Argument on train

[G|mp]

"Beardy, put your ****ing earphones in or turn it off"

 

[ElliorR]

"Yo blud, dig the toons bro but they is dissturbin' me innards so reduce the max innit."

I think that's how you youngsters talk in this day and age.

 

[robgmun]

I do think it was a cultural thing. Not a racist way. In his culture the way they speak is overly polite. With my culture we speak to other very abuptly and it is not intended to be non polite., its just the way we speak. I let him know that it was annoying it is up to him whether he wants to do anything about it after that. I don't see why i have to say, excuse me kind sir, but if you don't mind if you could please turn off your music because it is disturbing my train ride to the station.

Where's that gif of that guy from firefly??

 

[davido_labido]

" do they not have earphones where you come from beardy?!"

 

[zenf]

I thought i was quite polite when i asked him. If i had said, aye mate shut that ***** *** **** thing off. then i think he would have grounds to moan. But as i said excuse me is that you. Then let me him that it was a bit annoying. I thought i was being polite. But he didn't seem to think so.

It's hard to say, you can use the most polite words possible but if you're using an aggressive or confrontational tone of voice, you'll get people's backs up.

 

[antijoke]

How exactly did you say that is annoying? I note you seem to have quoted yourself directly in initiating the conversation but now how you addressed the annoyance?

Sometimes it's just better to keep your mouth shut, I mean after all it was only music.

 

[Camalot]

I said to him just like this "excuse me is that you", he said "yes". I said that is annoying

That is not polite at all

OF course he was muslim/indian and ended up asking if i speak to my family like that. So i asked him if it is was a cultural thing which got him all worked up and he twisted it in to me being racist because he had a beard.

:/

 

[randal]

"Yo blud, dig the toons bro but they is dissturbin' me innards so reduce the max innit."

I think that's how you youngsters talk in this day and age.

I don't want to live on this planet any more.

 

[anything I don't mind]

I was not trying to to be polite but i don't think it was rude. I was being abrupt because he was being inconsiderate.

How does it go from him being inconsiderate to me asking him to be considerate being a bigger issue than him being inconsiderate.

I asked him if it was what i said or how i said it and he said both.

 

[Ingenious TROLL]

I hate people who play their music without earphones, really gets my back up. Nevertheless you could have been more polite off the cuff but he sounds like a d*** too.

 

[geekman]

Have people forgotten how to be British on public transport all of a sudden?

Tuts, sighs and eyerolls are all acceptable. Actually doing anything about annoyances is a direct acknowledgement that you are not the only person on the bus/train/magic carpet and thus very un-British.

You've clearly never got the Dartford via Greenwich train from London Bridge. It's a portal into a world of drugs, violence and racial tension, where people are all too happy to "do things" about annoyances and everyone calls each other Monica.

 

[cheesyboy]

I was not trying to to be polite but i don't think it was rude. I was being abrupt because he was being inconsiderate.

How does it go from him being inconsiderate to me asking him to be considerate being a bigger issue than him being inconsiderate.

If you want to get the music stopped, then being polite is generally the best way of doing it.

If you want to make a point, then be abrupt. But you should expect a response in kind.

So, OP, were you hoping to get the music stopped, or were you mainly intervening to make a point?

 

[anything I don't mind]

At the time i was not interested in an argument or making a point. I was in a bit of a mood due to missing the fast train. But i honestly thought i said it in a polite way at the time and was surprised when he got all up tight about the way i asked him to turn it off.

 

[SkodaMart]

I would have entered my boxing stance

 

[Freefaller]

You were excessively antagonistic in your approach, no wonder that got his back up.

 

[anything I don't mind]

Well yes because he was being annoying. Does that not warrant that sort of behaviour?

 

[antijoke]

Well yes because he was being annoying. Does that not warrant that sort of behaviour?

No it doesn't.

You took your frustration out on him and tried to involve cultural differences.

If you would have just said "excuse me, would you mind just turning that down a bit?" then you would probably have avoided the whole sorry situation.

 

[ElliorR]

No it doesn't. You want a favourably, painless, outcome you start from a position of moral authority by being as polite as anyone can.

 

[Pestilence]

Should have just dropped a Stone Cold Stunner on his beard in the first instance.

 

[Efour]

Romford ?