At what point are you not a gent?

RomanNose · 20 Dec 2011 at 12:54

Seriously, you should not be shy to tell them how stupid their views are. One of my biggest regrets in life is not telling someone that she was the biggest ***** alive. Don't let other people suffer just because you don't have the guts to tell them how poorly they behave.

Minxy · 20 Dec 2011 at 12:55

Some women are odd. Personally I'd expect to wait my turn like anyone should. You should have ignored her and only apologised if you were queue jumping.

Nitefly · 20 Dec 2011 at 12:57

One of my friends once made an unintentionally great comment following a night out:

"I walked her home for two reasons. First, because it was dark an I'm a gentlemen. Secondly, because I wanted to see if it was going to go anywhere"

cm1179 · 20 Dec 2011 at 12:58

clearly her time of the month

icedbullet · 20 Dec 2011 at 12:58

GJ02 said:
Just been to the cash machine
Be machine is across the road from my parked car and it's a busy raid I have to cross.
There is a lady getting out of her car to go to the cash machine too but I'm ready to cross and queue behind a polish couple who are withdrawing from the machine.
This lady then manages to cross the road and stand away from the queue and is almost as if she is next inline, the polish couple go and I step to cash machine, this lady then tuts and says there's nothing like a gent is there, to which I apologise !!! Why tho I thought right after I said it,
She wasn't in the queue and was about 5-10 seconds behind me crossing the road. She really made me question what I did, but in my eyes I've done nothing in gent like.
Was I right in stepping up before her do you think or should I have let her go before me?

You did nothing wrong at all. You were there first, therefore you go first, it's not your fault she doesn't know the simple rules of a queue. She was in the wrong for saying what she said, you were too nice by apologising.

I still hold doors open for women, but it really annoys me when you don't even get a thankyou or an acknowledgement for doing so. Most women do have the manners to do so, but its the odd few who ruin it for woman kind.

Banzai_Joe · 20 Dec 2011 at 12:59

Did she think the queue actually started in the car park?
Bitch slap her backwards with your pimp hand!

nydryl · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:06

Edrof said:
She sounds like she was in the wrong. You sound like you're a naturally nice person.

This exactly. That you apologised and even questioned what you did put you in the right.

On the flip side I got tutted at for a holding a door open for a lady last week in uni. It was like I was undermining feminism.

GJ02 · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:08

Thanks guys I knew I had done nothing wrong

kingy666 · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:14

I would have said 'i would have let you go before me if your were good looking so i could look at your bum but seeing as you are a munter, well'

Cleeecooo · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:15

You should've told her to **** off back to the kitchen

TriedandTested · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:17

Be a gent, no matter what the circumstances.

rpg · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:18

I give out regularly to a friend of mine who waits behind approx. 2-3 seconds to hold a door open for an approaching female, and they're not even attractive. If they're right behind you, fair enough, but don't stand there like a gimp waiting to be polite.

MuttsNutts · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:25

Depends if said lady had a big set of knockers or not? :-)

MrMoonX · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:27

you should have done something complicated on the cash machine like print a statement, top up a phone etc. and repeatedly withdraw £10 notes in separate transactions just to mug her off more

ots3go · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:28

MrMoonX said:
you should have done something complicated on the cash machine like print a statement, top up a phone etc. and repeatedly withdraw £10 notes in separate transactions just to mug her off more

This, from at least three different cards.

funguST · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:32

Or told her you're just cleaning it for her, sneeze all over it and leave.

EdGey · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:38

Gilly said:
She expected to get to the ATM first because she has an axe wound in her pants.

AN AXE WOUND?

joxang · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:46

Not quite the same thing, but this reminds me of an incident when I was getting on a cross-country train a few weeks ago. Very busy, lots of people dotted on the platform and the train pulls up with me just happening to be right in front of the door. I stand to one side to let people off (and in the mean-time, lots of people have gathered around the door on either side). When everyone's gotten off I proceed to step onto train.

Until...

Some oldish guy grabs me by the shoulder and forcibly pulls me back off the step saying "You have absolutely no manners", before ushering his wife on first. Then he steps on, and then his friend barges past me with an arm across my chest looking at me and shaking his head muttering something about 'foreign students'.

I felt really bad and apologised to them. But after sitting down and looking back...They had been sitting at the platform while I was standing up when the train pulled in. I was 'first' in line as the door stopped in front of me. I moved aside to let people off, after which these three people had stood up and walked straight to the door. To be honest, I barely even registered their presence beside me.

So they were in their 60s, and one of them was a lady, but I ended up thinking that they were just posh, rude and entitled. The 'foreign student' quip didn't help either.

Castiel · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:47

The point is that a Lady wouldn't dream of tutting at someone in the first place, least of all being so presumptuous as to remind someone of their percieved manners....

Mat · 20 Dec 2011 at 13:49

simulatorman said:
You should have put your jacket on the floor so she could stand on it. The lady is always right and a gentleman doesn’t question her.

There's a big difference between a woman and a lady though.