Boy thread (is that allowed?)!

sara said:
A) Me coming straight out with it: "I fancy you, want to go out?"

B) Slowly but surely increasing my time around you, making the odd innuendo, getting close on the sofa when watching telly, getting to know you more and you me more... Until it gets to the point where a flirty comment or hug just tips it over the edge and it turns into kissing.
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THe problem here is not the approach, it is your self-confidence.

I would happily try either of these on a girl and I think they would likely be equally appropriate... but what I suspect is that you want to cut straight to A, but don't think its successful so are considering B almost to 'convince' him that you are a decent catch.
Usually the only thing that makes a person a decent catch is confidence and self-esteem so if you think you ARE trying to convince him I would stop and realise you are taking the wrong approach.

I'd say go with the flow. Neither approach is WRONG, but remember to do whatever you do confidently and casually... if he doesn't want to party, then so be it. He loses out, even if he cant see it. If he wants to party, then that's good too.

Take the ego out of it.
 
sara said:
B) Slowly but surely increasing my time around you, making the odd innuendo, getting close on the sofa when watching telly, getting to know you more and you me more... Until it gets to the point where a flirty comment or hug just tips it over the edge and it turns into kissing.
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Worked on me matey, I'm going out with one of my flatmates.

Must be this Bristol water.
 
sara said:
Even though B gives me the opportunity to test the water and then back off if he's obviously not interested?

Right, off out, will have this going round my mind all night probably.... blah.
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Yes but invariably you will spend a long time unable to work out if he likes you or not and by the time you get round to actually making your move he will have lost interest and found someone else.

So many of my female friends do exactly that, they think that most guys will like them (which they do) and so will wait around until they have got their messed up minds together long enough to admit their feelings (which they won't).

Remember every minute you waste doing the freaky friend thing is a minute you could have been together :p
 
Kreeeee said:
Worked on me matey, I'm going out with one of my flatmates.

Must be this Bristol water.
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Must be, this girl used to and still do all that around me. Watch movies sitting closed to me, leaned on my shoulders, grabbed my arms, we go shopping together, hell, we've even held hands walking down the street together. Then i go and asked her out and she turned me down ! I was so confused. :rolleyes:
 
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A - I say this because as a guy, i would like to know if someone fancies me, i've missed many a girl apparently (told later by friends etc. or realizing months or years later , omg she fancied me!).
 
Is he quite a shy person? if so he may feel the same way but not have the nerve to say anything incase his turned down etc. If so go for A imo!
 
M0T said:
And then fight over you in some kind of jelly or mud bath?
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Yes.

A.

All that faffing about is a pain in the arse. If you like the guy and want to be more that just friends then say so. If he fancies you back he'll be over the moon. If he doesn't at least you'll know and not be wasting your time.

All this talk I hear of, "OMG he'll think I'm a **** if I'm forward!" is pure crap. Men are simple beasts and the direct approach is the best. If he panics and can't handle a woman who knows what she wants then it's his loss - move on.

Go for it girl!
 
Do them both, Begin with B but the 2nd or 3rd time you watch a movie together go straight to A after you've kissed him. That's a bit in between but tbh if takes too long for you to do the B process he'll get really paranoid and start thinking about you loads if he's that sort of guy and will just crumble, he needs to know where he stands. Have fun. :)
 
Start with a bit of B then bring in a bit of the secret C option you neglected to mention, a few beers or a bottle of wine.

Will relax you both and make it easier for you and him. :D
 
I’ll say two things.

One – “We're going to be living in the same house for a year” – whoa there Nelly; that sets a very bright red light going in my mind! Getting squishy with someone who you will be living with for the next twelve months is a high risk activity. If it goes wrong, you are so far up the creek your paddle has swum off on its own. Scenarios like ‘rejection… followed by very loud intercourse in the next room with his new lady-friend’ are grim ones to contemplate.

However! If you do genuinely like him, that shouldn’t discourage you completely. It is simply worth being aware of what you’re getting yourself in for.

Two – in light of the above, option ‘A’ could be very messy indeed. Option ‘B’ basically reads like ‘wait and see’ which is probably the best advice; chill out and see what happens. If the opportunity arises, you can go for it, but forcing the matter might scare him away (which would be even worse in light of the fact you’ll be stuck under the same roof).
 
Blokes are either to Stupid or to shy to realise a women fancys them until it's to late.
Tell him but do it nicely not in your face. One decent sentence will do it and then you can Enjoy. ;)
 
Do you rate your seduction skills highly enough to be able to pull off B. without him realising the whole process is being elaborately staged and contrived in order to ensnare him in your web? :D
 
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