Advice needed, (decision making)

freelancesam · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:26

Ok im 19 and still living at home. Im half way through my third year studying contemporary music and have learned all that i need to earn a comfortable wage with music as well as being able to work part/full time elsewhere. The only thing left of the course is a load of stressful assignments all for a piece of paper that i dont need to work in the industry (and is barely recognised anyway).

Ive got a lot of problems at home and need to move out (but cant due to a lack of money and full time college).

Do I quit college, get a job and move out.

or...

Put up with a lot of stress at home, lots of written work until july and then get a job and move out.

Please help

stevenazari1 · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:28

put up with college.

Le_Petit_Lapin · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:29

Just finish up were you are.

Moving out brings a load of bills in your direction.

Maccy · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:30

Stay on til college finishes.

furnace · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:31

Stay at college.

Yeah, you might have the knowledge if you quit. But if you stay, you'll have a piece of paper that proves it too. That piece of paper could be the one thing that makes a potential employer take you on for a job over another candidate

stevenazari1 · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:32

college > job > move out.

any other order and your gonna shoot yourself in the foot.

me227 · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:36

freelancesam said:
Put up with a lot of stress at home, lots of written work until july and then get a job and move out.

I'd say that option. If you drop out you'll look back and realise that a few months isn't long at all. Stay in there til July.

and have learned all that i need to earn a comfortable wage with music

What exactly do you mean by that?

freelancesam · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:40

but i seriously cant live here any more, my problems at home are affecting my health, making me unhappy almost to the point of depression and I dont think ill be able to finish my college work. If I fail one unit, I fail the course and i've got two assignments that are a month overdue.

freelancesam · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:41

me227 said:
I'd say that option. If you drop out you'll look back and realise that a few months isn't long at all. Stay in there til July.

What exactly do you mean by that?

I've learnt all the skills needed to work in covers bands, session work, composition, teaching etc.

me227 · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:51

freelancesam said:
but i seriously cant live here any more, my problems at home are affecting my health, making me unhappy almost to the point of depression and I dont think ill be able to finish my college work. If I fail one unit, I fail the course and i've got two assignments that are a month overdue.

Seriously just stick through it and try. It's already mid February. Only 5 months! And you might even be finishing up early in college so you could start working and just get days of to hand in assignments. So maybe you could be out of there by June!

_dogma_ · 14 Feb 2008 at 23:58

Stick it out.
I was in your postion in 5th year at school. I was ill with the arguments between me and my family, things were going bad at school, it was terrible. But I'm glad I stuck it now.

If you drop out now you'll have NOTHING to show for it, well, except that you can't stick anything through.

freelancesam · 15 Feb 2008 at 00:00

_dogma_ said:
Stick it out.
I was in your postion in 5th year at school. I was ill with the arguments between me and my family, things were going bad at school, it was terrible. But I'm glad I stuck it now.

If you drop out now you'll have NOTHING to show for it, well, except that you can't stick anything through.

Ill have everything I need except a piece of paper that I know for sure i wont need

neoboy · 15 Feb 2008 at 00:03

Would be rather silly to stop college now after almost 3 years. Sit it out and and then do what you want.

_dogma_ · 15 Feb 2008 at 00:03

freelancesam said:
Ill have everything I need except a piece of paper that I know for sure i wont need

Well, if you're so sure you wouldn't be asking anyone for their opinions and you would leave college in a flash.

HarryPainful · 15 Feb 2008 at 00:04

Your 19, you dont know anything yet.

Finish your course, get the worthless paper, then WHEN someone asks what you have to back up your experience you can show them.

Nullvoid · 15 Feb 2008 at 00:42

freelancesam said:
Ill have everything I need except a piece of paper that I know for sure i wont need

It's not just the piece of paper you're working for though. Employers will wonder what you've done during those 3 years and might not be that understanding when you try to explain why you abandoned the course with only a handful of months remaining.

Your home situation sounds pretty nasty though so, umm, why not "corner" one of your course tutors or just someone from the college staff that you trust and then unburden yourself as it were. If they know what a rough time you're having then they can possibly help you through it with a bit of extra support and even what might be crucial extensions for these upcoming assignments.

Other than that...*shrug*. Maybe spend more time at the college doing as much work as you can there instead? You'll probably be able to stay a lot more focussed and more importantly you won't be at home (that's a good thing right?).