Child Abuse

locutus12 said:
on my net travels i found a small piece of clarity in answer to that comment that went something like "to have impulses of any nature is what it is to be an animal, to know what impulses to act or not to act on is what it is to be human"

morality and ethics, its the only thing that makes us different from animals, and they are 2 of the greatest gifts we have.
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I definately agree with that dude.
 
cleanbluesky said:
I didn't mean it like that... I was saying that it can be slowly broken...
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I agree with that, same as you can get over a phobia, given enough time and determination you can overcome anything. I have had issues with things; although nowhere near as serious that have been getting to me for 8 months now and will probably for the rest of my life, it is more of a dissability than anything I can describe.

Again my msn is open to anyone who wants to chat, but you may walk away with a copy of BF2, a new PC case or a HiFi Seps system. :p
 
During the mid 80's my wife and I used to look after abused children for about a year. Some of these mites had also been sexually abused. We ended up having councilling and couldn't do it any longer. Thats why I'm such a keyboard warrior now.
 
locutus12 said:
afraid the best ive ever been able to get is a string of councillors, the problem with a counciller is that they wont feed back to you, they cant explain to me why my head tells me that it was my fault even though it wasnt. and quite frankly im too poor for a proper therapist / phsychiatrist and the doctors never seem to be able to offer me anything other than a pack of anti depressants (which i refuse) and yet oh joy of joy... another councillor.. To be honest, its pretty much ruined my life so far.

To simply be alive is not to live.
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thats what i found with my councellor, theyd sit and jus write things, i didnt feel like it was about me at all, i was just another kid with another problem. but it is possible to help yourself to a degree.. i personally believe, and from personal experience have come to realise that at the end of the day, no one but yourself can change the way you think. councellors dont do it, it comes from yourself.
 
Add me to the (growing) list of peeps available for chatting.


As a parent of an autistic child, I have to have extensive training in modern psychological issues. I don't exactly have a degree, but to say that my wife and I have left quite a few "ists" blubbering in thier own incompetence is an understatement.

I am also the child of a father that ruled the house with an iron fist. I won't even BEGIN to say that I was abused, but I definately know the meaning of "tough love"......

I won't give any actual medical advice (ie medication suggestions) but I will dig into any and all resources I have at my disposal to help anyone that needs it.

sylvester_mack @ hotmail.com for my MSN or ov3rclok3r for my YIM. I also have 5305805 for ICQ. They all run simultaneously through Trillian, and my computer is on all the time. So just because I don't immediately answer doesn't meant I won't get the message.
 
dmpoole said:
During the mid 80's my wife and I used to look after abused children for about a year. Some of these mites had also been sexually abused. We ended up having councilling and couldn't do it any longer. Thats why I'm such a keyboard warrior now.
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That's a damn good reason dm. Fair play to you for trying.

@ locutus12:
Sorry to hear that bud. You've always struck me as someone who's got their head screwed on rather than up, I have to say.
 
I agree with you about councillors and social workers etc they are just about useless.
My source is myself being a ward of court from a year old and having phycologists social workers councillors probation officers etc etc etc
I really can't go into my upbringing and past in such a public place but what i can say is that the world is changing its attitude to helping those that need help.
Recently it has been realised that these people are just not making proper contact with those they need to. As always it is Only those that have been through a similar situation that can make Proper contact.
I have recently been approached by the police to get involved with direct intervention at first point of contact.
It seems they recognise my past as some kind of qualification to do this job.
From my point of view i am considering the whole public perception of myself against the good i can do.
I would like to give something back and help which would certainly turn my past completely around and maybe in some small way make it all mean something.

I to open my door/MSN to you and also wish you all the luck in the world. :)
 
My own views are that I am lucky as I have had a good upbringing and so many kids haven't and the suffering they go through is appalling and heartbreaking.

I work / liase with Social Services often and have come across child abuse that is horrific, one where I could have cried when details were given it was so graphic and evil.

A childs innocence must be protected at all costs and I can only express disappointment where suspended sentences are handed out to people who are clearly a danger to children. I will never join the hang them, burn them, shoot them debate as it is a pointless exercise and the tools available by means of protocol, the law and the judiciary are the only ones to be used to effect action. However unpallatable to some, they must be dealt with by the system and hope that appropriate sentencing is done.

There are some people whose evil against children defies belief and really plumbs the depths of depravity and sub-humanism. People such as Robert Black, serving 10 life sentences for 3 murders and numerous abductions and he is linked by MO to several others. Roy Whiting also, who is the ' man ? ' responsible for the death of Sarah Payne. These people, by description of the sentencing judges, are inherent dangers to society and Whiting will never be released and rightly so and Black is eligible for parole in 2029 when he will be 82, in other words it is a fair bet he will die in prison.

Perhaps here I go o/t though.

locutus, I sympathise massively with you and as malc has kindly offered, my e-mail is in trust if you ever want to talk. I have seen happy endings too. :)
 
I too was abused until i was 10 years old. Im 17 now, but the amount of mental damage you go through is horride. I would never ever want anyone to go through it.
 
It's the sheer number of offers of help in this thread to someone off t'internet that makes OcUK forums the place it is.
 
Just to elaborate what Mrs Poole and I used to do with the abused children in our care.

Mrs Poole would have one abused child at a time to look after. The child would be bought in the morning and always by a female. The children were aged anything between 3 and 5 yrs old and all were sexually abused by men but we were never told the details. My small part in all this rehab was to firstly be a face on a picture so the child got used to a mans face. Slowly over the weeks I would gradually be bought into the childs life on my return from work. I'd be a man walking up the driveway and later I'd be a man walking in the house etc. Slowly with time and TLC I'd be part of the childs life and hopefully the child could then start to trust men again. We had about 8 kids in total but it was too upsetting to carry on with. I totally respect those who do this work 24/7.
 
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