Am I being un-reasonable?
- Thread starter Shikkaka
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Reasonable would be saying I dont want ANY of her chav bfs or m8s round at all, if she wants to see them, then go out or meet at theirs - quite frankly your doing her a good favor anyway by letting her stay and she should respect you for that - then again this totally depends on how much your gf sees it as your flat to have a say about who lives there. Or on the other hand just get a safe and leave all your personal belongings in there.
Or
like hedge said - get some webcams and well babysit for you
Or
make sure the girl is sleeping with these chavs/boys or even girls - get the webcams in a position where its likely to happen - get a live feed going on a website - once it becomes popular - offer advertisement spaces next to the feed and get paid a bit for it
Or
like hedge said - get some webcams and well babysit for you
Or
make sure the girl is sleeping with these chavs/boys or even girls - get the webcams in a position where its likely to happen - get a live feed going on a website - once it becomes popular - offer advertisement spaces next to the feed and get paid a bit for it
Well that is another issue.
Myself and my gf have a lot of debt between us and arn't really in the position to be feeding another mouth.
I'm angry at her dad. He is being useless. Should be his responsibility next. Gf is going to ring him after work and ask for money to feed her.
Not sure what social are willing to do to be honest. We have had an offer from the 15 year olds bfs dad. He said he will have the 12 year old round till it's sorted. I highly doubt social will allow that though. He isn't related in anyway.
Myself and my gf have a lot of debt between us and arn't really in the position to be feeding another mouth.
I'm angry at her dad. He is being useless. Should be his responsibility next. Gf is going to ring him after work and ask for money to feed her.
Not sure what social are willing to do to be honest. We have had an offer from the 15 year olds bfs dad. He said he will have the 12 year old round till it's sorted. I highly doubt social will allow that though. He isn't related in anyway.
I don't know what is available to you through social services, but I expect it's like most government things, they wont tell you, you have to ask.
The school will definitely be understanding and try to help you.
Arrange a meeting with the headmaster with just you and your gf. Then have a talk and probably then arrange a meeting with the girl as well.
The school will definitely be understanding and try to help you.
Arrange a meeting with the headmaster with just you and your gf. Then have a talk and probably then arrange a meeting with the girl as well.
AcidHell2 said:
I rather suspect that the school or social services will be unable to assist or meet with you at all. You certainly have no rights in this matter and your girlfriend may have limited rights as a relative standing in loco parentis but this will not allow them to assist you due to the rather strict guidelines they have to work within regarding data protection and other relevant legislation - it is the mother or father who need to set these wheels in motion.
Sadly, from what I gather they are unlikely to do anything to help and unfortunately this may well end up with the child in care.
If you have strong reason to believe that this 12 year old is sleeping with her chav boyfriend this could (indeed, should) be dealt with by the police. There is a strong possibility thay in such a situation they would take out a Police Protective Order and move the girl to a "place of safety". Clearly this would be a major step and would be something that you should discuss with your girlfriend before taking such action.
I can understand your concerns and frustration. You have to try to balance these with an understanding of your girlfriend's needs. She is caught between a rock and a hard place and understandably feels that she has to do something to help the other members of her family.
If your relationship is to have any chance of survival in the face of such pressures you have to give her the unconditional support she has the right to expect from a committed partner whilst helping her find practical solutions to the problems.
Nicos Rex said:
The 12 year old sleeping around is rubbish. That was someone else on the forums mentioning it.
Me and the gf have had a chat and come to an agreement now. It was just my initial reaction but after a think and a read of the replies on here, I am going to stay and just support her. She needs it.
AcidHell2 said:
This is correct. However that was not the situation as implied in the original post. Social services may well decide that the 12 year old moving in with the sister is not acceptable anyway.
The important point is that Steameh will be doing the right thing by his girlfriend under difficult circumstances. If I was wearing a hat I would doff it to him as a mark of respect.
