Could you live without intercourse?

^TANK^ said:
If you bin someone simply over a low sex drive, then yes that seems a lot like you're using woman purely for sex.
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Not really...

Using a women purely for sex would indicate that 'sex' is the only part of a relationship I am interested in. Which is not even remotely the case.

If it were the case then surely I would be the kind of guy to nip round the girlfriends, sleep with her, then bugger off home or go out with the lads etc....

It is merely accepting that there are differences between two people and moving on rather than living in denial. It's akin to pulling a plaster off quickly. There is far less hurt involved if you are honest and break up with a person if you realise they are not what you're looking for.

Far too many people allow a relationship to turn sour, put up with arguments and unhappiness. Then get married hoping it will solve things.... it doesn't.... Then have children hoping it will bring them together.... It doesn't.... Then after a few more years get divorced leaving a broken home and a huge mess to clean up. Twenty years down the drain and and a huge impact on any children.

Not good enough.

If the differences are substantial and are visible early on, then get out. The girl can move on and you can move on with your head held high knowing that you haven't cheated and have actually done the best thing by the girl herself.

Using somebody would be continuing in the relationship knowing that there was no real future because ultimately those differences will come between you at some point. No matter how good intentioned you are.

^TANK^ said:
Your current girlfriend for example, what would you do if she wasn't up for sex every day? Or her sex drive started to slowly diminish?
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I have been with her long enough now for emotions to become involved. I would not leave her, we would talk it through and probably be able to find the root cause and deal with that.

What you seem to be ignoring is that I'm talking about relationships that were less than 3 months long and have stated so on several occasions in this thread.

It is no different to leaving someone early on because you realise that you have nothing in common or that they are natural moaners etc...
 
Its_Me said:
hmm you missing the point.

There is a reason why Sex is AKA Making love, it is true closeness and intimacy.*
Your fooling yourself if you think you can be as close without it.
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If thats the only way you can feel close to your partner, then I feel very sorry for you. Yes when making love it is very intimate but that is only one of many acts that bond a loving relationship.
 
^TANK^ said:
If thats the only way you can feel close to your partner, then I feel very sorry for you. Yes when making love it is very intimate but that is only one of many acts that bond a loving relationship.
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Its not only me , its the whole Human nature m8.
Unless you know something about human psychology the rest of the world don't :p

Personaly I think your kidding yourself, maybe your just best friends with yours rather then truely love her. Or you just have a low libido. The problem is over the years I have seen relationships fall apart due to it, so maybe get yourself to the Doc's and get your hormones checked out.

I can't keep my hands of my Mrs, after 2kids and over a decade together I still want to get close to her.
We do other stuff too that matters and is nice, don't get me wrong, but nothing better then the coming together (as in joining btw).
 
^TANK^ said:
No mate its called respect and acknowledging there is more to a relationship than just sex, its certainly lacking in this thread ;).
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Just because some people feel that sex is an important part of a relationship does not mean they think it is the only part!

Answer me this... Would you leave your girlfriend if she told you that she never wanted to do anything with you other than have sex. No meals out, no movies together, no conversation, no phonecalls, no marriage in the future, no kids, no holidays etc...etc... just an hour every other night for sex. Would you find that relationship satisfactory in the long term?

I'm guessing not.... Because there would be an important part of the relationship missing.

So how is that any different? A relationship has many aspects.... Why is it okay to leave someone because you argue a lot or have nothing in common, but not okay to leave them if your sex drives are unmatched? It is simply accepting differences and moving on to find someone better suited rather than flogging a dead horse.
 
Well your entitled to your opinion and I am mine and my opinion is you guys think with your penis's to much. I have been with my girlfriend for nine years and we are very much in love, so I must be doing something right.
 
GordyR said:
Answer me this... Would you leave your girlfriend if she told you that she never wanted to do anything with you other than have sex. No meals out, no movies together, no conversation, no phonecalls, no marriage in the future, no kids, no holidays etc...etc... just an hour every other night for sex. Would you find that relationship satisfactory in the long term?
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That isn't a bf/gf relationship ... that is a friends with benefits, and I'd have no problem with it
 
rypt said:
That isn't a bf/gf relationship ... that is a friends with benefits, and I'd have no problem with it
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Exactly my point rypt....

But if you did want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship then you would not be content with 'just' sex now would you?

I relationship without 'the other stuff' is not a bf/gf relationship just as you say.... But in the same vein, a relationship without any physical intimacy is just a friendship and not a bf/gf relationship.

Neither work unless both partners want the same thing. So again I ask.... What is wrong with leaving a partner if you clearly want different things? I've been accused of using women for doing exactly that. I don't understand the logic.
 
you spending too much time 'gaming'.

I would like to hear what your GF has to say on the whole situation, i bet deep down she is not as happy as you would make out dude :(

And its not my 'dick' that makes the choice, its my heart ;)
 
I think in all likelyhood their libidos are just well matched. Which is why it works for them.

I have a high libido so I have searched for (and found) a women with a matching one. How that makes me a 'user' of women is beyond me. :confused:
 
Look guys I've obviously brushed people up the wrong way here and believe it or not that wasn't my intentions, I was just trying to convey my stance on the subject of this thread and a few comments got my back up thats all. I respect that most people that have posted in this thread, see sex as an important part of being intimate with their partners and not being able to do so will diminish your relationships fair enough.
 
Don't think you brushed anyone up the wrong way. Obviously everyone in life is different and as long as YOUR relationship works for you which it clearly does then that is all that matters.
 
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