Guess this is more of a get it off my chest and rant etc, but boy I can see why so many stay single. After deciding I didn’t fancy staying single last year or even this year, I proceeded to join an online dating site.
After 8 months of emailing, talking and dating with lots of girls, and acutually thinking I’d found one we both felt that certain spark with, I’m still single. It’s been an emotional rollercoaster, and an epic failure… I’ve had dates with girls that –
Are more man than me
One told me to my face she didn’t like me
Another turned out to a right sulky cow after the second date
I got stood up from one girl, who when txt messaged me a week later asking if I’d still like to go for a drink
Amazingly one girl managed to put on 100lbs from what her profile had told me
One girl cited her career for not wanting to see me anymore..!!
I even had one that turned up with bright red hair, and I mean RED. I thought she was blond, and talked about her love for birds, erm... nothing in common..
Many of them lack the decent manners to email saying thanks, but no thanks when you send them a quick first "hello" email. Many I started to talk with, only for them to stop emailing for no reason given to me – call me old fashioned, but politeness would be nice, something to just say “well I’ve got someone now, or you’re just not coming across as someone I’d like to get to know better”..
After online dating failed, its ironic that in the past few months I’ve been talking to a girl I met at a works function, got my house in order, grew some balls and asked her out. Everything seemed fine. On our last date this weekend, we went bowling. I got lots of signals to say she liked me, comments such as “don’t look at my bum as I throw this bowling ball down” and then stuck it out for me to look, grabbing my arm, wrapping her arms around my neck and planting a quick peck on the lips..!!
Sounds excellent, till the end of the evening, I moved in for a more passionate kiss to which she backed off and just looked like she wanted to slap me… I mean, if you give signals like she was, any male is going to think its game on.!! I’m no rapist, and when a girl plays footsie with you when at the bar and keeps trying to touch you and kissing you in public then I dunno..!! Guess I misread her intentions.
Anyhow, the inevitable conversation followed next day, saying she thinks I’m a nice guy, but not what she’s looking for..!! Hope the next guy is impotent, and is so shy he never makes a move… Must thank her for saying I was good-looking on Saturday, to then going to fairly decent-looking on Sunday. Guess a day can change your sex appeal to someone..!! Never had a problem with girls I’ve kissed in the past, so dunno. Technique must have been a bit ‘off’ that evening..!!
Well suffice to say that’s it, I’m staying single. Save money, saves heartache. What is really odd, is that I now can’t stop thinking about a girl that I’ve only known for a few months and only got passionate with a few times, and ended up getting rejected…
Well, feel better now that’s off my chest. Right, where’s my XBOX360…. lol
The thing is, I really do want to get a gf again, and hopefully get a relationship with someone. Online dating had jaded me, but meeting naturally seems just as bad, even when the spark or eye contact initially seems excellent.....
Anyhow.. sorry everyone, another on of those - single, or relationship issues etc threads again... As I said, just getting it off my chest... single, sucks, but does it?
After 8 months of emailing, talking and dating with lots of girls, and acutually thinking I’d found one we both felt that certain spark with, I’m still single. It’s been an emotional rollercoaster, and an epic failure… I’ve had dates with girls that –
Are more man than me
One told me to my face she didn’t like me
Another turned out to a right sulky cow after the second date
I got stood up from one girl, who when txt messaged me a week later asking if I’d still like to go for a drink
Amazingly one girl managed to put on 100lbs from what her profile had told me
One girl cited her career for not wanting to see me anymore..!!
I even had one that turned up with bright red hair, and I mean RED. I thought she was blond, and talked about her love for birds, erm... nothing in common..
Many of them lack the decent manners to email saying thanks, but no thanks when you send them a quick first "hello" email. Many I started to talk with, only for them to stop emailing for no reason given to me – call me old fashioned, but politeness would be nice, something to just say “well I’ve got someone now, or you’re just not coming across as someone I’d like to get to know better”..
After online dating failed, its ironic that in the past few months I’ve been talking to a girl I met at a works function, got my house in order, grew some balls and asked her out. Everything seemed fine. On our last date this weekend, we went bowling. I got lots of signals to say she liked me, comments such as “don’t look at my bum as I throw this bowling ball down” and then stuck it out for me to look, grabbing my arm, wrapping her arms around my neck and planting a quick peck on the lips..!!
Sounds excellent, till the end of the evening, I moved in for a more passionate kiss to which she backed off and just looked like she wanted to slap me… I mean, if you give signals like she was, any male is going to think its game on.!! I’m no rapist, and when a girl plays footsie with you when at the bar and keeps trying to touch you and kissing you in public then I dunno..!! Guess I misread her intentions.
Anyhow, the inevitable conversation followed next day, saying she thinks I’m a nice guy, but not what she’s looking for..!! Hope the next guy is impotent, and is so shy he never makes a move… Must thank her for saying I was good-looking on Saturday, to then going to fairly decent-looking on Sunday. Guess a day can change your sex appeal to someone..!! Never had a problem with girls I’ve kissed in the past, so dunno. Technique must have been a bit ‘off’ that evening..!!
Well suffice to say that’s it, I’m staying single. Save money, saves heartache. What is really odd, is that I now can’t stop thinking about a girl that I’ve only known for a few months and only got passionate with a few times, and ended up getting rejected…
Well, feel better now that’s off my chest. Right, where’s my XBOX360…. lol
The thing is, I really do want to get a gf again, and hopefully get a relationship with someone. Online dating had jaded me, but meeting naturally seems just as bad, even when the spark or eye contact initially seems excellent.....
Anyhow.. sorry everyone, another on of those - single, or relationship issues etc threads again... As I said, just getting it off my chest... single, sucks, but does it?
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