why, it's a random pointless number, which means nothing.
There is only two things that matter
A) it's legal
B) both sides are happy.
Acceptable age gap in a relationship?
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why, it's a random pointless number, which means nothing.
There is only two things that matter
A) it's legal
B) both sides are happy.
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Whatever makes you happy at the end of the day. I'm 23 and my missus is 28, and we're very happy 
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This would be my main worry who broke up with who. If he broke up with her why is she still in contact? If she realised that she was being used and then broke up with him then fair enough I guess. I mean the bloke doesn’t really sound like the person that you would want hanging around or being in contact with your GF if he’s happy to cheat on his wife and kids. Of course I say that without knowing all the details.
Just take it one step at a time and see where it goes. I would bring it up in a convo in a few weeks and if you like the girl and think it could go somewhere ask her to cut contact with him. Clearly it’s on your mind already so I think this would be best advice if you want the relationship to last.
Oh and the age thing is really what you feel happy with. The half plus 7 rule i think would work for me but ever one is different and you never know until you meet the right person.
I mean you could meet a 80 year old women with no teeth that you fall for lol think of the benefits....... EEEEEERRRRR
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A rule that 10 year old's mess up!
This.
Yes. Some will jump to the assumption that she's a gold digger and you're a perv*
Personally, you shouldn't let it bother you if it makes you both happy. As long as everyone involved is an adult and mature enough to handle the relationship then it's no one else's business.
*any man that thinks you're a perv for dating a 21 y/o is most likely jealous
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I don't care what anyone says, I personally find massive age gaps very weird if the girl is particularly young. I cannot see a single reason why a stable, sensible, mature and decent 40 year old man would want to have a relationship with a 17 year old girl. It's seedy, sordid and the idea repulsis me. 17 year old girls are just kids - great fun for 17 year old guys but for a grown adult? It's pathetic and desperate, sorry.
I appreciate some might find this opinion quite abrasive but I just really, really dislike it. The guy is usually taking advantage of the girl, offering her security, etc etc which is how he gets his own way.
The crap about both sides being happy so its fine is just that - crap. A 17 year old who is 'happy' with an 40 year old man is only happy because they dont know any different or have been conditioned to feel that way by the guys constant gifts, better financial standing, etc.
Neither can I see why any young girl with her head screwed on would want to date somebody older than her father. Seriously, why? All those nice fit guys around of her own age, interested in the same things she is, in tune with her own culture and she picked some seedy guy who couldnt even hold together a long term relationship like most other 40 year olds?
Why? Too many questions with this sort of thing.
I appreciate some might find this opinion quite abrasive but I just really, really dislike it. The guy is usually taking advantage of the girl, offering her security, etc etc which is how he gets his own way.
The crap about both sides being happy so its fine is just that - crap. A 17 year old who is 'happy' with an 40 year old man is only happy because they dont know any different or have been conditioned to feel that way by the guys constant gifts, better financial standing, etc.
Neither can I see why any young girl with her head screwed on would want to date somebody older than her father. Seriously, why? All those nice fit guys around of her own age, interested in the same things she is, in tune with her own culture and she picked some seedy guy who couldnt even hold together a long term relationship like most other 40 year olds?
Why? Too many questions with this sort of thing.
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lol
But what if its the other way round? Does that make any difference?
I'm 20 and I fancy the pants off this "girl" at work - she just turned 30 last week...
Is that weird?
It's not weird but it may be difficult. She is at the time of her life when she may be thinking about having kids (if she hasn't already).
Ahh...My mate who is also 26, started a relationship with a girl who just turned 17!!! “9 months and still going strong” he keeps on staying but I keep on telling him.
"Wait till she turns 18 and is legally allowed to go out clubbing and not bound by any laws, we’ll see how strong your relationship is then when she starts discovering other guys out there”
And when she does, he'll no doubt call her a cheating ***** when in reality its probably every 18 year old girls natural behaviour and why few people spend the rest of their life with the person they met aged 16.