depression

People don't understand if they haven't had it that's what I found

I never wanted to talk about it when it was affecting me but when it isn't I like to

I wonder if it is linked to me not wanting to go out much and finding situations that are social around people I only know vaguely very awkward.. Even though it isn't affecting me directly
I'm fine with good friends but I have also started a new job and just can't put myself out there,
For me I worry (key word) about inconveniencing others, as in
"They don't really want me there, I'll just not go"

I've never been good at getting into existing friendship circles actually now I think about it
 
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d_brennen said:
OTOH I think pussy footing about people with depression is counter productive. I'm no head doctor or anything, mind.
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Depends. I've never known anyone to 'man-up' and have depression go away.

OTOH, being straight to the point really is what some people need to help themselves see through the fog. 'Manning-up' in such a sense could be seen as a form of CBT which should in theory eventually help. But telling someone to 'man-up' in the typical lack-of-compassion sense, really won't help. It just causes the sufferer to dig a deeper hole to hide away in.
 
al4x said:
People don't understand if they haven't had it that's what I found

I never wanted to talk about it when it was affecting me but when it isn't I like to

I wonder if it is linked to me not wanting to go out much and finding situations that are social around people I only know vaguely very awkward
I'm fine with good friends but I have also started a new job and just can't put myself out there
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Anxiety and depression are very closely related, yes.
 
al4x said:
People don't understand if they haven't had it that's what I found

I never wanted to talk about it when it was affecting me but when it isn't I like to

I wonder if it is linked to me not wanting to go out much and finding situations that are social around people I only know vaguely very awkward.. Even though it isn't affecting me directly
I'm fine with good friends but I have also started a new job and just can't put myself out there,
For me I worry (key word) about inconveniencing others, as in
They don't really want me there, I'll just not
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I used to be the same, I'm guessing you're quite young? You end up growing out of what others think and learn to just be social around strangers unless you genuinely have something like social anxiety.

For me it was difficult as I'm in a company where most people are older and have families and I found it very hard creating small talk with people who had very little in common, in the end I realised I was thinking about it too much.
 
I suffer from Depression and Anxiety a fair bit. My boss 'knows' I've been through phases of being 'down' but I've never sought clinical diagnosis to get it confirmed, partly through fear of the medication and also the damage it could do to my career prospects...

These two blog posts sum up the 'journey' of depression better than anything else I've ever seen:

Part 1
Part 2

Speaking personally, while I do suffer somewhat from social anxiety, lack of self-confidence and low-self-esteem, they pale into insignificance compared to feelings of loneliness and abandonment. That is, I would FAR rather be in the company of friends than on my own, and would make a concerted effort to be sociable and upbeat when with them as the feelings when at home, alone in your room are far worse - better to keep busy. Unfortunately, when you open up about it to certain friends, they - whether deliberately or subconsciously - start being more and more distant :(
 
I was unemployed for 15 months then I got a new job, I was super happy for short time soon after I had a massive bout of depression, kept it to myself did'nt tell anyone apart from my doctor. I especially didn't tell anyone the details of what I was depressed over. It rock me to my core and it was the darkest days of my life.

There was times i just wanted to run out of where I was just "end it all" as I suffering that much and could'nt cope. I did mention it to my boss he seems surprised as i kept it to myself. Only told one family member and one of my work mates.

Two and a half years later I'm still on medication and it only in the past couple of months I've started to feel my old self. I did try and get myself off medication about 6 months ago but I quickly got "bad" again.

I wish I felt able to talk to someone more even if it was a shrink (which are VERY expensive in oxford) as I'm sure my road to recovery wouldn't be so drawn out.

I would'nt wish depression on anyone, even on a enemy.

Being away from home with not friends of girlfriend did not help at all as well
 
4T5 said:
If anybody wants a serious discussion the SC is >>>> that way.

Also I'm not sure whether he is genuine or just promoting his website.
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This. It always pays to err on the side of caution, so I'm going to go with promoting website.
 
Suarez7 said:
I used to be the same, I'm guessing you're quite young? You end up growing out of what others think and learn to just be social around strangers unless you genuinely have something like social anxiety.

For me it was difficult as I'm in a company where most people are older and have families and I found it very hard creating small talk with people who had very little in common, in the end I realised I was thinking about it too much.
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im not that young but fell quite young in life if that makes sense..my last job everyone was very young and acted young..in a nice fun way..but this new job is much more professional and i dont feel i fit socially

the girls are very dressy, wine and fashion sort of girls and all seem older than what they are..not the sort of people i usually get on with... the guys seem quite fashionable too, again, not me

i get on with groups where the gender gap is small, the girls arent to girly, and the guys arent too macho/showy. and tbh i have always got on with girls..grown up with sisters and mum with a useless bio dad and step dad who although generous etc was 'difficult

ive moved for jobs quite a bit (hopefully not anymore) so lost all my old friends, im not too bothered that i spend most of my time in though
 
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Depression's no joke.

I won't write a lengthy post about it but all I'll say is that self-medication is not the answer.
 
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