Been dumped :-(

Find yourself before you find anyone else that's my advice.

Not a nice place to be for sure but all part of life and what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger.

The Gym is always a good place to loose a few hours and make you feel better.

All the best for the future mate.
 
Just got dumped myself after 9months, stupid bitch, biggest mistake of her life, her loss. Already have another lined up
 
MarkDavis said:
Three years of great times, good times, bad times, and most recently lots of arguments. At times, I haven't behaved in the best way, and neither has she. Been on the cards for a while and I've wondered more than once if we were really that compatible but I did care about her and I still have a huge sense of loss even if she was a bit too much for me at times.

The hardest thing is sudden adjustment from having someone in your life and then not having them there. Why aren't these things ever a 'soft landing'?

And why do women do that won't answer the phone or respond to messages thing, instead of just saying things are finished and that they don't want any more contact?

Gutted, feeling low, and full of mixed emotions :(
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At lest there was no kids involved, don't waste your time phoning her or trying to keep on contact. Go out get drunk and snipe something fat easy. ;)
 
Do you guys think I should write to her? I'm not disregarding anything you guys have said, but the only reason I ask is because about a month ago, pre-break up (but following a big argument), I did say I would write to explain various things (including my behaviour on certain occasions in the past) and she said a letter would be easier because she was less likely to emotionally react to what I was saying (which was one of the causes of some of the arguments).
 
I would say if you want to do it to do. But as a means of getting it off your chest and forgetting about it rather than a hope at getting back with her. If you want to do it just do it. But theres going to have to come a point where you realise that you have to stop pestering her if she doesn't want it and move on and claim a hottie
 
If there is anything you need to get off your chest then do it but don't go out writing a letter looking for sympathy. Also make sure you tell her it is over and you don't want any contact with her either. But I would say I wouldn't recommend doing it, will make you come across as weak and women tend to like making their partners feel like that after breaking up with them. Then when they are feeling lonely they might give you a call and use you as their emotional tampon.

Delete her number, get rid of her email, facebook etc etc. First few weeks/months will be hard but you will get over it eventually. Time heals these kind of things. Keep yourself as busy as you can, the more free time you have the more your mind will wonder.
 
You'll be surprised how "free" you feel once you've got over her....
It's great being single.
Go where you want, do what you want, when you want to do it.
Be impulsive, be lazy, be a ****, get drunk and come home at 5 in the morning...


NO ARGUMENTS \o/ WIN
 
That sucks.

I know it's easy for us saying this and that because we're not in your position.

I'm just going to say, do whatever you think the right thing to do for you :)
 
Gaijin said:
Use your new found free time to get down the gym and become big, ripped and strong.

Not only will it eat your time up, but it will build your confidence, and make your ex feel like a fat bloater when she next sees you.

Don't wallow, use this as motivation to better yourself.
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Good advice.

Do something like that and it will make you feel much better about yourself and in time you will be looking down on her. Don't go sucking up trying to get in contact with her. It makies you look like a desperate fool. Spend sometime on your own life, you could die tommorrow...would you be happy with your innings? If not, sort it out, book a holiday to somewhere totally different/exotic.
 
Azagoth said:
Just go out and get the old knob polished. Some good old fashioned, drunken no-strings attached sex is a perfect remedy.
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And get an STI in return!

Unucky mate, never good to here someone is with out a partner i dont know what i would do with mine :(
 
Time with mates, get done what you've always wanted to do that you haven't had time for or haven't been able to, bottle of whisky band of brothers and a few mates !!!! next night out on the town .... sorted :)
 
Time is definitely the only way to get over her. Take up a hobby or something to help pass the time and you may get so wrapped up in that and won't really notice she is gone.

Everyone goes through hard times like this in life and the only thing you can do is learn from it and do things slightly differently next time or at least find someone better.
 
Some good advice in here!

I went through the same a while a go (mine was a 'softer landing' though)

Get to the gym as someone said, eat a bit of spare time. Then get yourself out with mates. I forgot how much of a laugh being on the pull is and generally enjoying a pint with mates etc!
 
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