Advice needed

[ttaskmaster]

Basically one of my friends has posted a status this morning to say they are now identifying as a woman.

I'm guessing you aren't that close, if this went straight to social media instead of being imparted to you personally?
You might want to enquire as to their preferred name and pronouns, as a matter of courtesy.

Does it really affect your life that much?

It can have an effect.
I've sometimes caught flak from other people simply because of the company I keep, regarding different genders, races and religions.
It's thankfully not that common, but it does happen, so be ready for it.

it's being pushed down our throats because everyone and their dog are apparently "gender neutral".

My dog is indeed gender-neutral - He doesn't care what gender you are as long as you bring him steak!!

 

[Swifty55]

My cousin has gone through all this and it doesn't bother me one bit. Life is too short to judge people, let them live how they want to live!

 

[Avenged7Fold]

'Pushed down our throat' lol really?

Every time someone on GD goes on about stuff being pushed down our throats, i do laugh. Tell me solado, who you personally know that is gender neutral? I wont ask for everyone and their dog but i am genuinely interested to know, as i have yet to come across many if at all. Certainly not enough to effect my life or feel like i am 'having stuff shoved down my throat'

let them live how they want to live!

Would you be saying that if they started shoving things in your throat though??

 

[memyselfandi]

Did they really post it though ... or did they leave their account logged in and someone else posted it as a joke ...

 

[Steampunk]

Right I don’t know what to say and how to react.
Basically one of my friends has posted a status this morning to say they are now identifying as a woman. I’m going to completely honest, at first I thought it was a wind up, then I realised it probably isn’t.

I genuinely don’t know how to react. I want to be supportive etc but honestly can’t bring myself to. I’m a very open minded person. Like if someone came out and said they are gay for example then fair play that’s normal these days and as long as they don’t go bringing it up constantly I really couldn’t give a damn.

But the whole fluid sexuality or man identifying as a woman and vice versa for me is just wrong. Fair enough if you feel you are in the wrong body but tough. There isn’t really anything you can do about it. You can do whatever you want, have whatever surgery you want etc but you are still in the same body just chopped up a bit.

I apologise if this breaks any forum rules so feel free to delete the post if it does. He’s got a new facebook profile as his female self, and I’m going to be completely honest, it’s literally my mate in drag.

I know I sound really bad and I genuinely want to be supportive but I just can’t and I feel terrible because of it. I’m not religious at all but to me it just seems wrong.

Is there anyone else who has had similar and if so how did you react etc?
Like I said, I genuinely feel horrible saying to above but that’s how I feel.

I apologise to anyone who has undertaken gender realignment etc. At the end of the day it is your decision and this post wasn’t intended to cause offence.

I think you've got this idea that there are "the gays" and "the trannies" and they are some other group that is nothing to do with you, but in the end, your friend is your friend, and if you spend time with them, they will not be part of those weirdos that you don't get on with, they will just be your friend and that's that. You're talking in generalisations, but your friend is an individual person that you know, not this large group of people you don't know with a label on them.

It's true his genes will still be male, but with hormone treatment and surgery, he can make his outside match the person he feels he is on the inside. It's really no big deal if that's how someone needs to live their lives.

If you can't be supportive, then maybe you should excuse yourself and try again after transition, but by then you might have lost a friend. They may not forget that you dropped them as soon as they got honest about who they really are. It may be their choice to transition, but it's your choice as to who you associate with.

In fact, it's quite interesting to watch those people that document their transition from male to female. There's often a progression that starts as "bloke in drag" and at some point becomes "cute girl" and then "I would, wouldn't I?"

 

[Swifty55]

'Pushed down our throat' lol really?

Every time someone on GD goes on about stuff being pushed down our throats, i do laugh. Tell me solado, who you personally know that is gender neutral? I wont ask for everyone and their dog but i am genuinely interested to know, as i have yet to come across many if at all. Certainly not enough to effect my life or feel like i am 'having stuff shoved down my throat'



Would you be saying that if they started shoving things in your throat though??

Don't think I'd be able to say anything with something in my throat!