Am I an ass? (Long-ish read)

West

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Hi Folks.

Just a small to Medium read here.

Last night (well tonight..) I was sat downstairs, I didnt crawl out of bed till 5pm because im on nights, there was naff all in the house, so I had to wait for my parents to come home with food. My dad rang me to ask what Pie I wanted for dinner. I was given a choice between Steak and Kidney and Chicken and Mushroom, I chose the latter beacause I cant stand kidney, and I said as much on the phone... so I assumed that was on the way, because he didnt ring and ask me if I wanted anything different.. and he comes home with a steak and kindey one, so I said to him, I dont want, simply because I didnt like and I will sort myself out (yet again) at work, the past few days theres hardly been anything in, they only seem to buy wholemeal bread because the white stuff is fattening (sigh)

An argument then en-sued my dad accused me of being an arrogant and aggresive **** since I had my new computer (I've spend about a year without one at home) he then asks me to set the table saying that its nearlly ready.. I said no as I wasnt eating.. so in he walks with the Pie and Chips, I said to him that I didnt want it, and proceeded again to yell, and started with the whole aggressive thing again and threatened to put his foot through my brand new £700 Laptop ok I was being arsey with the whole table thing, but the way he spoke to me even my mum had a go at him about it. And at that point threatened to throw me out if 'I didnt like it'

I proceeded upstairs because I simply refused to argue any more and as soon as my mum came up I appologised to her..

I know he's gonna be the same tomorrow, I refuse to appologise to him for the way he was acting.. but am I being an ass by not doing so? or would you say he is in the wrong?

(Yes, all of that over a Pie. Good eh?)
 
i would have kicked off 2 if my step dad bought me the wrong pie geez, dude your a ass you should have given it 2 your parents and eat the chips insted :)
 
Guess you should not of been so rude about the pie situation? He didn't have to bring your dinner home to you. As your working I'm assuming your out of school etc in which case old enough to fend for youself so I don't see why you should get in bit of a strop if your dad brought the wrong kind of pie? Set the table is all you have to do for a free meal? ;)
Guess your dad blew it out of proportion a bit also though.
I'd apologise tomorrow just stating you were really looking forward to a chicken pie, but also say you do not appreciate him going off on one.
 
I work yeh, im there at the moment lol.

It wasnt a strop, I simply said to him I didnt want it... and he kicked off about it, I told him as much on the phone.. and the whole table thing I didnt wanna do it because I wasnt eating.. I admit I was being a git there.
 
No food in the house, I don't believe that and all that over a pie, jesus wept, there is more subconscious things going on than meets the eye.

I love PIE
 
I guess if you simply said thanks for the pie but I do not like kidney or whatever in a nice way. Then you were ok - but I doubt thats how it went down. As above - probably more things going on somewhere. You should probably talk to the old man about it.
 
Clipsey said:
I guess if you simply said thanks for the pie but I do not like kidney or whatever in a nice way. Then you were ok - but I doubt thats how it went down. As above - probably more things going on somewhere. You should probably talk to the old man about it.
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I think he's generally ****** off about being skint, my mother is having a few issues.. and not been working past few months.. shes going back to work this month, but they've both been constantly at their throats.
 
Try and help out as much as you can then! Get the dinner ready or if not at least 'set the table' even if you are not having dinner. Bit of effort around the house to help others and all.
 
Clipsey said:
Try and help out as much as you can then! Get the dinner ready or if not at least 'set the table' even if you are not having dinner. Bit of effort around the house to help others and all.
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Given me a bit to think about, cheers :)

Now back to Command and Conquer 3... being paid £7 an hour for blowing things up rules :D
 
West said:
I think he's generally ****** off about being skint, my mother is having a few issues.. and not been working past few months.. shes going back to work this month, but they've both been constantly at their throats.
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Then stop being a bloody idiot and lend a hand, the impression I got is you sit in your room and order them to get you food and throw a strop when you don't get your way.
 
deja-vou, had a similar argument myself not long ago. It's all trivial really but steak and kidney pies are evil, chicken and mushroom all the way.

Sounds he was most likely just letting off a bit of steam and you were in the line of fire. Financial woes really are not fun at all, and if the money becomes stretched then the parents are going to get a little um, moody.

Tomorrow is another day and it's all forgotten.
Perhaps offer to buy the family a take away or something one of the nights, smooth the feathers.
 
I can imagine the way you said no to the pie to him seemed ungrateful. I was in this situation many times at home. I learnt just be grateful for whatever you get. My parents certainly had a way of getting the wrong end of the stick with stuff like this. I say that, but I also think, maybe I was the ass. Its more than likely.

The table thing, you're just a baby and he should smash up your laptop.

EDIT:: Having actually read your other posts. You know full well your parents are having a hard time and yet you still antagonise them with the whole not setting the table thing? Get some perspective, help the rents out and stop being as ass. Also, get back to work.
 
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Then stop being a bloody idiot and lend a hand, the impression I got is you sit in your room and order them to get you food and throw a strop when you don't get your way.
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I didn't order them, I couldnt make anything in so i simply couldnt make myself anything otherwise I would have. Not an excuse really I know.
 
Sure, you might have reason to be "upset/annoyed" at not being bought what you asked for, maybe the one you wanted was sold out? Maybe they just bought you the one they did as a way to bring you some food before you go to work, albeit not exactly what master ordered.

I think considering that they bought you dinner (You could have just had the chips) You acted like a bit of a knob! :)
 
TimBrad said:
I think considering that they bought you dinner (You could have just had the chips) You acted like a bit of a knob! :)
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Thats the way he saw it I suppose.

I went off saying that he just never seems to listen to people... which he doesnt its really one of his biggest downfalls imo. I just jumped on my high horse and we both just got en-gulffed in an arguement.

I didnt agree though that I am more aggressive (When I was 4 I used to smack other kids before I would let them on the school computer) because im not... but he seems to think that I change when I have a computer in front of me.

I did put the pie in the fride too.. I didnt throw it..
 
West said:
Thats the way he saw it I suppose.

I went off saying that he just never seems to listen to people... which he doesnt its really one of his biggest downfalls imo. I just jumped on my high horse and we both just got en-gulffed in an arguement.

I didnt agree though that I am more aggressive (When I was 4 I used to smack other kids before I would let them on the school computer) because im not... but he seems to think that I change when I have a computer in front of me.

I did put the pie in the fride too.. I didnt throw it..
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So because he got you the wrong pie you started pointing out his faults. I'd hate to see you when some one steals a gf from you or something.
 
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