Am I an ass? (Long-ish read)

This thread is pretty ridiculous actually. I actually laughed out loud at your "I did put the pie in the fride too.. I didnt throw it.." comment.

Thats not good, I should be asleep.
 
Anewbe4u said:
This thread is pretty ridiculous actually. I actually laughed out loud at your "I did put the pie in the fride too.. I didnt throw it.." comment.

Thats not good, I should be asleep.
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In your eyes, im just asking for a second oppinion on the way have acted to reflect on it so that it doesnt happen again.
 
Personally, I think you acted reasonably, given the situation. Whether you should have acted differently is another thing.

The whole pie thing is understandable - I wouldn't have touched it if he'd had brought me it either. Especially if I don't like it. And to continue to bring it as if you did like it, seems like an intended provocation on his part - like some have said, to vent some steam.

Nevertheless, that doesn't make his actions right. I think you could have laid the table anyway, but you could have done it all brooding and such - without much joy. And then have left.

In these situations, where it's hard to draw the line between right and wrong, you've gotta try and find the actions that cause less complications, less arguments and less strife - even if they don't seem too nice for oneself.
 
I know how you feel, altough always with my room being a state.

Do my own washing food dishes etc and pay digs.

To be fair I could help around the house a bit more but my shifts don't finish untill 3 some nights so in a right crap sleep patern so always awake when there asleep his new wife is a light sleep so can barly move about the house.

I tend to just agree though, makes life easier.
 
West said:
but he seems to think that I change when I have a computer in front of me.
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My parents used to say this to me all the time, and obviously they were wrong and had absolutely no idea what they were talking about.

Then one day I realised they were right. You may not think that you're different one you're using your computer, but your parents probably aren't just imagining it either.
 
Im the same, I pay them £200 a month, I said to them just yesterday that I woudl pay them more if I could afford to.

I keep my room clean and I when things need doing that no ones done (like emptying the dishwasher) i'll do it..
 
You're old enough to work and to buy a £700 laptop, yet you can't make your own dinner, help with things round the house, or, heaven-forbid, go out and do some shopping if you don't like what your parents have provided? You are a spoilt little ****. Time to move out and realise how good you've got it with other people looking after you.
 
West said:
Hi Folks.

Just a small to Medium read here.

Last night (well tonight..) I was sat downstairs, I didnt crawl out of bed till 5pm because im on nights, there was naff all in the house, so I had to wait for my parents to come home with food. My dad rang me to ask what Pie I wanted for dinner. I was given a choice between Steak and Kidney and Chicken and Mushroom, I chose the latter beacause I cant stand kidney, and I said as much on the phone... so I assumed that was on the way, because he didnt ring and ask me if I wanted anything different.. and he comes home with a steak and kindey one, so I said to him, I dont want, simply because I didnt like and I will sort myself out (yet again) at work, the past few days theres hardly been anything in, they only seem to buy wholemeal bread because the white stuff is fattening (sigh)

An argument then en-sued my dad accused me of being an arrogant and aggresive **** since I had my new computer (I've spend about a year without one at home) he then asks me to set the table saying that its nearlly ready.. I said no as I wasnt eating.. so in he walks with the Pie and Chips, I said to him that I didnt want it, and proceeded again to yell, and started with the whole aggressive thing again and threatened to put his foot through my brand new £700 Laptop ok I was being arsey with the whole table thing, but the way he spoke to me even my mum had a go at him about it. And at that point threatened to throw me out if 'I didnt like it'

I proceeded upstairs because I simply refused to argue any more and as soon as my mum came up I appologised to her..

I know he's gonna be the same tomorrow, I refuse to appologise to him for the way he was acting.. but am I being an ass by not doing so? or would you say he is in the wrong?

(Yes, all of that over a Pie. Good eh?)
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sounds very similar to some of the arguements i have been having with my parents recently. if they wont cook what i like they needn't bother, i'll eat else where, no need to put themselves out for me :o
 
cheets64 said:
No food in the house, I don't believe that and all that over a pie, jesus wept, there is more subconscious things going on than meets the eye.
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I'm going through the same thing TBH had to move back to the folks because going through a devorce. And they never to having anything in the house expect for bread and ham/turkey slices, make nice sandwitches but it's starting to get long in the tooth
 
Yes you are an ass. Frankly you sound like a spoilt brat. Show a bit of respect to your parents and try helping them out when they ask you eh? They didn't have to get you any food at all - they might have made a mistake, and maybe it's time to learn to broaden your palette eh - steak and kidney pie rocks!

Seriously I cannot believe young people in this country - yet I've been here for 15 years :/
 
For goodness sake you'd think some of you had never been in a close-knit family. I get annoyed over the most ridiculous things too, it's what happens when you live with close family. When I get annoyed with silly things, my dad gets angry and strops around too. Welcome to family life.

OP, my dad does EXACTLY the same things... he calls me from a shop, asks what I want... then brings something home that's completely different. Do I get annoyed? Yes, of course I do. Do I have a right to get annoyed? Hell yes, I do a lot of housework at home, cook for him a lot, and I pay rent... so if I can take the time to do things for him, then he can take the time to at least remember something I tell him over the phone that I want for my dinner. Is it the end of the world? No, of course not... in the grand scheme of things it's probably pathetic... but i'll say it again, that's family life, and contary to what some of the uber-squeaky-clean-holier-than-thou moralists think on this forum, life is not always like an episode of the Waltons where everyone is happy and claps a lot. People get annoyed over ridiculous things, and arguments happen.

Sounds to me like your mum and dads underlying problems are what has started him off on this mood, your trivial but imo normal given the crcumstances annoyance at not getting the right pie was just a catalyst for him to vent some frustration. Do what I do after a silly row with my old man and go and mutter an apology and give him a manly hug. That usually sorts it out. :D

Or even suggest going for a beer with him one evening, he probably has no-one to talk to about problems he's got with your mother, and the odd time in your life you have to do your sonly duty and make an effort to cheer him up a bit.
 
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