Depressed?

Try being ugly, have no car and have no job. Then complain! :D

Seriously though... get a hobby.

I've met people through school and stayed friends with some of them, now 3 of their friends are now some of my best friends even though I don't speak to my school mates as much as i'd like to now. Also met a few people I used to work with and kept in contact with them.

Also I know people through two football teams I play for. 11 a side and 5 a side.

And finally i've met people through my photography and now I do the occasional job with them too.

Not saying do all that but seriously, get a hobby.

Even contact some friends you haven't spoke to for ages. If they are truly your friends then it'll be like you've only spoken last week or something.
 
Honestly, mate, that doesn't sound like depression; it sounds like being miserable. They're not the same thing. Being miserable in a bad situation is perfectly normal, you solve it by solving the situation that's causing it.
 
radderfire said:
I suggest going salsa dancing. I have done this recently and have danced with quite a few hot women (some extremely hot). It is perfectly ok to turn up to this alone, lots of people do. Going the first time takes a bit of nerve, but you will quickly feel at home. It does help if you have a bit of rhythm but don't be intimated, they take complete beginners.

Dancing is a great way to socialise, and there is no pressure. You just turn up, have a dance for an hour two and then go home. If you go regularly you might eventually find a mutual attraction with someone, who knows.

If you can't handle going salsa dancing, try some other structured activity where you can meet women, e.g. a badminton club, a book reading club, drama club. This is better than pub/club, as you get to go back regularly to the same place and therefore have more chance of developing proper relationships. However, I do really recommend the salsa dancing as if it's a good club you will meet a lot of different women.

Good luck and rgds
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I was just about to write a post recommending Salsa dancing too. Even if you don't think it's for you, try a couple of lessons anyway. You've got nothing to lose have you? I wasn't sure about it at first, but my first lesson was so much fun, I kept on going! You get to dance with lots of different women and as a bonus, if you can convince a random girl in a club to dance with you (outside of classes), she will be putty in your hands! Women love a man that can dance. It's a great confidence booster.
 
Mailman86 said:
I was just about to write a post recommending Salsa dancing too. Even if you don't think it's for you, try a couple of lessons anyway. You've got nothing to lose have you? I wasn't sure about it at first, but my first lesson was so much fun, I kept on going! You get to dance with lots of different women and as a bonus, if you can convince a random girl in a club to dance with you (outside of classes), she will be putty in your hands! Women love a man that can dance. It's a great confidence booster.
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Ha! My gf once invited me to Salsa dancing, felt a bit awkward as I am rubbish at dancing, and she probably knows it (maybe I'm just paranoid)

Do you think she'd find it quite romantic for me to take her to a salsa class with me at some occassion? :p

Might be a good idea for this year's Valentines.... suggestions? :D

Sorry for hi jacking the thread... since It's already being talked about by someone that's done Salsa Classes, thought I'd just stick it in here :p
 
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sounds like you are being boring... :O call up your mates.. meet them up.. go to pub w/e you got car etc.. why the hell are u not enjoying it? :/ seems like you just sit on the damn pc chair and cry ;) you really need to go and do it...
 
doiks14 said:
Ha! My gf once invited me to Salsa dancing, felt a bit awkward as I am rubbish at dancing, and she probably knows it (maybe I'm just paranoid)

Do you think she'd find it quite romantic for me to take her to a salsa class with me at some occassion? :p

Might be a good idea for this year's Valentines.... suggestions? :D

Sorry for hi jacking the thread... since It's already being talked about by someone that's done Salsa Classes, thought I'd just stick it in here :p
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Honestly everyone is rubbish the first time they have a go. That just makes it more fun! What you could do is take a few lessons without her knowing then surprise her once you are confident enough. :) Once you've learnt to move in time (don't worry, it comes eventually!) and you can dance the basic steps with the correct leads, she will be seriously impressed I bet. From all the women I've spoken to, the biggest complaint they have about men is if they try too many flash moves and lead them (as well as the basics) poorly. Concentrate on the basics and leading them well and you'll be well away.

And to the op. Take up every invitation you can to go do something no matter how rubbish it might sound from the outset. I've met some great people this way just going to things I never normally would have done. :)
 
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Why can't this mate you have come over and stay while your folks are away you could both go out and party, bring some ladies back etc.
 
get yourself off on a backpacking trip to india, see how the other half live, meet new people and get away from the norm over here. you will come back feeling 100% better i assure you
 
Justintime said:
Currently have no love life, all my mates have either moved far, in relationships or just plain not in contact anymore, have like one real friend with whom i'm going to Thailand with in August but thats about it and even he is in a relationship and lives a bit far but still we talk almost daily. I spent the last 2 years or so with my ex but am currently living back home and it feels so soul wrenching sometimes... especially at 27 , but i really want to save for a downpayment on a mortgage and renting will not allow that.

I've got a decent job, car etc.. but don't go out anywhere due to having no available mates and i find it hard to go it alone, i'm decent looking and have even tried online dating, i get interest but have actually not met anyone in real life yet. I'm kind of extremely shy as well, but once i know someone i'm very open.

Just hit me today as my parents are leaving for 3 weeks hols tomorrow, even though i'm at work most days.. its going to be a miserable time..:(
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Almost the same as me but I’m unemployed and when it come to looks I’m not exactly turning any heads.

So i say I’ve got more to be depressed about than you. :(
 
I am not happy also, no friends (only had friends I saw in school, that was a long time ago got out in '97), live in a dump of a town in the middle of nowhere, no people here like me in any way, no GF now or ever. Moving very soon (I hope). I thought about killing myself more then once. Be so easy, I depend on a pacemaker, so I can just screw that up somehow. Just detaching the wire to my heart would end this P.O.S. life I have!!!
 
Edward78 said:
I am not happy also, no friends (only had friends I saw in school, that was a long time ago got out in '97), live in a dump of a town in the middle of nowhere, no people here like me in any way, no GF now or ever. Moving very soon (I hope). I thought about killing myself more then once. Be so easy, I depend on a pacemaker, so I can just screw that up somehow. Just detaching the wire to my heart would end this P.O.S. life I have!!!
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Wow that is quite some statement.

Isnt there anythink you can do?
 
Edward78 said:
I am not happy also, no friends (only had friends I saw in school, that was a long time ago got out in '97), live in a dump of a town in the middle of nowhere, no people here like me in any way, no GF now or ever. Moving very soon (I hope). I thought about killing myself more then once. Be so easy, I depend on a pacemaker, so I can just screw that up somehow. Just detaching the wire to my heart would end this P.O.S. life I have!!!
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Mate.. as bad as i can get i don't think thats the answer to your problems. Really hope you're kidding.



I'll look into that salsa thing, going to the pub later tonight with another mate as i shouted him up and hes free. Yes i agree, i really need to get out more :)
 
Edward78 said:
I am not happy also, no friends (only had friends I saw in school, that was a long time ago got out in '97), live in a dump of a town in the middle of nowhere, no people here like me in any way, no GF now or ever. Moving very soon (I hope). I thought about killing myself more then once. Be so easy, I depend on a pacemaker, so I can just screw that up somehow. Just detaching the wire to my heart would end this P.O.S. life I have!!!
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that sounds much worse... dare i say you need to get out and find people who like the same stuff as you.. or find some hobby.. see what you like as long as you got something to do you basically forget all the things that are on your mind... if you are getting no action in your life you just start thinking too much and everything just gets complicating.. i was in a similar situation but then i just pushed my self out of it..
 
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