AM I WRONG

Soon as I was in full time employment (which was 2 weeks after leaving school) I began paying rent to my mum, paid £200 a month to here for my digs. Wouldn't have had it anyother way.

How else are they meant to learn the value of money?
 
i paid £50 per month between the age of 16 and 18 while i was in full time education and had a part time job (they saved it in a savings account until i was 18 for me, which was pretty cool of them). i now pay £225 per month which is reasonable for what i get (would certainly cost more than that to live on my own down here!). i don't resent what i pay but i make sure they are aware that i don't intend to pay any more than that.

i think your partner is being unreasonable, even if it's a token gesture they need to pay something so they are aware life isn't free and not everything they earn will always be for them to spend how they like, son #2 sounds like a lazy **** to me, kick him in to touch pronto.
 
phonemonkey said:
Soon as I was in full time employment (which was 2 weeks after leaving school) I began paying rent to my mum, paid £200 a month to here for my digs. Wouldn't have had it anyother way.

How else are they meant to learn the value of money?
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tHANKYOU phonemonkey nice to speak to someone with morals
 
Cheers Andy, but I'm not the only one here that has the same morals by the looks of things :)

Perhaps it's worth having a word with your partner about it, explaining like you think it's something which would be benefical to the kids
 
vincent1989 said:
i paid £50 per month between the age of 16 and 18 while i was in full time education and had a part time job (they saved it in a savings account until i was 18 for me, which was pretty cool of them). i now pay £225 per month which is reasonable for what i get (would certainly cost more than that to live on my own down here!). i don't resent what i pay but i make sure they are aware that i don't intend to pay any more than that.

i think your partner is being unreasonable, even if it's a token gesture they need to pay something so they are aware life isn't free and not everything they earn will always be for them to spend how they like, son #2 sounds like a lazy **** to me, kick him in to touch pronto.
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Thankyou it is nice to hear that some young people have values in their lives
 
Have you sat down and spoke to them about this? Maybe if they realised what they were getting for free they'd be happier to contribute.
 
Pay your board, get basic food, washing etc done for you.

if you want treats, beer etc, you pay for those yourself as extras
 
phonemonkey said:
Cheers Andy, but I'm not the only one here that has the same morals by the looks of things :)

Perhaps it's worth having a word with your partner about it, explaining like you think it's something which would be benefical to the kids
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Been there done that (love is blind )when it comes to being a mother
 
From 16 I was given no more handouts and worked full time during the summer. Of that, I paid £50 - £70 a week upkeep to my parents. The rest I saved for trips to festivals etc. and my own enjoyment.

Wouldn't have had it any other way, tbh. 20 years old and lying around sponging is atrocious.
 
EdwardTeach said:
yes you are wrong, I always fundamentally disagreed with parents billing their kids. It seems grasping and petty, let them have their fun.
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Teaching kids the value of money is important. Far too many people my age, and I include myself in this to some extent, expect their parents to look after any financial problems they encounter. If the kid is working fulltime they should be board - even if it's a token £50 or so or enough to cover food.
 
They pay rent, or they get out.

If number two (lol) was actually trying to do something, get some money together for a place or some studying, then I may waver. But as he's not, he needs a rocket up his arse.

EdwardTeach said:
yes you are wrong, I always fundamentally disagreed with parents billing their kids. It seems grasping and petty, let them have their fun.
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I see your point, but people aged 20 and 22 are not 'kids'. They are adults.
 
If they are in proper employment then they should be paying some kinda rent, even if its just a token amount to cover electricity, etc. they use.

I pay my parents 20% of my wage which I think is fair... tbh my parents don't really care but I feel better about it myself, one thing I'm not is a sponger if I can help it.
 
Pestilence said:
From 16 I was given no more handouts and worked full time during the summer. Of that, I paid £50 - £70 a week upkeep to my parents. The rest I saved for trips to festivals etc. and my own enjoyment.

Wouldn't have had it any other way, tbh. 20 years old and lying around sponging is atrocious.
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Thankyou Pestilence for your input. I must say that i am impressed by the way younger members on these forums feel about this situation.
 
nydryl said:
Teaching kids the value of money is important. Far too many people my age, and I include myself in this to some extent, expect their parents to look after any financial problems they encounter. If the kid is working fulltime they should be board - even if it's a token £50 or so or enough to cover food.
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to an extent it depends on how well off the parents are. If they genuinely need the money - then fine. But otherwise what are they earning for? my money is for my kids, i am not going to be buried with it.
 
I have some sympathy as the UK employment wise is pretty dismal one way or another for people who aren't super out going, over qualified, etc. even if there is decent job availability most places these days seem to treat employees like muck... but he should atleast be either making an effort to find a job, even if its just part time/seasonal or get back into education.
 
To an extent you are both right. On the flip side when I was that age I wanted to be working and paying my way while my mother wanted to pay for me to go on a round the world adventure. Give them some slack to enjoy being a yooooth but at the same time pressure them some what to learn to be responsible.
 
naffa said:
They pay rent, or they get out.

If number two (lol) was actually trying to do something, get some money together for a place or some studying, then I may waver. But as he's not, he needs a rocket up his arse.

I see your point, but people aged 20 and 22 are not 'kids'. They are adults.
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Heres th punchline,My youngest son has a daughter at 32 month old,split up from his girlfriend .but the thing that grates me is he would rather spend time with his friends and (new girlfriend) than with his daughter
 
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