Arrggh, Why cant men take a hint!!

knip said:
Following on from the success of.....
Why can't woman ever just say what they mean..!! http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=17773875
I thought I would do one to stick up for us girls. As the title says, why cant men take a hint?
Ok so im single, and ive got this bloke I know, who I would simply like to spend a bit more time getting to know, so I sent him a txt yesterday which said

"I know its a week away, but did you want to go to the reserves game next Wednesday" (for our local footy team)

I get a txt back

"Yep going to the City game on Sept 11th"

Why cant he take the hint and see that I was asking him if we could go together!?!??!
Arrrrrrggghhhh!!!
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Men are logical :D I find a hint fly well over my (our) heads. You have to spell it out IMO! ;)
 
jackthezipper said:
why can't woman just say what they mean !! :rolleyes:

Just say 'with me' and don't leave it open to interpretation. He may think you mean that but is unsure and doesn't want to make a prat of himself.
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Winnor, you can bet he got all excited, then thought that you where just asking (as you both go to the footy a lot), and was hoping if he just said yes you'd clarify with "want to go together?" or "I ment with me ;)" etc.
 
Hang on, in that other thread you said you were straight to the point with guys, that text is a bit ambiguous, although i read what you mean, but maybe he just needs more direction.
 
I would say he completely dodged your question.

I unfortunately have a girl who tries her hardest to start more than just a friendship with me despite me actually telling her it isn't going to happen.

I just make statements in my text now and don't try to ask her questions so she doesn't reply. Unfortunately she is very clingy and any text conversation means she texts me 20 times in the space of an hour...

Good looking girl, and if I was the kind of person to sleep with someone and shrug it off the next day, I would do so with her. As for relationship wise, there are things about her which I just couldn't cope with. I promised I would go for a drink with her last week as I got paid but didn't instigate when it came to it, and she didn't either :D

Although that may be the result of what I said to her last time we was in each others company ;)
 
Mekrel said:
Good looking girl, and if I was the kind of person to sleep with someone and shrug it off the next day, I would do so with her. As for relationship wise, there are things about her which I just couldn't cope with. I promised I would go for a drink with her last week as I got paid but didn't instigate when it came to it, and she didn't either :D

Although that may be the result of what I said to her last time we was in each others company ;)
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So you asked a friend for drinks, knowing she'd probably be excited about it then stood her up after presumably insulting her the last time, an seem proud of that fact.

Gee what a lovely chap you are.
 
Just ask right out, I've never understood why anyone, male or female, doesn't just get right to the point. I hate all the games and other such rubbish, just be straightforward and ask him. If he says no then you've lost nothing.
 
JodieG said:
Just ask right out, I've never understood why anyone, male or female, doesn't just get right to the point. I hate all the games and other such rubbish, just be straightforward and ask him. If he says no then you've lost nothing.
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She speaks the truth, I got into too more trouble not reading a females advances due to me being an idiot in those situations of flirting, too friendly to a girl gets me into trouble. Thank god I got a Wedding ring now, its a good I'm not avail sign.
 
JodieG said:
I've never understood why anyone, male or female, doesn't just get right to the point.
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I think its because most people don't want to feel embarassed by rejection. They feel they can circumvent the whole risk of embarassment by being subtle. I.e:

Scenario 1:
A: Lets go out
B: Sorry no.
A: :(

Scenario 2:
A: Subtle hint involving wanting to go out
B: Subtle hint saying no
A: Fair enough, guess he/she's not interested.

Also people talk. E.g:

A: Hey you never knew who asked me out the other day?"
B: OMFG REALLY LOL HAHAHAHA WHAT DID U SAY?
A: What do you think? lol


I guess its just a case of either having the confidence knowing you wont be rejected, or being immune from embarassment
 
Heofz said:
I think its because most people don't want to feel embarassed by rejection. They feel they can circumvent the whole risk embarassment by being subtle. I.e:

Scenario 1:
A: Lets go out
B: Sorry no.
A: :(

Scenario 2:
A: Subtle hint involving wanting to go out
B: Subtle hint saying no
A: Fair enough, guess he/she's not interested.

Also people talk. E.g:

A: Hey you never knew who asked me out the other day?"
B: OMFG REALLY LOL HAHAHAHA WHAT DID U SAY?
A: What do you think? lol


I guess its just a case of either having the confidence knowing you wont be rejected, or being immune from embarassment
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People also know when they're being flirted with most of the time so you still could end up in the same situation. Who cares what people say though? If you like someone then ask them out and if they say no then so what? A no is a no whaetever way you ask. Also is someone is immature enough to laugh at you for asking them out then you're better off without them imo.

If you read about body language you wouldn't have to say anything anyway but that's another thread :p
 
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