Advice on being signed off work for stress.

You're actually 28?

You work for a company for 6 years. Progress from just a sales assistant to assistant manager then onto acting manager. Do that job for over a year and the figures are good, if not better, than the last year. The shop runs as it should and everyone is happy but you don't get the job.

Now you are down £5k, some numpty is in who can't actually do the job as they have never worked in the company and she's trying to tell you how to do a job you've been doing perfectly well.

I'd probably be pretty demotivated by that really. I'm not like my mum though and would tell her to do her own ******* job and I'll stick to doing what I'm paid to do thank you very much.
 
If I was as good as you say then I would want to know why I didn't get the job. If the reason wasn't good enough I would move to another company, if I had the oppourtunity.
 
Jonny ///M said:
Not sure exactly what I'm asking but it's on behalf of my mum anyway.

She was being acting manager of a retail company since November 2010, got iterviewed for the Managers job at the start of this year and she was the only candidate.

She didn't get it for whatever reason and when the next interview took place she didn't get it again. A woman nigh on 60 got it. She has came in being the 'big bad wolf' (her words) not listening to my mum who was explaining how the shop runs. Essentially being a cow to all the staff and creating rotas that don't work for anybody and only having one rota up vs the usual 4/5.

Regardless of how good or bad a job she's doing my mum has been signed off with stress for two weeks, maybe extending that to 4. The company are sending letters saying she has to meet with the line manager, the big bad wolf, once a week to discuss it.

Seeing as the she is the cause of most of the stress my mum would rather not go in and meet her.

Where does she stand with this? Does she have to go in?
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take out a formal greivance against bad wolf, post to personel/HR, in most cases this will remove her from line management, or at least need to be monitored by senior team.

once in formal greivance a meeting will take place with her line manager and your mum, explain here what is happening, try to sort it out. if not sutible, apply for transfer, and remain sick until transfer completes.

if no to transfer, explain your intentions to leave giving notice, due to constructive dismissal. seek advice for tribunial
 
MortonF said:
thats the prob with this country, everyone always lookign for excuses.

bet u dont see this rubbish in other places like asia or russia i bet they just stfu get on with it.

stress is wht you make of it.. no point worrying about working for It in a bank.. so what if it goes wrong? you still have eyes arms legs etc and your life... who cares about some digits on a screen get some perspective
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These threats of mass suicide suggest otherwise.

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/201...-workers-threaten-mass-suicide_n_1196345.html
 
MortonF said:
thats the prob with this country, everyone always lookign for excuses.

bet u dont see this rubbish in other places like asia or russia i bet they just stfu get on with it.

stress is wht you make of it.. no point worrying about working for It in a bank.. so what if it goes wrong? you still have eyes arms legs etc and your life... who cares about some digits on a screen get some perspective
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You are incorrect in your wild assumptions. I suggest doing some background research before coming up with such drivel.
 
I have been signed off work for stress before and didnt have to go in to speak to anyone for the 4 weeks.

I was pregnant at the time though so this might have made a difference.
 
MortonF said:
i dont think anyone should be off work for "stress"


seems a right cop out mate
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Stress effects everyone differently, its certainly not a "cop out" a little bit of stress can improve performance, but too much can break people, everyone has different limits, what may not seem very stressful to you may have a massive effect on someone else, to the point where it can make them ill.
whether you like to believe it or not it exists and its real.

and before you start thinking, no i dont find myself negitively effected by stress, in fact i feel i work better with it, but i can understand as i said it effects everyone differently.
 
MortonF said:
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I hate to repeat myself but;

Your capacity for debate supported by reason and informed opinion astounded me. I'm sure if you were to try and cut your wrists with your un-razor-like intellect your wrist would triumph and intellect be sliced.

To the OP; I think some 2nd party needs to be contacted to be your mum's contact, common sense dictates that no problem can be solved if she has to deal with the person who causes the stress to begin with.
 
Speak to HR dept.

However, my wife is currently off work on a 10 week sick line. She has been contacted 4 weeks into this by HR and her line manager and requested to attend a meeting to discuss her sick line!!

All seems a bit strange considering HR already have the sick line from my wife's consultant and her line manager already knew she was off sick!

Anyway - I'm fairly sure the employer can request a meeting if nessecary but I would advise your mum speaks to HR to see what the proper process is and also consider speaking to her Union rep if she has one. Also take Union rep to meeting if needed.
 
MortonF said:
thats the prob with this country, everyone always lookign for excuses.

bet u dont see this rubbish in other places like asia or russia i bet they just stfu get on with it.

stress is wht you make of it.. no point worrying about working for It in a bank.. so what if it goes wrong? you still have eyes arms legs etc and your life... who cares about some digits on a screen get some perspective
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You make eugenics seem quite reasonable and necessary ... I have never thought this before. :confused:

As to the OP I would think the employer has on obligation towards making the workplace a safe environment in all aspects and if this person is "stressing" someone out to this extent then they are failing to meet that criteria and I would think failing on bullying and harassment.
 
I don't doubt the fact that people suffer stress in the workplace.

I do think that most people just deal with it rather than getting themselves signed off by a doctor.

Anyone I know who has ever been signed off work with stress has been of a certain persuasion. The type that will try and work any angle in the workplace to their own advantage.

I am not suggesting that the OP's mother is chancing her arm. I am simply of the opinion that not everyone who suffers from stress is unable to work.
 
People need to seriously wake up

IT'S NOT YOUR COMPANY

You are only an employee, do your job, get paid, go home. You honestly think they care about you? Really?

Why get stressed. Sounds like your mum is bitter that she put in all the extra work and it hasn't paid off. This is what is eating at her and getting her stressed.
 
Passed on what has been said, she's going to call HR tomorow and go above the usual peoples heads to explain the situation.

I'll report back and explain the outcome.

The problem also is that the new woman knows best apparently. She's not followed procedure on a lot of things so hopefully things can just run its course and we'll see how it ends up.

Of course she is bitter at whats gone on, I would be too to be honest. You do your best for the company and the evidence is there in black and white. They then just give you a big FU and then send in a 'manager' who appears to be a glorified merchandiser at best with no evidence to suggest she even got her training.
 
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