Advice for a new dad (arguing after newborn)...
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Breast fed babies don't feed on a timetable, especially in the first weeks.
I'd like to see your evidence for scheduled feeding.
Push present ? wtf
op your on a hiding to nothing do nothing but help hold things as asked and do as much as you can say nothing. hormones are raging sleep is non existent and tempers will be very short for the next 6 months or so till things settle.
but fear not it gets much harder when they get to their teenage years (especially with daughters)
op your on a hiding to nothing do nothing but help hold things as asked and do as much as you can say nothing. hormones are raging sleep is non existent and tempers will be very short for the next 6 months or so till things settle.
but fear not it gets much harder when they get to their teenage years (especially with daughters)
Yeah, perky c/d cups ftw
Honestly, though, it's worth getting into it. There were nights Mrs C thought the kids had slept right through because she didn't even wake up enough to remember feeding them!
All down to experience I'm afraid.
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So none then.
Depends , really. Worked fine for us.
None that I can give you. Well apart from if you came to see my sons, who eat all the food put in front of them and are doing (or have done) exceptionally well at school/college. They were great babies. Slept very well.
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The reason I ask is I've never seen anyone recommend scheduled feeding in my entire career as a paediatrician (almost 10 years), it's long gone out of fashion and both the WHO and AAFP recommend demand feeding.
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We had an agreement once my paternity leave was over (worked out at a month) then i would take turns with the feeds untill 12am and then go to bed to be up for work at 6. And at the weekends i would help out with the night feeds.
We would often take turns to nap when i got home from work if really suffering
Worked out well for us, having some kind of agreement helps out.
We would often take turns to nap when i got home from work if really suffering
Worked out well for us, having some kind of agreement helps out.
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The main thing is you want the best for everyone. It is very tough until a routine and the benefit of some experience starts to make things easier but it’s always tough.
It's definitely very tough at the start, and you will both be very tetchy with each other until things settle. Should you be helping out at night now you're back at work? I guess that depends on what your job is. I know I did help out at night despite work!
This... we slept separate from the start and kept a good bedtime routine. A few parents from out NCT didn't and they still have sleep issues at 3 years old
10 years is not very long. I'm afraid things go out of fashion at such a fast rate and then revert back when people realize what a mistake they have been making (unfortunately to late for a lot of people).
We had a few midwifes who we talked to regarding feeding on demand, all of the ones with a lot of personal experience (30 or so years) were adamant that the changes to advice would cause all kinds of problems with the upbringing of children and stress on their parents. As a paediatrician you must be able to see what a problem this country now has be obesity in children. I collect my son from school and am shocked at how large the kids are, they grow up demanding and wanting. Its almost like the parents are conditioned to give food whenever the kids demand...
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With our first, this was fine - he didn't really mind being in his own bed. Our second was a different story.
We put a lot of time in to trying to get her to sleep more in her own bed, but in the end we just let her into ours. I spent about 9-12 months sleeping in the spare room (slept like a baby, I did
)Later, we had to put some effort into getting her back into her own bed, but I have no regrets: it's much easier to do that at that stage, when they're not feeding regularly in the night. No use making life harder than it needs to be to do things the 'right' way.