Bullying

I was on the recieving end of bullying a few years ago, by someone who was supposed to be my best friend.

Every day, he'd hit me and call me all the names under the sun, until one day in a science lesson when he hit me one to many times.

I didn't even realise I'd done it, but I stood up off my chair, give him a great crack to the face and then proceeded to give him a few jabs in the stomach.

He got a black eye, several weeks of detentions while I got off with nothing. He never did bully me again :cool:
 
I would have to go with the idea that the only real way to stop being bullied is to smack them back, then they know your not going to be such an easy target in future.

Telling the teachers did sod all, most never even seemed bothered in my schools :(
 
Iam with Earl - Karma will sort it out

I too was bullied by a couple of real tossers at school.
1 got depressed 2 years ago and hung himself ! Result
The Other works in a crappy chip shop down the road ! Result

Ah karma , its a wonderful thing ( can take time tho )
 
Due to the way schools are run, i dont think they will ever get rid of bullies, and school detention has little or no impact.

I was lucky at school, never once got bullied, i was always the shortest, so thought i would get picked on etc, but i just got on with everyone.

I would stick up for friends being bullied, and what not, but it didnt really happen in my friendship groups.
When ever i had problems i sorted them, had loads of prank calls on my mobile, knew who it was, and after a little encouter on the way home from school,it never happened again.

I do feel sorry for the people who get bullied, it cant be easy dreding to go to school every day. Sometime you just have to stick up for yourself.
 
shadowze said:
I too was bullied by a couple of real tossers at school.
1 got depressed 2 years ago and hung himself ! Result
The Other works in a crappy chip shop down the road ! Result

Ah karma , its a wonderful thing ( can take time tho )
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The guy who bullied me is 19, has a young child, has been done for driving without insurance, has had 5 car accidents, has no friends and has a crappy £5p/h job.

Life is good :)
 
kaiowas said:
My brother was bullied for years by one particular kid without the schools ever being able to do anything about it. One day I snapped, chased him down, threw him to the ground, stamped on his head and left him unconscious in the middle of the road.

Didn't have a problem with him after that.
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A good kicking 4TW! And they say violence never solves anything?! :D
 
agw_01 said:
The guy who bullied me is 19, has a young child, has been done for driving without insurance, has had 5 car accidents, has no friends and has a crappy £5p/h job.

Life is good :)
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Five car accidents? :eek:
 
Violence is the answer for real. I was a pretty quiet kid and this led to some kids thinking they could pick on me. Big mistake. I was never afraid of a good fight, I guess thats what having an older brother is good for! Anyways long story short, one bully with a broken arm later and everyone left me alone! Didnt even get in trouble for it as the head teacher knew I was a good student and she knew how bad that kid was. All I had to do was say sorry to him in front of his parents and the headteacher - it was the best apology Ive ever made! :D

So, my advice is for kids to not let themselves be a victim, but unless they realise this themselves and arent afraid to jump in to a little hand to hand, it is not the sort of thing you can tell someone to do. Fear is the bullies best tool and it has a habit of paralysing people.
 
Brother got bullied quite severely in primary school (he's just left secondary school now - doing pretty well and at Sixth form)... he ended up leaving in Year 5 and trying a different school, but kept running away so was home tutored up until the start of secondary school.

I regret not doing anything at the time (but to be honest, I was only 4 years older... and didn't really realise the severity) , it was one lad but because he was a big fat tart all the others sided with him. However, it was taking a toll on the family , causing rifts so someone had to pay so to speak...

In the space of a few weeks of my brother leaving his first school, a number of unfourtunate things happened to him & his family.

1) His dads merc had iron filings spreaded over his roof with subsequently left some nice scratches.

2) Front living room window was put through

3) Few people who I hung around with locally were asked to give him a seeing too whenever he was out. He never actually got hit - but he couldn't hang around near his home much anymore.

Needless to say, i'm pretty sure he got the message as my brother went to the main secondary school in the area which all of his old school goes to and he never got any trouble. Wasn't really intended for that though, was moreso getting back at someone who had caused us grief... he's just lucky things weren't taking further.
 
dirtydog said:
Five car accidents? :eek:
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Yep, his first car, a Polo 1.0 with a silly bodykit and chrome mirrors was the first to go. He'd had it two weeks and started boasting about how he'd written off a taxi :rolleyes:

I went out with him once, and he was an absolute nutter.

He fixed it up, crashed it a few more times and sold it. I still see it being driven around now.

He then got a Honda Civic Del Sol, but couldn't get insured. Did that stop him? Not a chance. Last time I saw him, he was telling me about how had to go to court for driving without insurance.

Idiot.
 
I saw a report on Newsround the other day about bullying and was thinking that this is in the news more and more these days. I was wondering - is bullying more prevalent in schools and workplaces nowadays or is it the case that more attention is paid to it?

There certainly was bullying when I went to school in the 70s - I was bullied myself but not being a big burly chap (at that time) like most of the big strong posters in this thread obviously are, fighting back was certainly not an option so I developed my own strategies for dealing with the problem rather than involving teachers or parents.

When I was at school, I was never aware of bullying being the problem it appears to be today. I wonder if bullying is worse nowadays or are kids "softer" and less able to sort out their own problems? I certainly never heard of kids committing suicide because they were being bullied when I was at school - is this a relatively new phenomenon or is it another case of more reporting?

I agree that bullying is not something that should be left up to the schools to deal with - for one thing most teachers are too busy to donate the time required to deal with it. Obviously, schools have a part to play in educating both the perpetrators and the victims as to why bullying is unacceptable but the fact that a lot of bullying involves physical assault surely makes it a matter for the police and the legal system - after all, if someone assaults an adult at work, it's the police who deal with the matter, not the victim's boss/supervisor.

Stan :)
 
Telescopi said:
So long as bullying is treated as something schools deal with it won't be dealt with.

Any physical violence should be treated as the crime it is - children should have citizenship classes from a very young age informing them of their rights and clearly demonstrating that violence gets you banged up.

Schools don't need a bullying policy, they need to teach kids their rights and let the appropriate government bodies deal with enforcing these rights.
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Sorry but that is a little extreme don't you think? If it is constant bullying over a long period of time then maybe but if its just a little scuffle in a playground then the police shouldnt get involved. To me it sounds like another police state suggestion and is totally wrong. I definitly dont condone bullying, I spent most of my time at primary and secondary school being bullied. Until i gave up on the teachers and physically knocked the main bully out, then stood up for myself against anyone else. Admittedly I got suspended a couple of times but the rest of my schooling was so much better.
 
they should have a 'punisher' next to the deput head / principle 's office, if you're getting any #### from anyone, you go to the punisher, and he deals out some for you :)
 
A friend of mine is a police officer based at a secondary school not far from here. Seemed a bit extreme to me at the time but she was always up to her armpits in work.
 
I am, and always have been, a pretty big guy so bullying was never an issue for me. My younger brother was bullied for a short while by a bunch of brain-dead muppets in my year.

Teachers didn't seem to care, even when I went to several to try and sort it. It never stopped them. So I did the one thing that all big brothers have the right to do. I got one of the main culprits and slammed him backwards against a wall.

Told him it would be head first next time. It did the trick and they never bothered my brother again.

I don't condone violence unless there is absolutely no other way... at the time it was the best way to sort out bullies. These days however kids are more likely to have knives or other weapons on them, making it very dangerous to start on some of them.

None of us are in school any more, but if someone I cared about was being bullied [in school or otherwise] I would have no problem calling the police.

SiriusB
 
Schools are reluctant to tackle bullying as they, in my opinion, simply don't like confrontation.

They are so quick to try to palm it off to the police when that is not always the answer. They must take ownership and deal with it either by themselves or in conjunction with the police.

The police cannot monitor bullying at the same level as the school.
 
It's interesting so see that so many people have been bullied while at school, but there seems to be a real lack of people admitting that they too picked on other children. I often wonder if this is due to children not being able to empathize with those around them. When it happens to them it’s bullying, when they do it, it’s just a bit of fun. Hence people’s perception of events, even at a later date as an adult, is warped.

I too was bullied at school, but I must admit I was also bully. A classic case of trying to divert attention away from oneself by picking on another I guess. When I think of some of the things I did, I really do feel ashamed. I never physically hurt anyone, I used words. Whoever said “sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me”, was quite frankly talking out of their back side. The scars from words can last a life time.

I can look back on how I was bullied and laugh it off now, I only hope those I picked on can do the same. The one plus side I suppose that came out of it was that I learned to laugh at myself, as people find it rather hard to have a go at you when you join in.

When I think of what I did, in the context of what I saw others do around me, I don’t feel I was any different. I’m not using that as an excuse for my actions, as there certainly is none. It just makes me think that many people were at times bullies, they just never realized it.
 
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