fun :)
 
Totality said:
It didn't bother me until I found out how old he is! She is 21, I'm a few years older and he is 48!
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Is she a fat chick or is he very very rich?

There is slim chance a normal ->decent looking 21 yr old girl would go out with a 48 year old?

Perhaps she's a bit mental?
 
Half age + 7 is always the best rule.

I didn't know whether to laugh at misfortune or be horrified when I heard about my mate. He was 19 at the time, going out with some girl who said she was 16 for a few months. He then found out she was actually 12.
My kneejerk reaction was "Naaaaw dude"
 
Is that real or is it a friend of a friend etc?

Someone I worked with (about 8-9 years ago) went out with a 15 year old, he was 19, they are now several years on and happily married, I guess things can work out.
 
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