Bullies getting ahead in life

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Apparently, teaching kids to get along with others is probably a mistake. Better to teach them to bully others...

www.theguardian.com

Playground bullies do prosper – and go on to earn more in middle age

Five-decade UK study finds that aggression at school leads to better-paying jobs, while those with emotional instability went on to earn less
www.theguardian.com www.theguardian.com

Curious as to whether this is a British specific thing
 
If I think back to my school days it’s a bit of a mix. Was never bullied myself but the ones who did, some are successful, some are doing nothing with their lives.

It’s no surprise really as bullying is rife in the workforce in this country.

Completely anecdotal but the worst bullying I’ve seen in my adult years has came from women.
 
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“I suppose [it means] encouraging your child to stand their ground, rather than being aggressive.”

I have no issues with this.

e: and the article isn't actually saying what the OP claims, although it is badly worded and throws in the caveats pretty late in the story.
 
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Bullies are everywhere, sometimes difficult to spot, I look back on my life and I’ve seen a few, if I was to go back and have the opportunity I would like to think I could look them in the eye and tell them to do one, but I think that’s a lot easier when you are older.
 
[FnG]magnolia said:
“I suppose [it means] encouraging your child to stand and bang, rather than being aggressive.”

I have no issues with this.

e: and the article isn't actually saying what the OP claims, although it is badly worded and throws in the caveats pretty late in the story.
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But depending on how you read it and if you know the saying or not, this could sound a bit dodgy...
 
Uther said:
The main school bully when I was young ended up overdosing under a bridge. My how we laughed.
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I guess there's perhaps a different type at play there - the "schizo" kid with some sort of (quite possibly undiagnosed) issues who happens to be one of the bigger lads too and ends up just causing chaos probably doesn't go too far. We had one of those and he was finally expelled after setting another kid's hair on fire.

The other type though may just be the taller, good-looking/good at sports and a bit arrogant or ready to take the Mickey out of others... not the stereotypical Beano comic book bully - that's more the domain of the previously mentioned schizo weirdo but certainly the rugby lad type could have been a bully to the average Guardian journalist as a kid and the fact is that being tall, popular and good looking is a career booster.
 
dowie said:
I guess there's perhaps a different type at play there - the "schizo" kid with some sort of (quite possibly undiagnosed) issues who happens to be one of the bigger lads too and ends up just causing chaos probably doesn't go too far. We had one of those and he was finally expelled after setting another kid's hair on fire.

The other type though may just be the taller, good-looking/good at sports and a bit arrogant or ready to take the Mickey out of others... not the stereotypical Beano comic book bully - that's more the domain of the previously mentioned schizo weirdo but certainly the rugby lad type could have been a bully to the average Guardian journalist as a kid and the fact is that being tall, popular and good looking is a career booster.
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That's true. There's certainly bullying in the workplace, and those people in a position of power are probably the worse sort.
 
drakioned said:
Apparently, teaching kids to get along with others is probably a mistake. Better to teach them to bully others...

www.theguardian.com

Playground bullies do prosper – and go on to earn more in middle age

Five-decade UK study finds that aggression at school leads to better-paying jobs, while those with emotional instability went on to earn less
www.theguardian.com www.theguardian.com

Curious as to whether this is a British specific thing
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Bullies are just people who have issues. A grudge against others or a weird personality. From my experience that has nothing to do with ability, ambition, drive and so on, so there are bullies in all walks of life - from the bottom to the top. It has to be said, though, that you don't get far in life by allowing people to walk all over you.

There were some folks in work who seemed to delight in power. Maybe we are all like that but don't realise it? I don't know. Some people just seemed to want to play the political game and didn't care who they stepped on.
 
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There were certainly a few bullies at the school I went to (many years ago). They went on to utterly fail at life. A couple of kids who were bullied horrendously are now dead (I'm 50). Some of the unremarkable weirdo's went on to have remarkable careers.
 
We had bullies and i was bullied. No idea what they are up to these days and neither do i care. I got a FB message last year saying one of them had done serious prison time, became a religious nut and died from an OD; I felt sad.

As an adult, upon reflection, i ask why they were bullies. With this guys situation, broken home, abusive father etc. I'm not condoning his behaviour, but i have a bit of an understanding as to why he behaved the way he did.

Some of the other bullies, were just not very nice people picking on the younger kid :(. I hope they became better people in adulthood.
 
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