Busted relationship/cheating partner

Have no idea what i would do in your situation but kudos to you for trying. You must really love her to give the relationship a second chance. Good luck:)
 
Well I've just read all of this thread and simply can't believe the outcome after everything that has been said.

I really hope I never find myself in a similar position, whether that is someone cheating on me or whether that is me burying my head in the sand after the event in the hope my life can get back to normal.

There's lots more I could say but I won't, apart from good luck and I hope everything turns out ok.
 
lol, no offence, but she is playing you BIG time, and you're falling for it 100%. I hope you don't end up getting hurt too much again dude, I really don't.
 
HITMAN_LEON said:
Working through things, will put more detail when I have time but the way it is we are trying to make a go of things anyone that thinks im not all there for trying well thats your opinion but nothing ventured nothing gained. I want things to be good again if they can be. It will take time and my eyes are wide open no head in the sand if it happens it will, if it dies then so be it but like I said Im trying.
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Good luck, I hope you both find happiness. Will be a long hard few years, but you can work through it if you both really want to.
 
Thanks for the positive fellers and as for the negative thanks for that too, its not a question of all mouth and no trousers its a question of I never wanted to loose her in the first place. I took a long time to come to making the decision to give things a try so it was not like a spur of the moment thing and is well thought out. If things don't work out then thats the way it will be and I already resigned myself to the fact that it won't work out anyhow. So from now on if things go well everything will be bonus and if they don't well it won't be that hard to walk away but like I said its a try, a long shot and if I don't try I wont know.

I can at least say that I gave it my best whatever happens and if there is one thing I am not that is a quitter, I only started this thread to try and get ideas as to how to get the whole truth, I leaned on her a lot in ways she can't handle, she likes to argue and say her piece, I gave her no quater and she broke because she had no outlet no one to shout and scream at. Whenever she was about to raise her voice I walked away and left her stood in her own mess. That broke her having no outlet or target and she finally gave me a chance to try and make things right by telling the truth and stopping the denials. Now she is like she used to be before she left the tracks so to speak and she is petrified im going to leave every time I walk out the door to go some place. I don't mean her to be like that but its a small price she has to pay for what she did.

She knows I can do the business if I need to go and get someone else so she can live with being scared for a while she did it to me and now its come back to haunt her. Only this time im not doing anything like she was to me and I find it quite humourous. Im having a laugh on her behalf I have turned the joke if you can call it that on her. She will realise one day im doing nothing wrong and have done nothing wrong but I won't help her out of that hole she dug herself into some might say im being cruel. One thing I know though is im getting all the attention she has and thats good for me, im not making anything easy for her im making her chase me in a way, if she keeps chasing then things will work out if not they won't, simple as that.
 
Good luck Leon. To err is human, to forgive is divine.

Ignore the ovary punching muppets goading you m8. You know the situation, you make the choices. I'm glad your having a go at it.

One thing I would say however (Take it or leave it) is not to make her feel bad indefinately. If you are going to truly forgive her she should come to the understanding that what happened is in the past and you can both move on. Otherwise the pain of the offence will linger and it will affect BOTH of you. Unforgiveness is like a cancer that eats you up with resentment and bitterness. When you can forgive, then let it go fully, and it will no longer hold any pain for you going forward.

That takes time though, so once again, all the best m8
 
I dont want to come across too offensive but to try and forgive etc after something like this, and then people suggesting its a sign of true love.. well im sorry but 90% of the time thats plain wrong, its because the person who has been cheated on is scared of life alone, and is too weak to make a stand, they are too set in their ways to dare think of life differently.
 
TBH I would start giving all my possessions over to a brother or trusted friend, wait till I was virtually worthless, then file for divorce in an attempt of having her rob me blind in court when it was her that did wrong.

It's more complicated than simply giving your mates your stuff but iv seen it done twice with great results.
 
HITMAN_LEON said:
She knows I can do the business if I need to go and get someone else so she can live with being scared for a while she did it to me and now its come back to haunt her. Only this time im not doing anything like she was to me and I find it quite humourous. Im having a laugh on her behalf I have turned the joke if you can call it that on her. She will realise one day im doing nothing wrong and have done nothing wrong but I won't help her out of that hole she dug herself into some might say im being cruel. One thing I know though is im getting all the attention she has and thats good for me, im not making anything easy for her im making her chase me in a way, if she keeps chasing then things will work out if not they won't, simple as that.
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I honestly struggle to follow some peoples logic... it's strange how peoples minds can work in such different ways!
 
peetee said:
I dont want to come across too offensive but to try and forgive etc after something like this, and then people suggesting its a sign of true love.. well im sorry but 90% of the time thats plain wrong, its because the person who has been cheated on is scared of life alone, and is too weak to make a stand, they are too set in their ways to dare think of life differently.
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Not weak in any sense of the word and not scared of being alone either just plain and simple prepared to take a chance and see what happens.
 
I have read the thread all the way through and even the thread was heavy going.

I have mnuch respect for HITMAN_LEON and I hope whatever happens is ultimately right, whether it works or not. Thinking about it I would also give a second chance because of the investment already made.

Cheating may be repeated (as suggested by some - though from what you have said, I don't think in a heartbeat), but then again, there are stories where people make a mistake (for whatever reason) and never do it again. I hope yours is the latter.

Again, look out for yourself, and I hope one day some trust returns - good luck mate to both of you, as well as your family.
 
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