Soldato
I'm 60, a year "free" from 8 years of watching my Mum disappear under 8 years of cruel dementia. And I think about not dying every day. Death isn't the worst thing that can happen to us... though the process of dying can be.
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Soldato
Looking forward to it myself...
Soldato
I'm in my early sixties...
I have one illness that requires 4 injections a day or I die
I have one illness that requires an injection every 3 months or I die
I now have Prostate cancer with a Gleason score of 8, if it's not dealt with I will die
I don't really think about death, life it too short to worry about it
I have one illness that requires 4 injections a day or I die
I have one illness that requires an injection every 3 months or I die
I now have Prostate cancer with a Gleason score of 8, if it's not dealt with I will die
I don't really think about death, life it too short to worry about it
Soldato
i concentrate on the practical aspects of this ,ie i leave my insurance policy details in an obvious place ,sipp details next of kin up to date
Soldato
I think about death often.
It can come at any time, so I just live life to the best I can.
It can come at any time, so I just live life to the best I can.
Caporegime
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I was at my girlfriend's parents yesterday and it hit me in both directions, as went to see her grandma who is around 93, and also her sister's son who is just 9 months.
Life is just too short.
Working until retirement age say 70, then if you're lucky having a few years left to live is just madness to me. Enjoy it while you can.
Life is just too short.
Working until retirement age say 70, then if you're lucky having a few years left to live is just madness to me. Enjoy it while you can.
Having lost both parents (as well as a couple of friends and my last grandparent) this year and currently 50 it does make you think about when my time comes, luckily we've had our will and funeral plan in place for a few years as we don't have any kids no-one will be able to take care of it for us.
Time is short and it certainly isn't a practice run so have to make the most of it while here
Time is short and it certainly isn't a practice run so have to make the most of it while here
Soldato
I know how you feel. Every time someone I know has died, I’ve always hoped in the back of my mind that someone was going to turn around and tell me it was a sick joke, or they were just going to walk into the room. Even after I’ve been to that person’s funeral. I can never get my head around it.
Caporegime
I've come to terms with no longer being, but it's the process of dying that sometimes wakes me up at 4am with existential dread.
Soldato
Yeah being dead don't scare me, though seeing my grandparents go, only 1 was instant, the other 3 drawn out and bleak and now my parents go, both of which were drawn out and not good, its the process that would be the only thing that worries me. No way I go like how my parents did.
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When it happens you won't know, no need to worry about it. Happens to everyone.
I'm not going deep into this thread.
It does scare me. But obviously nothing you can do about it.
My partners mum passed away this year (partner is 31) and it was fairly grim (stage 4 out of the blue, back pain dismissed as backpain). Which has given me horrendous health anxiety. As she has that pain years. And they were well enough off to get private scans (only 375 quid for an mri)
So it's made me think about it again.
I heard her dad saying "we had all these plans".. Hear this oh so much.
In some blue sky thinking ways it's had a positive effect. Trying hard not to waste time. Not to put off till tomorrow what you can do today. But it's been a horrendous year.
You only get one go (unless you're religious) try and make the most of it.
Time goes oh so quickly
It does scare me. But obviously nothing you can do about it.
My partners mum passed away this year (partner is 31) and it was fairly grim (stage 4 out of the blue, back pain dismissed as backpain). Which has given me horrendous health anxiety. As she has that pain years. And they were well enough off to get private scans (only 375 quid for an mri)
So it's made me think about it again.
I heard her dad saying "we had all these plans".. Hear this oh so much.
In some blue sky thinking ways it's had a positive effect. Trying hard not to waste time. Not to put off till tomorrow what you can do today. But it's been a horrendous year.
You only get one go (unless you're religious) try and make the most of it.
Time goes oh so quickly
Soldato
I think this is why the topic is largely avoided by so many people.
There is no answer. So why discuss it? Why think about it? The more we try, the more depressing it gets. Best to just forget it, otherwise we're wasting the short time we have alive, thinking about something that has no solution.
If I go a day or two without thinking about my death or someone close to me, then it is a rare now. I'm 44 and already mentally preparing for the day the phone rings and it's bad news about either one of my parents and or my wife's parents.
We don't have kids. I've never wanted to play god and create a life with no guarantees for the quality of that life and having never found a meaning for my own don't want to force someone else into this position. I feel this was the correct moral choice for me, even though I know it means my own life may be less rich and I'm more likely to be alone at the end.
That is not to say I don't enjoy elements of my life because I know how lucky I am growing up in the Western world. But you look at the pain and suffering and think why would I put someone through this just for them to go through grief and illness and be snuffed out at the end anyway.
Anyway, merry Christmas
We don't have kids. I've never wanted to play god and create a life with no guarantees for the quality of that life and having never found a meaning for my own don't want to force someone else into this position. I feel this was the correct moral choice for me, even though I know it means my own life may be less rich and I'm more likely to be alone at the end.
That is not to say I don't enjoy elements of my life because I know how lucky I am growing up in the Western world. But you look at the pain and suffering and think why would I put someone through this just for them to go through grief and illness and be snuffed out at the end anyway.
Anyway, merry Christmas
All the time, it's scary, but I've unfortunately known a 2 year old die in horrendous circumstances, puts my fear of death etc into perspective when I think about it, she never lived and it was horrendous when she was alive for large parts.
Only time I've really wanted to believe in an afterlife.
I passed out a few years back and had a bizarre experience where I was back where I grew up with my nan etc, seemed to last forever, when I came to I looked at our lass who was in shock/panic mode and thought who are you, where am I, it was so surreal.
Really really felt that I'd lived a lifetime.
So vivid, made dreams look like an 8bit game.
Honestly think it's what people talk about when they have near death experiences, maybe.
So yeah death is scary but you have to think about it, I do, winds our lass up but it helped me cope with people dying as I didn't shun the subject.
Only time I've really wanted to believe in an afterlife.
I passed out a few years back and had a bizarre experience where I was back where I grew up with my nan etc, seemed to last forever, when I came to I looked at our lass who was in shock/panic mode and thought who are you, where am I, it was so surreal.
Really really felt that I'd lived a lifetime.
So vivid, made dreams look like an 8bit game.
Honestly think it's what people talk about when they have near death experiences, maybe.
So yeah death is scary but you have to think about it, I do, winds our lass up but it helped me cope with people dying as I didn't shun the subject.
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Soldato
“I’ve always been afraid of dying, but I think I’m more afraid to live.”
Yes, my dad is nearly 77 and lives alone (my mum died over 30 years ago). I have the horrible fear of him dying suddenly and then only finding out by not being able to get in contact and then going to his house and finding him there. Or maybe someone getting in contact with me to say they haven't seen/heard from him as expected.
As for myself, I've traditionally held a very irrational and selfish view of death, that is based on the universe only existing for me (I can't really explain properly, but basically all that matters is my perception of the universe, so when I'm dead, that ceases to exist). For this reason I didn't think I would ever sacrifice myself for others, but I can see my views mellowing a bit as I've got older, maybe when my life is further progressed I'd give it up to save my kids or something, who knows.
There's definitely an element of trying to put it out of mind, bury one's head in the sand. Because every day is a day closer to death, when I was a child, life seemed very long; but I'm now basically over half way through my life based on typical life expectancy and find it is progressing very rapidly, the years just race by. I find myself pondering whether I should do something more meaningful that just seeing enjoyment, to leave some sort of legacy etc.