Bullies getting ahead in life

[NZXT30]

The article seems to be pushing the narrative that masculinity is automatically bad by associating alpha qualities with bullying.

I don't see how they can split the bully apart from other successful males in a class to come to the conclusion that being a bully is an advantage. I'm sure there are more good people with assertive traits that aren't bullies that are successful.

The framing of the article might say more about the author than the subject matter.

You have to take into consideration that to a Guardian author any male that is not severely testosterone deficient is a bully.

Personally I never had a problem dealing with men that are masculine enough to be borderline bullies. It's the two-face weasels that will stab you in the back that always scared me.

 

[Efour]

Only reason I ,"bullied," my guy was the rest of the class laughed and I loved being the clown.
I've always been the clown in my groups.
Well anyway whatever.
Home life was great, great parents, just a warped sense of humour.

 

[Bassmansam]

Only reason I ,"bullied," my guy was the rest of the class laughed and I loved being the clown.
I've always been the clown in my groups.
Well anyway whatever.
Home life was great, great parents, just a warped sense of humour.

i've always played that clown role too.

 

[tenofspades]

I can believe it.
I think cocky people they're more likely to take risks with business. They'll start a firm, and they're confident.

 

[Efour]

Tell him you don't fancy him, you're very flattered but not into guys

 

[D-Ranged]

I never had any particular issues with the bullies but there were a lot at my school (all boys). Pretty much all of them are now in jail, dead, in **** jobs or on the doll.

Quite a few of the "geeks" and other bullied however, are living without worries as far as money is concerned!

 

[Chuk_Chuk]

I can believe it.
I think cocky people they're more likely to take risks with business. They'll start a firm, and they're confident.

I would counter this with cocky people don’t take advise well, which makes it harder to improve/succeed

 

[Nasher]

Probably end up being the pointless but loud middle managers you see in every company. They sail by making a lot of noise, climbing the ranks, but don't do very much. They need a "team" to LARP as a leader for

Quite often wealth and intellect don't go together. Some of the greatest minds in history died relatively poor as they weren't motivated by money or ego

 

[Ayahuasca]

There have been times I came very close to headbutting him or wrapping his face with my glass water bottle.

 

[adam cool dude]

I never had any particular issues with the bullies but there were a lot at my school (all boys). Pretty much all of them are now in jail, dead, in **** jobs or on the doll.

Quite a few of the "geeks" and other bullied however, are living without worries as far as money is concerned!

I have plenty of friends from school who haven't amounted to anything yet got straight A's in pretty much everything. Mainly because they were always quite introverted so never pushed themselves despite being good academically.

I wouldn't say bullies get ahead because they are bullies but they are far more street wise and in the corporate world this is key to success.

That is if you judge success on purely monetary value.

 

[D-Ranged]

I have plenty of friends from school who haven't amounted to anything yet got straight A's in pretty much everything. Mainly because they were always quite introverted so never pushed themselves despite being good academically.

I wouldn't say bullies get ahead because they are bullies but they are far more street wise and in the corporate world this is key to success.

That is if you judge success on purely monetary value.

Quite a few of my friends are from a different school and slightly older than me. They all went to grammar school and were straight A students. Most of them have been on over 100-120k a year for 10+ years now, but there are certainly a few of them that have always bummed around and never pushed themselves. They are in their early 40s now.

 

[wildman]

One of the bullies that racially abused me at school and tried to set his dog on me ended up apologising to me when he was 17, he got into drugs after school and was a mess, he said he wished he had been more like me.

Other than saying thanks I didn't know what else to do.

find out where he lives, check if his front door has a letter box, eat a vindaloo, use his letterbox when the time comes......................

 

[GGizmo]

There were bullies in my school. Everyone knew who they were.

I've always been quite a commanding personality who would stand my ground by any means. I made it clear to those people I would be using violence on them if they started on me. That stopped them picking on me. But I suspect they bullied other people.

I've fought a bully on someone elses behalf as he was beating up this other kid who couldn't defend himself. Lets just say the bully nearly took flight towards an unopened window.

I've always been a big believer that masculine traits are a good thing with the right people, maybe too much watching He-Man

I think being a toxic bully can be like marmite with some people because they will meet at least 3 types of people hiring, 1. The bullied person, 2. The bully already there, and 3. The good masculine guy. So he might get through the hiring process but unless there are bully types already there he's not going to be well liked.