Anyone else a bit down lately ?

David _b

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Seen the 5 year plan thread and it inspired me to write this to get some stuff off my chest.
my plan has completely went down the toilet.

When at school all i wanted to do was get into technical college, get into uni, finish uni, stroll into a nice 9-5 job that was nicely paid and decent prospects in a profession connected with computers.

So, got into technical college and all was good doing my national diploma in IT. Got my triple distinction top of the class bladdy bladdy bla... Got accepted into uni thought great im landed. :rolleyes:

I lasted about 10 weeks at uni in that time i have gave up completely decided uni was not for me so dropped out..leaving myself in a bit of debt that i cant crawl out of and am always trying to catch up. Working now on night shift in a very dead end job paying a crap wage setting up tables in a hilton restaurant for the breakfast... So by dropping out of uni i have automatically become the failure of the family, apparently im so much better than the hilton but at least im not claiming signing on every week.

next 5 years....i cant plan 5 month nevermind 5 year.
Down and feeling crappy all the time. And the "R" word makes a appearance..

Relationships..not good, a sort of girlfriend sort of friend type person that im mad about and knnown from Feb. When we are together its like we are a couple but now she wants to be friends just. 2 weeks ago i visited her (she lives 60 miles away) and was lovely been together was first time i felt at ease in so long. But just last night she said all there can be is friends even if that, maybe nothing at all. Leaving me even more down.

Back to work...Cause of night shifts my social life has pretty much closed business. Dont see many friends and the one real good friend i have lives in england after he joined the RAF. All i seem to do is work and sleep. Friends i do have are tools bar a few of them.

The future is not orange.

Thats about me for now...i think.
:o
 
You can't change your life; it's the things around you that change it and, suddenly, you wake up one morning and come to all sorts of realisations and conclusions about yourself. Good or bad.

People say "only you can change your life" and it's true but, what they actually mean to say is "change the things you do and the things you're surrounded by, and these will change your life".

6 months ago, I quite my job working in a supermarket which made me feel low anyway, I had trouble with my then girlfriend which, embarrassingly, people may still remember on here :o, and whilst I was looking for a job I signed up for Jobseekers Allowance and I was in £1,000 of debt.

That makes you feel low but, me being me, I couldn't let it continue. Now, 6 months on I am moving to live in China, to teach. I have no debt, the job is a lot better, and more highly respected, I have some great friends and best of all, a decent well-thought plan ahead of me.

We all hit difficult times and, as long as you want them to change, they will. Eventually. But only if you make the effort. ;) :)

Dwelling on the bad things is the worst you can do. If you don't like something, you must stop or change it as soon as possible. Write down another plan, and remember, this is just one little stage in your life, of hundreds. No biggy. :)
 
I dont see how i can change it. Im stuck in a position i cant change without going to uni or learn something. yet i dont know *** to do. I thought computers was *** was for me all along from 3rd grade at hight school.

Was just last night she broke the news to me she just wants to be friends even tho just a few days ago she said she loved me to my face. :confused:
 
David _b said:
I dont see how i can change it. Im stuck in a position i cant change without going to uni or learn something. yet i dont know *** to do. I thought computers was *** was for me all along from 3rd grade at hight school.

Was just last night she broke the news to me she just wants to be friends even tho just a few days ago she said she loved me to my face. :confused:
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It's normal for our interests, ambitions or hobbies to change. It happens to everybody at some point and it really is nothing to worry about. College and University aren't the only channels to be successful in life; there are many more. Just decide what you want to do first, without thinking of the obstacles. Write it all down, and then plan how you want to get there. Your way. It's easily done, you just need to stick to it.

As for girls, well, they're just like that. The brain chemistry of women, especially when it comes to emotions, is totally different to that of men and, for that reason, you must stop trying to understand; 'cause you never will.

The very fact she tells you one thing, then another means she will never truely have the same feelings for you as you cleary have for her. Move on and forget about her or you'll be stuck in this loop for as long as you keep trying. And each time you go round it becomes more confusing and annoying until the situation is desperately out of control.
 
Life really is what you make it. I'm very happy and have been for a long time. That wasn't always the case though. Because I decided to do something about being miserable I have finished my 1st year in uni, I'm in a well paid 40 hour a week job that I enjoy for the summer and I have some amazing mates that I'll be living with in a few months time.

Go out and do something about it!
 
Was only a short time ago (last monday) we spent the day together. If we were any closer i dont think i could have went home. I just dont get it how things have changed in a short time. The relationship bt is really getting me down at the minute. I really dont go out looking for girls and was very lucky to fall in with her but now it seems like it was all a dream.

:o
 
find a day time job to get your social life back

go out with friends to meet new girls
 
Kreeeee said:
It's just a girl, you'll get over it.
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That's what I keep on telling myself but I wouldn't call it exactly easy, plus if you'v been with someone for a long time and you really do love her all other girls seem like worthless ***** :o :p
 
David _b said:
Seen the 5 year plan thread and it inspired me to write this to get some stuff off my chest.
my plan has completely went down the toilet.

When at school all i wanted to do was get into technical college, get into uni, finish uni, stroll into a nice 9-5 job that was nicely paid and decent prospects in a profession connected with computers.

So, got into technical college and all was good doing my national diploma in IT. Got my triple distinction top of the class bladdy bladdy bla... Got accepted into uni thought great im landed. :rolleyes:

I lasted about 10 weeks at uni in that time i have gave up completely decided uni was not for me so dropped out..leaving myself in a bit of debt that i cant crawl out of and am always trying to catch up. Working now on night shift in a very dead end job paying a crap wage setting up tables in a hilton restaurant for the breakfast... So by dropping out of uni i have automatically become the failure of the family, apparently im so much better than the hilton but at least im not claiming signing on every week.

next 5 years....i cant plan 5 month nevermind 5 year.
Down and feeling crappy all the time. And the "R" word makes a appearance..

Relationships..not good, a sort of girlfriend sort of friend type person that im mad about and knnown from Feb. When we are together its like we are a couple but now she wants to be friends just. 2 weeks ago i visited her (she lives 60 miles away) and was lovely been together was first time i felt at ease in so long. But just last night she said all there can be is friends even if that, maybe nothing at all. Leaving me even more down.

Back to work...Cause of night shifts my social life has pretty much closed business. Dont see many friends and the one real good friend i have lives in england after he joined the RAF. All i seem to do is work and sleep. Friends i do have are tools bar a few of them.

The future is not orange.

Thats about me for now...i think.
:o
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almost everything the same for me, but you lasted one more step... i didnt even finish college.... and now im stuck at tescos, which is going down hill under the current management structure......and i see no where to get out to. :(
 
Wahey i know this thread! I cant even get into uni with my pass in Software Development, i have no idea where I'll be in 2 months let alone 5 years, and i hate it. If i don't flukily (is that a word) get into uni through clearing, i have no idea what the hell I'm going to do. Don't have the relationship problem cos iI've never had one, not out of choice might i add. Lifes **** atm, but at least im not whining about it irl, just on an internet message board :p .
 
My girlfriend has been away for 1 week, and ive been finding it really hard without her, just miss her so much. But she returns tomorrow and i cannot wait.

Plus, i cant stand this heat, i havent slept more than 4hrs at night during the last week, its unbearable.
 
Gigi said:
My girlfriend has been away for 1 week, and ive been finding it really hard without her, just miss her so much. But she returns tomorrow and i cannot wait.
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Dude, my girlfriend has just got back from Italy after a week. It went so fast. Peace and quiet is bliss. :( :p
 
I've not been very happy in my current job if I'm honest, so many things about it make me cringe when I go in, the hours, the heat (it's like 31c inside!!), a 10 minute break to get something to eat if I'm lucky, constantly being shouted at. There is loads more, though at this point, I could really do with the money.
 
yea im feeling down, mainly cos i fancy the pants of a girl who im really close with but she has a boyfriend (though they are on the verge of breaking up) i dont wanna be a rebound guy however :o
 
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