Another relationship thread

lol, seriously can't believe people on here and having a go at him. He doesn't want to be in a relationship. How can you blame him for that? He can't help how he feels. Trying to deny/ignore those feelings isn't going to help and it'll just destroy the relationship anyway. Best to be honest and just come out with it. It's not healthy to try and bury things like this.
 
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To be honest I would be expecting a bit more loyalty from my parents if i was in your situation.
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^ this

It's none of your parets' business, they've no right to be annoyed with you, or to take her side. I'd tell them to go **** themselves.
 
As much as you may have broken her heart, which it sounds, from what you've said like you have, then you cannot blame her for being upset, or your parents for being angry/confused/upset but thats part & parcel, if you are being honest that you just couldn't see yourself with her and wanted time for yourself, then kudos to you for approaching it like a mature adult and taking her aside and talking it through and being 100% honest with her (If you were).

In all honesty, it shows that you must care about her to have done this, so many people would not have dealt with it in such a way, you were honest with her, it may not be what she wanted to ever hear, but if she dhad to hear it, then at least you just told her the truth about how you felt, she cannot really ask for more from you than honesty, and sadly that works in both ways, good and bad.

As for your parents, as much as they may be upset, at the end of the day, it is your life, not thiers, and they need to either support you in this decsion, or keep thier mouths shut. As much as the support would be nice or just understanding, if they cannot give you that, then they shuold give you nothing, abuse is NOT needed, they cannot and should not try to control your life and feel they have the right to know every inside detail to your private life.

If there was no one else, you were totally honest with her, and this was what you wanted, then more power to you for being a man and actually telling it as it is mate.
 
[TW]Fox;12347057 said:
Seconded.

'You just want to be single'?

Apart from the ability to have no-strings sex with random girls, being single is the most crap thing in the entire world.

If this is not the reason you've broken up with her, you've thrown her away for nothing because being single is totally crud. No wonder your parents are miffed.

If this IS the reason you've broken up with her, you are a fool. No wonder your parents are miffed.
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Eh?. Firstly, being single isn't 'the most crap thing in the entire world'. I've been single for a year (after spending 7 years in long term relationships) and I'm perfectly happy with it. It's totally subjective, what a silly thing to say.

Secondly, what on earth is wrong with the OP deciding that he 'just wants to be single'?. That's as good a reason as any surely?. Should he maybe propose to her?, get her pregnant and maybe put a deposit on a house?, throw the whole thing to the wind and look back in 20 years and think "Wtf did I do?, christ..".

Jebus people, get real. Sometimes you want to be 'with' someone, sometimes you want to be alone. This is the beauty of the individual mind!.
 
There's a reason to why you wanna be single and just because it took you 2 years to figure that doesnt mean your parents should give you abuse for it - sounds to me like they would rather see you in a loveless relationship so they dont have to lose a friend.

stick with your feelings - give it a couple of weeks and you'll be so much happier that you went with your feelings.
 
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