Am I being 'tight' not wanting to share my broadband with a mate?

elmarko1234 said:
If it was a close friend & was in need (if he is spending most of his time looking after sick people), I'd offer to give him £30 for him to get his OWN connection.

That way, you help a friend, don't have to share your connection & have no worries about what he's downloading (as it's nothing to do with you).

If he's not worth giving £30 a month to (not that much really) - then just say no.
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The OP has already made sacrifices to get his own connection. I doubt his circumstances allow for paying double for nothing in return.

MeEsH BaKkA said:
Pretty damn tight if you ask me. Then again I will pretty much share anything I have with my mates, I know not everyone is the same.

The way I see it who knows when the boot will be on the other foot.
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Whilst I agree in principle, the OP can see that his 'mate' is just expecting to loaf from him, having given nothing up or even offered to pay (which, for me, is the crux of it - the offer itself) whilst he's had to make sacrifices.

I'll do owt for my mates, but I won't be made a mug of.
 
moved in with a flatmate last year, he was stuck with a sky contract so that came over anywhere. I said I would pay towards it...
He then gave the wireless key to our 2 nieghbours lol, without asking them to pay.
Told him unless they chip in I wasn't paying.
 
After reading the opening post again i dont think he's such a great mate and the fact that his father died and mother is ill shouldnt come into it. He just sounds like a leech to me.

I wouldnt even offer it to him for £10 a month as you'll constantly be chasing him month after month for this money its not worth the hassle.
 
Gilly said:
Whilst I agree in principle, the OP can see that his 'mate' is just expecting to loaf from him, having given nothing up or even offered to pay (which, for me, is the crux of it - the offer itself) whilst he's had to make sacrifices.

I'll do owt for my mates, but I won't be made a mug of.
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We are talking about a few quids worth of Internet here not him living rent free, just have a word with him not to cane torrents whilst you are steaming or gaming.
 
Frenzy said:
Out of interest how fast is the connection you are going to be getting?
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BT say it will be between 10Mb and 19.5Mb so probably around 16/17mb.

Deluxe1 said:
Do you have a monthly limit on what you can download? I wouldnt want someone else using up all my bandwidth and constantly getting throttled because of it.
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80gb cap I think.


My main issue is as Gilly pointed out, is he is just expecting me to hand over the wi-fi key as if it's a given and on top of that I don't want my BB experience to be effected negatively.

If I can control or limit his speed then it won't be so bad but I still expect him to chip in, like I said I'm going to offer it for £10 a month on a trial basis, I won't need to chase him for the money as I can just change the key if he doesn't pay.
 
Personally if a mate asked me, I wouldn't give a toss if I was going to pay for it anyway. If they wanted full use as in more than just browsing, I'd use that QOS stuff.

Either way, it's small fish, and good deeds are never a bad thing. If I was your mate, I'd buy you some beer every so often anyway. :)
 
Deluxe1 said:
How will you know how much he downloads? If he causes you to go over the 80gb then its you that will foot the bill.
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I guess I'll just see how it goes for the first month, a chance I'll have to take I guess, I think just straight refusing him access will cause a bad atmosphere, I've just left one place because of a guy I didn't get along with, I don't want to start ruffling peoples feathers down here to.
 
Do you know why you feel that the information about him having a **** life was pertinent, because deep down you know that it's the right thing to do in a sense.
You must feel sorry for the poor guy and I'd imagine the small hardship of you giving up a little thing like internet access would help him out then I'd imagine your probably feeling guilty for asking this question (if only a bit)

However if he is a decent guy then in my opinion he should do whatever he can to help you, even if that very little because of his circumstances at least he showing gratitude.
If he can stop smoking for instance, and you'd think he would considering he family died of cancer.

Qos would be an idea, to secretly give him what he wants and make you look the bigger man.
This boils down to me whether he is using his situation to make you feel guilty or he's genuinely grateful and your being a miser. This only you can know..
 
80gb cap and 16mb??? That's really expensive for £30 a month.

I don't see an 80gb cap package here http://www.productsandservices.bt.com/consumerProducts/displayTopic.do?topicId=25633&Infinity=no

Is there no other providers in your area?

Personally I'm with sky. I have 20mb connection with 2mb download and unlimited usage, line rental is with bt. I have downloaded 2tb within the last couple of weeks and have yet to be capped.

http://www.sky.com/shop/broadband-talk/broadband-options/broadband-only/
 
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Have you considered you useage allowance with your ISP?
The throttling your ISP uses for specific traffic?
The implications if he DL's anything illegal and gets caught? what with you being responsible for the line and all.

I'd be asking for half, which tbh is what I offered my flatmate before he gave the key out to everyone and their dog.
 
Frenzy said:
80gb cap and 16mb??? That's really expensive for £30 a month.

I don't see an 80gb cap package here http://www.productsandservices.bt.com/consumerProducts/displayTopic.do?topicId=25633&Infinity=no

Is there no other providers in your area?
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The £30 is for the phone line and BB combined, I'm on a special offer atm and locked in a contract until August and then it goes back up, I'm currently moving my acc to my new address.

I may look into other providers once my contract is up.

Andrew Moore said:
Simple answer.

Get a none wireless router.

Problem solved.
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It is temping, or hide the SSID but I'd feel to guilty tbh.

I've told him I'm looking into routers that could allow me to control his traffic, If I charge him I'm not going to make out I'm giving full access when I'm not.
 
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What if this lad downloads any "images of kids" and it comes back to you, even if the truth did come out your image would be tarnished for life.
 
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