Been off the booze for two weeks....

McGray · 14 Oct 2013 at 16:56

Why do yo have to tell him you have a problem?

Just say you're off the booze as you're trying to lose weight or something.

Suarez7 · 14 Oct 2013 at 16:58

Get bladdered, once in a while is fine.

easyrider · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:04

Suarez7 said:
Get bladdered, once in a while is fine.

This is not good advice

Squark · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:05

Suarez7 said:
Get bladdered, once in a while is fine.

It isn't at all if you have a drink problem.

Devrij · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:05

Quink said:
Just really to update this thread. That's now 35 days without an alcoholic drink. Over a month. 5 weeks!!!

However, one of my drinking buddies has invited us over in a few weekends time and I'm unsure as to how to tackle it. We've always had a few drinks together in the past. I don't want to tell him about my booze problem, but it will be very, very strange if we go and I don't drink. The whole "Not drinking because my wife is pregnant and can't drink so I thought I'd support her" thing won't really work with him.

What to do? :/

I found it hard to toe the line with my old drinking buddies. I was straight with them, and it was a bit awkward hanging out with them when I went back to get all my stuff I'd left with them. They didn't pressure me, but they still got totally ******ed and started rolling joints etc. I realised then that some people weren't going to be compatible with my new lifestyle, and had to decide who was worth relapsing over (no one).

If you're in it for the long haul, then be straight with him and see how he reacts. Then you'll see if he's a mate or a drinking buddy.

Suarez7 · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:05

easyrider said:
This is not good advice

Squark said:
It isn't at all if you have a drink problem.

If he needs to ask what to do then it's perfectly fine advice imo.

easyrider · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:06

Quink said:
What to do? :/

Just say you are having a break from drinking as you want to get healthy.

Have you lost any weight in the 5 weeks?

easyrider · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:08

Suarez7 said:
If he needs to ask what to do then it's perfectly fine advice imo.

Telling an alcoholic to drink?

You have no place in this thread

tom_e · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:10

Suarez7 said:
If he needs to ask what to do then it's perfectly fine advice imo.

Don't be a donkey.

DirtyJester · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:11

easyrider said:
Just say you are having a break from drinking as you want to get healthy.

Have you lost any weight in the 5 weeks?

Exactly this!

Going healthy as in eating healthy and taking some exercise also has the added free benefit of making you work harder at staying off the drink.

Why, simply because once you start to get into it then so does the guilt factor if you feel the urge to drink.

I'm roughly three weeks in, lost some weight, feeling great and enjoying life ten fold!

Suarez7 · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:12

easyrider said:
Telling an alcoholic to drink?

You have no place in this thread

Yeah, I decided to give a different opinion other than just don't do it.

Maybe he needs one last blowout to realise it's bad for him and he can stop asking others what to do for himself.

haaammit · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:13

easyrider said:
Just say you are having a break from drinking as you want to get healthy.

Have you lost any weight in the 5 weeks?

Over a stone so far :eek:

Started cycling again last week, and plan on starting swimming soon too

Thanks for the ideas and support. I wasn't really after advice about whether or not to drink again, more how to tell my mate I guess.

easyrider · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:15

Suarez7 said:
Yeah, I decided to give a different opinion other than just don't do it.

Maybe he needs one last blowout to realise it's bad for him and he can stop asking others what to do for himself.

Whats needed is not opinion. Its solid advice.

He already knows its bad for him.Hence his need to address the issue.

There is nothing wrong with asking for support. This shows strength not weakness.

You're clearly out of your depth. OK?

Good

easyrider · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:15

Quink said:
Over a stone so far Started cycling again last week, and plan on starting swimming soon too

There you go then. You're off the ale to get fit and healthy.

Suarez7 · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:16

easyrider said:
There is nothing wrong with asking for support.
Good

Didn't seem to be asking for support to me, his question clearly states What to do?

Out of my depth lol, been through it all before.

DirtyJester · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:16

Suarez7 said:
Yeah, I decided to give a different opinion other than just don't do it.

Maybe he needs one last blowout to realise it's bad for him and he can stop asking others what to do for himself.

Damn, and I thought you were kidding...

easyrider · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:20

Suarez7 said:
Didn't seem to be asking for support to me, his question clearly states What to do?

Out of my depth lol, been through it all before.

Good Grief :rolleyes:

You still don't get it

Suarez7 · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:21

easyrider said:
Good Grief

You still don't get it

Fine I'll give him the answer he wants to hear.

Don't do it bro.

tom_e · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:22

Suarez7 said:
Didn't seem to be asking for support to me, his question clearly states What to do?

Out of my depth lol, been through it all before.

It reads more as what to do in regards to how to approach the subject with his friend rather than do I throw al the good work out of the window and get bladdered or not.

Suarez7 · 14 Oct 2013 at 17:26

tom_e said:
It reads more as what to do in regards to how to approach the subject with his friend rather than do I throw al the good work out of the window and get bladdered or not.

If this is the case then I can only recommend being honest with him, if he doesn't support your decision then sadly he's not really a friend just an acquaintance.