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Hi guys

This isn't another relationship thread. I just need to get it off my chest what an absolute AS$%&/e I am. Feel free to mock or poke fun at me.
I live with my ex. We had an amazing relationship and are best friends. We've only just broken up 3 months ago. It was a mutual breakup because we were constantly having stressess and not really communicating our issues, just coexisting together. We broke up wanting to give ourselves space to grow individually and she wanted to better understand herself and to learn to be alone(if this makes sense?)

I regret the breakup and do want her back. She knows this.
Here comes the story, last night an old visiting friend came to visit and we went out. I was hammered! I ended up pulling this chick and taking her back. My ex was out as well and came back and found us in bed together. She was livid! One of the rules was that I was NEVER to bring any girls back to our home. Its just plain courtesey to the other person. I mean... I would be crushed if she did the exact same to me.

I hang my head in shame. I mean, I claim to love her but how could I have done something so unimaginably cruel. Especially to someone that I hold so close. We've always mentioned the possibility of getting back together, who knows, but that has totally gone out the window. I feel so embarassed. I told her that I will be moving out. I don't want to hurt her anymore. I am also never going to touch another drink again.

Thanks for reading.
 
How fit is your ex? How fit was the girl you came home with?

Pictures man.

/Serious mode, You've probably just screwed up the chance of getting back with her no? Daft thing to do, but you don't need telling this. I'd start begging for forgiveness now if I were you.
 
I think she was angry she didn't get invited to you join in bed for a 3some.
 
I mean, is there no way you can continue to live with her and try and sort this out?

I know it was a terrible thing to do. Can't you at least work at it?
 
Similar-ish thing happened but I was on the receiving end and I haven't forgiven her about 4 months later... chin up though.
 
[TW]Sponge;19547705 said:
Unlucky - at least you got it wet anyway.

naw...it was not worth it

How fit is your ex? How fit was the girl you came home with?

Pictures man.

err, no can do on the pics man. But she's stuning with an amazing figure. cooks well etc. A definate keeper.

chick last night wasnt worth it at all. Beer googles were on full effect.
Its amazing in one night I literally destroyed my amazing relationship.
 
err, no can do on the pics man. But she's stuning with an amazing figure. cooks well etc. A definate keeper.

chick last night wasnt worth it at all. Beer googles were on full effect.
Its amazing in one night I literally destroyed my amazing relationship.

/Hug

Bit of Tummy love for you there man.

Work at it, if it was that amazing you never know, Time can be a great healer.
 
Tell her you were just trying to make her jealous to get her back so you deliberately accidently a swamp donkey.
 
You live with your ex but she forbids you to bring any girls back home and she's made you feel like the bad guy?

She's a genius.
 
Look, you're either together or you're not. Less of this umming and ahhing.

If it's unfair you bringing girls back, it's just as unfair for her to keep you strung along whilst she's being a headacase.

Stand up for yourself. If you're not together, she doesn't have a damn bit of authority over your sex-life anymore. You're a grown man, not a bit of convenience for her.

/Prepares to be flamed.
 
To be honest, you've done yourself a favor.

Living with your ex after a mutual break up is the silliest thing I've ever heard of, especially with the notion of getting back together.

Now just move out.
 
well....am in Italy at the moment.
had to catch the early flight over. I was still drunk when I went to the airport and after the 3 hour flight which I slept all the way it kinda sunk in what a ..... I've been.
I probably shouldn't have left her ( or maybe its a good idea to give her space) I was going to book the next flight back but the next flight isn't until monday or tomorrow to Manchester. When I arrived I opened google chat and told her how I felt. No words could express how sorry I was. Anyway she said not to come back as she needed time. Am here for a week so don't think will really be able to enjoy myself. Its crazy right, the trip of my life and I kinda screwed everything up the night before
 
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