dating emails : the rules?

[Surfer]

Waiting: How long before you get an email back do you call shenanigans?

1 week

2 weeks?

a month?!

e.g. previous correspondence it has been 2 days max. Then all of a sudden its 5 days. No real reason but shes very sorry.

on end of day 5 with no email back i usually strike them off the list (ie send email saying cheerio). I think its an amazing lack of courtesy and manners.

If you are talking to someone in person or on msn and they suddenly bog off (leave) and return 5 days later saying "ohh sorry bout" that with no explanation would you put up with it?

And this is a general comment but am i the only one annoyed at the lack of manners that "technology" seems to imbue people with. They would not dare be so rude in person but over email or msn etc they dont give a **** ?

 

[Stinky]

'technology' gives an easy way out

 

[Zefan]

/care.

 

[Surfer]

/care for what? technology and how it affects the way people interact? or what? Could you be a bit more lucid?

if its a /care to the thread then arent you just trolling?

 

[Zefan]

I was trying to be funny - you mentioned that people have no manners due to socialising over the internet/using technology.

Sorry

 

[A2Z]

lol you're dating over emails?

 

[Surfer]

I was trying to be funny - you mentioned that people have no manners due to socialising over the internet/using technology.

Sorry

i realised that after i had left work! lol methinks you were being ironic.

 

[Surfer]

lol you're dating over emails?

usual stages in online dating approximately. Depending on the person.

1.wink (or email)
2. email
3. more emails (or blocked/blacklisted )
4. msn/chat
5. phone
6. meet

 

[Tefal]

lol you're dating over emails?

can that be classed as dating

 

[Jambo]

You are taking it too seriously. At the email stage it really doesn't matter. People have lives to lead.

If you want to chat over email then have several on the go at the same time. Don't sit and wait for one person to write back to you.

The key is to get them on the phone as soon as possible. It's a whole different ball game.

 

[Sinque]

Stick your tail in her!

 

[Richdog]

Waiting: How long before you get an email back do you call shenanigans?

1 week

2 weeks?

a month?!

e.g. previous correspondence it has been 2 days max. Then all of a sudden its 5 days. No real reason but shes very sorry.

on end of day 5 with no email back i usually strike them off the list (ie send email saying cheerio). I think its an amazing lack of courtesy and manners.

If you are talking to someone in person or on msn and they suddenly bog off (leave) and return 5 days later saying "ohh sorry bout" that with no explanation would you put up with it?

And this is a general comment but am i the only one annoyed at the lack of manners that "technology" seems to imbue people with. They would not dare be so rude in person but over email or msn etc they dont give a **** ?

Good God are you so neurotic that you are throwing a huge tizz over not having received an email form a girl you've never met for what... 5 days? Remember that while she may think you're nice from what she's seen on the e-dating thing, you're still a faceless internet-man, and she has a real life outside of this (shocking I know) which probably has bigger priorities than yup... you guessed it... emailing you. To summarize: stop being so dramatic ( I was going to say pathetic, but thought that may offend you) and get over yourself, the fact she emailed you back at all shows she's willing to continue the correspondence... that's only if you didn't bombard her with "where's my reply" emails for 5 days, in which case this one is a courtesy reply and you'll never hear from her again, and to be honest I wouldn't blame her if this is how you react over such silly little things.

/toughlove.

 

[Surfer]

You are taking it too seriously. At the email stage it really doesn't matter. People have lives to lead.

If you want to chat over email then have several on the go at the same time. Don't sit and wait for one person to write back to you.

The key is to get them on the phone as soon as possible. It's a whole different ball game.

good advice, cheers.

 

[Surfer]

where's my reply emails

whoops!! should i not have done that?






/kidding!

i'm not -that- neurotic but you're right it doesnt come across good..and ive had my fair share of bunny boilers so fair dos.

 

[Richdog]

*Hugs*

 

[Jotun]

If you are talking to someone in person or on msn and they suddenly bog off (leave) and return 5 days later saying "ohh sorry bout" that with no explanation would you put up with it?

Yeah happens a lot on msn if people randomly get disconnected or have pc/internet problems so I don't tend to think too much of it, likewise if my internet suddenly dies I'll generally go and do something else rather than spend ages trying to log back in again just to say I'm going. This is regarding friends and not dating but I don't think theres a whole world of difference.

 

[Surfer]

i'm wondering - ( i do that a lot ) do you find that kind of behaviour crossing over into Real Life? I mean not being surprised at behaviour considered rude if done in person but regarded as normal if its online/email/msn etc.

What am i blathering about?

You know how there is a line you dont cross? Once you cross that line on a daily basis you find you have subconsciously moved the line further up. i.e. your standards change.

i.e. what was once considered heresy/blasphemy/heinous/just wrong/rude etc is now considered Normal.

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

"How long do you guys wait before calling your babies?"
"Six days. Industry standard." ~ 'Swingers'

 

[Surfer]

basically i was interested if some of you guys had a sortoff "system" for sorting the wheat from the chaff.. (to use a biblical metaphor)

 

[Richdog]

basically i was interested if some of you guys had a sortoff "system" for sorting the wheat from the chaff.. (to use a biblical metaphor)

Surfer, generally people don't have "systems" for this sort of thing... I mean really... common sense, judgement, and some sense of normality generally suffices.