An open discussion on Work/Personal issues

[tom_e]

The most important thing to remember is at 19 you can feel like you've monumentally messed your life up, then by 20 you can be the happiest person on earth.
You're young, you really do have your whole life ahead of you and this isn't a time to start worrying about the little things like hating your job. Which lets face it is a very small thing in the grand scheme of life.

 

[The Dread Pirate]

"There, there. You're just having a mid-life crisis."

"Mid-life crisis, eh? Lrrr demands the comfort of pop-psychological platitudes."

 

[UncleRuckus]

Op, why do you feel you need to pack your current career in and do something else, what's going on at the back of your mind?

 

[pitchfork]

Go to Uni.

Why do you assume he wants to, it's not for everyone?

 

[Rainagul]

Why do you assume he wants to, it's not for everyone?

Because it's a new experience that he might want to try. If he doesn't like it then he can leave

 

[dacads]

Forget the gambling and drugs, once things are stable you can see if your job is really what you want to be doing or not

 

[pitchfork]

Because it's a new experience that he might want to try. If he doesn't like it then he can leave

A university degree costs 10's of thousands of pounds though, it should not be taken lightly. If he wanted to go to university, chances are, he would have by now.

 

[TommyV]

Come out of the closet OP and it'll all smooth out for you

 

[chief barker]

Welcome to the real world, it's only going to get worse so man up and quit your moaning you big bloody baby.

A bit harsh, but somewhat true

 

[realBabelfish]

For a start drugs like MDMA will not help your mental state especially when it comes to feeling down, knock that on the head and see how you go.

no proven links to long term depression. actually quite the opposite, it tends to make people happier in the long run.

problem with MDMA is the mid week serotonin crash (suicide tuesdays/wednesdays) and the fact it makes you realise how crap the world can be when you come down.

 

[chief barker]

no proven links to long term depression. actually quite the opposite, it tends to make people happier in the long run.

problem with MDMA is the mid week serotonin crash (suicide tuesdays/wednesdays) and the fact it makes you realise how crap the world can be when you come down.

Sounds great

 

[Hilly]

If this carries down the drugs route then I'm going to have to lock it.
Please remember our stance on drugs talk and giving out medical advice.

Quoting this, as it's a last warning. We don't want to have to lock the thread, but we will.

 

[Pestilence]

I'd recommend playing some League of Legends.

 

[ci_newman]

Quoting this, as it's a last warning. We don't want to have to lock the thread, but we will.

Drugs are bad mmm'kay

 

[beamer]

How many non drug using friends do you have ?

 

[Hagar]

At 19 you have plenty of options left. Consider this job as a temporary but necessary step in your career or just making a bit of money to live.

I started work in a bank and quickly realised it was not for me. I went through several transitions as a semi skilled lathe operator, farm labourer, van driver and then started in construction holding the dumb end of a measuring tape. I enjoyed the latter and trained towards civil engineering which was my career.

I did not have full time pensionable work until nearly 29, so there is plenty of time to get a worthwhile career sorted and have fun in life.

 

['Harry]

I've lived your life x10

Been there, hit rock bottom, and slowly climbed back up. Do yourself a favor...knock it on the head.

The drugs etc yeah they make you feel good, but eventually you require them to feel even half normal. My happy hormones all but disappeared. My life was hate Mon to thurs, party fri-sun. Rinse and repeat for 4 years every weekend.

Find a job you love (forget pay...working for $$ is for losers) and crack on with life.