After being with your girlfriend for a while you run out of things to do...

Something competitive can be good, as it doesn't get old necessarily.

Playing sports with/against eachother like tennis/ping pong/badminton, or even things like board games or girlier games like Buzz/Singstar on the playstation can be great fun, especially after a few drinks :)
 
Aye, I wouldn't yet know but I imagine the dynamic is different when you move in together - you're almost guaranteed to see each other every evening so in a way you've got more freedom to do separate stuff.

3/4 times a week though - hmmm.

I mean, during the week (unless you're students) I'd imagine it's always a school night so getting lathered ain't always the best idea. I've only been with my bloke six months so I guess we try to watch a film, veg out listening to music, or I'll do some reading/drawing while he plays his guitar - just spending time, like - but at the moment we're all-too-likely to get distracted ;)

It's worth making time to occasionally have a big 'date' - you know, do it properly; dress up for each other separately in your own homes, meet out in town, go somewhere nice. Take it in turns to pay (but don't split the bill), etc. You might do that already.

Good idea to plan for mini-breaks and holidays away :) A week or two in a cottage somewhere can also give you a good feel of how it'll be to live together.
 
Although sport would be okay for me, my girlfriends hand eye co-ordination reflects that of a 3 year old. The 5 knuckle shuffle is only just being perfect now! (joke)













...she still struggles
 
sara said:
Aye, I wouldn't yet know but I imagine the dynamic is different when you move in together - you're almost guaranteed to see each other every evening so in a way you've got more freedom to do separate stuff.

3/4 times a week though - hmmm.

I mean, during the week (unless you're students) I'd imagine it's always a school night so getting lathered ain't always the best idea. I've only been with my bloke six months so I guess we try to watch a film, veg out listening to music, or I'll do some reading/drawing while he plays his guitar - just spending time, like - but at the moment we're all-too-likely to get distracted ;)

It's worth making time to occasionally have a big 'date' - you know, do it properly; dress up for each other separately in your own homes, meet out in town, go somewhere nice. Take it in turns to pay (but don't split the bill), etc. You might do that already.

Good idea to plan for mini-breaks and holidays away :) A week or two in a cottage somewhere can also give you a good feel of how it'll be to live together.
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Thanks for the input Sara. Going back to when we had been together for 6months, or even up to 3 years really, we both found that just being in each others company was 'fun', and spending time in together wathcing TV, playing a game, chatting, etc was cool. The problem is now that were both getting a bit sick of it, not at all of each other, just of not really being able to think of anything new and exciting to do. I guess this may happen to all couples im not sure.
 
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I hear that Gears of War 2 is good in co-op.
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Man, the ONE thing i would change about the missus would be to make her like games, she detests them and just doesnt understand them at all. The only games that i have ever got her on are Lego indiana Jones on co-op, Simpsons on co-op and a Murder Mystery point and click on the PC.

/me drools at the thought of a hot gaming girlfriend, lawl

On a serious note its okay that she doesnt like gaming, as my gaming is my alone time which is needed
 
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Have children together, then you will wish you had all this free time back :)

I've been going out 4 years and don't have this issue I think it's just down to a lack of imagination:
Play a board game
Go for a walk somewhere nice
Cook something together
Visit friends for an hour
Go on the internet and plan a day out for a coming weekend
Bike ride
Take up a new hobby together.....learning a foreign language!

You should both write "Things I want to do before I die" lists so you always have stuff to work toward and plan. You should help each other to tick everything off on your lists, it doesn't have to be big or expensive stuff it can be anything and you can always add new ideas whenever you think of them.

Planning and executing stuff together is probably the most satisfying thing we do, (outside of the bedroom) :)

Saying all that we also have time spent with our own friends and time apart, we don't smother each other by any means.
 
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Well I was going out with my girlfriend for 5 years yesterday...shes now my finace :D best thing I ever did, on cloud 9 at work doing nothing... which is apparent. but anyways, what we have been doing recently is buying boxset DVD's (24, Ally Mcbeal, Greys Anatomy, CSI's etc) and wathing through them, if you get something you's are both into its great/exciting to see what's gona happen next etc...but that's just us tho.
 
My GF has just discovered where the New Forest is (and that isnt an innuendo) and so we are going there for a few days for her birthday. It isnt too expensive either, as the time we are going it is 3 nights for the price of 2 in 5* accomodation.

All the rest of the time in the evenings, she is either researching her family tree, on Facebook while i am on the PC, or we watch a DVD together. She is 25 and i am 24 and live at my parents which isnt ideal, but we get by.
 
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Thanks for the input Sara. Going back to when we had been together for 6months, or even up to 3 years really, we both found that just being in each others company was 'fun', and spending time in together wathcing TV, playing a game, chatting, etc was cool. The problem is now that were both getting a bit sick of it, not at all of each other, just of not really being able to think of anything new and exciting to do. I guess this may happen to all couples im not sure.
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Yeah I realise I'm in a very rosy period right now so my input is skewed!

However I entered into the "now what?" phase with a couple of other boyfriends around the 18mo/2yr mark, so I think you've done well ;)

Part of it might be because you're still pretty young and so maybe haven't really been financially independent for long enough (complete guesswork here, feel free to correct), that the next 'phase' of moving in together, creating a home, and seeing a new dynamic between you and her hasn't happened in what might be the usual time-span, so you're kind of treading water atm.

As soon as that happens activity explodes for a bit - furniture finding, getting used to sharing a bed every night (wahey!), all the domestic stuff now you suddenly do with each other instead of parents, etc. Probably lots bickering and making-up (wahey! again)... Then I guess you settle into a new kind of life where you're guaranteed to see each other - so you'll make an effort now and again but it doesn't have to be a case of "what shall we do now to make the most of time spent together?" any more.

Still doesn't solve your problem now, though. I guess as long as you recognise the above and keep making effort, you'll see it through.

Have a bit of a brainstorming session of making really silly suggestions of things to do - outrageous as you like - they might all end up impractical as hell but will probably spark off some more feasible ideas :)
 
sara said:
Yeah I realise I'm in a very rosy period right now so my input is skewed!

However I entered into the "now what?" phase with a couple of other boyfriends around the 18mo/2yr mark, so I think you've done well ;)

Part of it might be because you're still pretty young and so maybe haven't really been financially independent for long enough (complete guesswork here, feel free to correct), that the next 'phase' of moving in together, creating a home, and seeing a new dynamic between you and her hasn't happened in what might be the usual time-span, so you're kind of treading water atm.

As soon as that happens activity explodes for a bit - furniture finding, getting used to sharing a bed every night (wahey!), all the domestic stuff now you suddenly do with each other instead of parents, etc. Probably lots bickering and making-up (wahey! again)... Then I guess you settle into a new kind of life where you're guaranteed to see each other - so you'll make an effort now and again but it doesn't have to be a case of "what shall we do now to make the most of time spent together?" any more.

Still doesn't solve your problem now, though. I guess as long as you recognise the above and keep making effort, you'll see it through.

Have a bit of a brainstorming session of making really silly suggestions of things to do - outrageous as you like - they might all end up impractical as hell but will probably spark off some more feasible ideas :)
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Thanks again! You're right with the financial side of things, should we both have better jobs we would have been able ot move onto the next stage of living together by now and i suppose that does, to an extent, explain our "now what" situation.
I just hope i get the big pay rise i deserve come April!
 
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