Am i in the wrong with the girlfirend

[dean_ham]

I had the impression it was more to do with trusting someone, the only way he could feel as though he was being used is if he doesn't trust her to pay back the money, in which case she is in the right to be angry.

Im argry for a number of reasons.

1) she hasnt saved nothin what so ever - which she has known about for 7'od months

2) the way she asked "im going to have to lend money off you" like a few guys posted and people ive spoken to, their girlfriends feel horrible for borrowing money off them. My impression was that she didnt really care that she had to borrow money off me because "its not as if i will miss it anyway" as i have saved a few thousand over the last few years for a deposit on a house.

3) there was none of this talk "i will give it back to you as soon as i can" and i basically had to ask her "when you planning on paying me back" to which she didnt like and thats when the arguments started

 

[dean_ham]

For anyone interested went down her house earlier to pick up my stuff...

She had an attitude from the first second (even though i have been civil and calm about it when texting her to sort things out etc)

Kept my cool told her my side of the story again as calm as i could be. She genuinely wasnt interested what i had to say and after stressing that the only reason i wouldnt give her the money was because she hadnt made the effort to save a single penny - after all we are going away for my 21st. Didnt seem bothered what so ever and after a few mins i think she realised she was in the wrong but still put on a front that she didnt care. Like as if she couldnt appolagise...

So out came the metal fit threatning etc after i had been calm and did not raise my voice at all. Picked up my bags with her screaming at me "get out i never want to see you again, you make me sick, etc etc etc"

I will say it again... WHAT A WASTE OF 3.5 YEARS.

Cheers for the helpful and positive comments, lets hope i dont go through this again

CHEERS!