[FnG]magnolia;12022541 said:Please take this the right way : the reason that you believe point 2 is because of point 1. You have no frame of reference, this is obviously a huge upset to you and therefore I suppose it's logical to think, "Well, that was my one chance and it can't possibly get any better than that."
The good news is that this is rubbish. The bad news is that it may take a while for things to pan out well, as they almost certainly will do. There's probably few people on these boards who haven't had times in their life when they've been in a situation very similar to the one you describe. But things do get better and you will meet new people and some of those will be nice women and - how unexpected! - one or two of those nice women will be pretty keen on you and - even more unexpected! - you're actually pretty keen on one of them. That's how it works.
What stops it from working is if you actively put a stick in the spokes. Examples might include staying in your ex-beloved's spare room, tearing yourself up more and more by being in contact with her and being witness to her struggle to come to terms with things too, and you never moving on. For example, you understand![]()
Yeah I guess that's very true, and thanks for injecting some humour

Re-connect with your old friends you have lost touch with, do all the things which you have been unable to do because you've had to ask permission or compromise, go visit a mate for a weekend on a whim, or go organise a weekend in Dublin, Prague, Amsterdam with a few mates. ..... <snip>
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And screw moving into her spare room! Get a flatshare with similar-minded, single, individuals and have the frickin' time of your life!
I haven't really had to make compromises, I've asked for permission but only out of courtesy, and she never had a problem with anything really. Amsterdam would be a definite no-no, that's where we would probably of gone for our next holiday! Besides, I've already been
