Its sad because these people are looking for love but at the same time the red flags must have been waving in front of them constantly and they just wilfully ignored them. At some point you have to have some common sense and realise that at as a middle aged, surly, overweight woman you probably aren't actually attracting a handsome 20 something who has their pick of attractive people their own age. You didn't attract them when you were 30 years younger and you certainly aren't attracting them now. And thats ignoring the other issues of never being able to meet you and wanting money from you.