Soldato
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No, it's a cake.
THE CAKE IS A LIE!
No, it's a cake.
Aah...but your parents probably want you out, but don't want to hurt your feelings....or their pockets.![]()
bin men, cleaners, shop workers, bar staff to name but a few jobs that dont need qualifications..
Your being way too soft on them and from what you have said they are a pair of ungrateful little *****. If you cant reason with someone and show them the error of their views on this issue then there is little hope. From what you say, the mother wants you to keep paying for them indefinitely and from experience I can tell you that if you spoil children then it becomes their god given right to be spoilt.
The only way you will get over this is to be tough and just say no. Dont discuss it with the wife, just tell her no and explain why. Explain how she is being stupid to say they are kids when they are over 20 and go out on the lash and have girlfriends. Explain to her that you are not doing them any good and that they need to make a life for themselves.
This is the generation where kids are not leaving home till their mid twenties and then coming back a few times after that. Its all because parents are too mollycoddling.
Inherit the millions and carry on as usual?....and thus you teach your kids what? That they can sponge of dad anytime the going gets tough?
How well off the parents are is totally irrelevent, period!
Youngsters need to learn money doesn't grow on trees and when they enter the 'real' world that's how it's gonna be.
When you die what will your kids do then? Starve?
I think how well off the parents are is relevant. If the parents really don't need the money, as long as their offspring is actually trying to make a go of it and is intending to leave home at some point, I don't think it's necessary to charge any form of rent.
If they're sponging, not even looking for work, then yes - they need a kick up the arse.
Show her this threadWhat age are you if you don't mind me asking?
So ...... if I understand this ..... the eldest is a qualified bricklayer, with potential earnings of £600+ a week if he's any good and there is work: The second is unqualified except for being able to irresponsibly father kids that he seems not to want, and they both live at home with mum and you and contribute zero to the home, either via chores or £££ ?
Why don't you give 'em all an ultimatum? including mum? they are taking the ****, big time and should have been shown the door a long, long time ago ..... or you should have moved on and left them all to it.
I wish you all the best, whatever you do but DO SOMETHING.
Kind regards, singist.